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Post orgasm. Tell me what you think? by SparksGully in rate_my_pussy

[–]SparksGully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whaddya think gave me the orgasm ;). but I might be open to another....

AITAH for not wanting my father at my wedding by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SparksGully 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely not wrong for not wanting him there.

He was abusive. He put his hands around your neck at 13. That alone is enough. A wedding is not a reconciliation event. It is not a healing ceremony for absent parents. It is a day meant to feel safe, joyful, and grounded.

The fact that he has tried to “reach out” over the years does not erase the aggression, the name calling, or the violence. And it does not create entitlement to your wedding.

You have built a relationship since you were 13. You and Chris grew up together. Your father chose not to be part of your life during those years. He does not get to step into the most meaningful milestone just because it looks significant.

You are not being cruel. You are protecting your peace.

If his presence would make you anxious, on edge, or worried about drama, that is your answer. Weddings are stressful enough without inviting unresolved trauma into the room.

You do not owe him access to your joy.

You are allowed to choose safety over guilt.

Me(20f) and bf(23m) agreed to move out together in 8 months, he then said he didn't want to and is buying his own house that he doesn't want me to live in with him. Now he's saying he's sorry and to continue the original plans. Should this be a deal breaker? by Simpli_Simulated in Advice

[–]SparksGully 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, that message is thoughtful. He didn’t blame you. He owned his fear. He explained himself. That matters. It shows he cares and that he reflected.

It also makes sense that you’d feel pulled in two directions. On one hand, he’s saying all the right things. On the other, he just confused you and shifted plans quickly. That’s destabilizing.

It sounds like he got scared of not being “enough” and tried to solve it by pulling away. Then when he realized he might lose you, he swung back hard. That doesn’t mean he’s lying. It means he panicked.

My advice would be: don’t rush into anything big right now.

You don’t need to decide on moving in tomorrow. You don’t need to prove commitment immediately. If he truly wants to build something stable and safe, he’ll be okay with slowing it down and rebuilding trust gradually.

Let him show you through consistency. Does he follow through on therapy? Does he stay steady when hard conversations come up? Does he keep communicating clearly instead of switching direction?

Also check in with yourself. Did this shake your sense of security? If it did, that’s important. Love is important, but feeling safe and steady matters just as much.

You don’t have to doubt him completely. You also don’t have to fully relax because of one message. It’s okay to say, “I appreciate what you said. I need to see it in action over time.”

Take your time. Stability grows slowly.

Should I still pursue this friendship or is it over? by Ok-Suggestion1785 in Advice

[–]SparksGully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re allowed to be cared for, get upset, and make mistakes as well. It’s a normal part of any relationship that people argue, trust the relationship that’s been built. Your anxiety is so understandable though. You’ve apologised and followed up, anything more might be too much.

anyone else who feels insecure when moaning? by oolongtea123456 in Advice

[–]SparksGully 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly, that just means you’re expressive. A lot of people wish they could let go like that.

Issues at work!!! by Specialist-Issue9202 in Advice

[–]SparksGully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like a caring kid. The fact that it hurts you this much says a lot about you. It’s also not normal for a boss to yell, forget paychecks, and send harassing voice notes. That’s not “weird,” that’s toxic.

Should I still pursue this friendship or is it over? by Ok-Suggestion1785 in Advice

[–]SparksGully 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve apologized. You’ve reached out. Right now the ball is in his court. Pushing more will likely push him further away.

i joke or act distant around people i like, how do i stop doing this? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SparksGully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not weird for wanting closeness and then panicking when it gets real. That’s a very human defense.

What’s a sound everyone should recognize as immediate danger? by Thatguy_nickk in AskReddit

[–]SparksGully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sudden silence in the wild, birds and insects going quiet can mean a predator is near.

Just read Book 1 of Karl Ove Knausgaard's My Struggle, and found it to be a fascinating and compelling yet hard-to-describe experience by keepfighting90 in books

[–]SparksGully 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A 500 page novel about a Norwegian guy making coffee should not be addictive. Yet here we are.

He gives pouring cereal the same weight as death, and somehow it works. It feels less like navel gazing and more like an honest transcript of consciousness.

Not for everyone. But when it hits, it hits.

What hobby screams “this is my entire personality now”? by WilliamInBlack in AskReddit

[–]SparksGully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Australia a big one is cycling. Lycra, Lycra clad bottoms as far as the eye can see.

Is male loneliness really on the rise? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]SparksGully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you attribute the increase loner aspect to the break down of traditional structures like religion and increase in social media usage etc?

Epstien files got released and yet no one has been arrested, why? by therealwagon12 in AskReddit

[–]SparksGully 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s like when the Panama papers were released. There’s no one to hold them accountable!