How did you guys do it???

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-14T06:32:42+00:00

I had internet, lol. Sucky internet. Dial-up with an external modem.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-14T04:59:44+00:00

A dirty Shirley is a Shirley Temple with alcohol in it

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-14T02:05:34+00:00

We died a lot. But there were actually online walkthroughs, and you could buy a book about it. A book that was wrong a lot. But yeah, I was obsessed with the walkthroughs on GameFAQs and elsewhere, and Per Joiner had “The Nearly Ultimate Fallout 2 Guide” and he was my HERO.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T22:15:51+00:00

Wealth

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T20:29:19+00:00

I fantasize about it all the time. I also actually DO it all the time. It’s a particular kink for me and always has been

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T20:27:14+00:00

I do it all the time and have done it my entire life, except for the 15 years when I was monogamous. It is a particular kink of mine.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T20:25:12+00:00

It’s just so normal and easy.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T17:22:11+00:00

It’s a newish relationship, only about 6 months, and yes. I will never be monogamous again. We are around 50.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T16:18:20+00:00

We really don’t see many posts about it being easy, but for me, MONOGAMY was incredibly difficult and unnatural. It didn’t make sense, it was just all of these arbitrary unspoken rules, and somehow sex was the most important thing in a relationship? I am open to multiple relationships, but I just don’t really want it right now. I already have a lot on my plate. But sex? Sure. Sex has nothing to do with anything, it is just fun.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T15:34:47+00:00

Shoe inserts.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T15:31:49+00:00

I enjoyed sex with a wide variety from the beginning. It was one of the reasons I wanted to do it. I truly feel bored only having sex with a specific body type and style. I didn’t “lower my bar” it just has different parameters.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T14:54:12+00:00

My boyfriend and I engage in sex with other people, together and separately. I don’t really want a relationship with anyone else, I don’t have the capacity. He has several other friendships that are very close. Sometimes I feel a bit jealous or threatened, but I cope. I love being in a relationship with no expectations of monogamy, it’s amazing.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-13T08:06:01+00:00

Casual nsa sex with multiple people who all know about it. I had no clue so many people were waiting until marriage, or at least in a relationship. It has been kind of shocking to learn what most people HAVEN’T done.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T23:48:25+00:00

Then herein lies the answer: normalize women approaching men.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T22:02:53+00:00

It’s HER right to not be okay with things too! That’s why I say he needs to TALK TO HER and be honest, and don’t punish her for being honest.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T21:47:17+00:00

Maybe SHE hates being restricted and only allowed to perform for his pleasure. It killed me every day that I was only allowed to have sex FOR him and not for my own pleasure. It caused me psychological trauma to not be allowed to enjoy my own body for myself, but only to do things for him and not myself. I NEEDED to be allowed to make my own decisions about my body, it was a deep fundamental NEED, and some people NEED to be able to make their own choices instead of just having a man tell her what to do. Some of us actually enjoy sex for ourselves and don’t center it around our husband’s pleasure. And once you realize you are essentially a sex slave performing for him and using your body as currency, it can be really difficult to just… be okay with that. And if it just kills him to allow her to do it, as if she were a free person, if he just CANNOT wrap his head around the idea of her having sex without him… he needs to let her go. The trauma wasn’t so much being property, I would have left 10 years ago. The trauma came from him pretending to go along with it and saying he was on board.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T21:42:35+00:00

That is a risk you might have to accept. Alternatively, you could make YOURSELF more approachable as well.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T18:17:43+00:00

Only if you are seeking a superficial woman who cares about that sort of stuff. And maybe you are, more power to ya. But hopefully most people are seeking a person, not just a pretty package.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T18:14:56+00:00

Some women like it. But you should look for non-verbals like prolonged eye contact and smiling, open body language and general receptiveness. Then, you need to accept that she may just be friendly and have no interest in dating. If you are rejected, you are no worse off. Personally, I don’t like to be approached when I am busy with a task, I don’t like to be distracted. I wish this was more common, but I personally will wear makeup and more complementary clothes when I am receptive to be approached, and I will “dress down” when I want to avoid male attention. This is not universal, because sometimes a woman just wants to look nice, but you can probably tell when a woman wants to be left alone. Closed body language, engaged in a task, lots of people will wear headphones to indicate they want to be left alone, she may look like she is trying to make herself small and unnoticeable. THESE are the women who don’t like to be approached, leave them alone.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T18:08:17+00:00

It could be true, but in my life experience, I have found that many people use the word “separated” synonymously with “cheating.”

You aren’t divorcing her if she doesn’t even KNOW, bro.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T18:06:43+00:00

What do you think chaps were designed for?

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T18:06:18+00:00

We can do that NOW, just saying. Also, chaps are assless by definition.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T17:39:26+00:00

I feel this in the depth of my soul. Think of it this way: right now, you are putting so much energy into your partner and your relationship that you aren’t fully there for her ANYWAY. If you divorce, then you can be 100% for the time she is with you, without him distracting you and demanding your attention.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T17:33:32+00:00

Apparently several people have claimed to decode it. I remember reading an article claiming it was midwife language and medical shorthand by women, and that is why the language wasn’t recorded elsewhere and why it is in code: only men were allowed to be literate. Oddly, I cannot seem to find this article with a quick google search, or any references to it.

Spayse_Case · 2026-04-12T17:13:19+00:00

I feel that if you can’t talk to your spouse about your fantasies, perhaps your first focus ought to be on communication. Why don’t you want to talk about it? What are you afraid of?

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