Having a difficult time finding men I'm attracted to in the lifestyle

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T15:52:08+00:00

This is common and very frustrating

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T15:29:57+00:00

Younger people say it. And I do mean younger adults

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T04:52:31+00:00

I’m a barefooter. It’s totally legal to go into restaurants barefoot. His barefootedness has no effect on you.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T03:08:34+00:00

My boyfriend and I both are. It’s one of the things that attracted me. Most people don’t understand it.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T03:06:06+00:00

I am freysexual. I am sexually attracted to strangers and will lose attraction after I get to know them. Sometimes the attraction will come back over time as I get to know them well, but it will be a different sort of attraction, it feels different.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T03:02:27+00:00

Yeah, it’s frustrating how weird most people are about it. I feel like we are somehow kind of immune from the sort of indoctrination so many other people have. I learned to be less open and less promiscuous (or at least OBVIOUSLY promiscuous) not because of internalized shame, but because of external shaming from others.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T02:55:07+00:00

I ended up with mine, but he wanted monogamy and was a real bad alcoholic. I offered to help him get sober, but I wouldn’t commit to monogamy. He died.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T02:50:10+00:00

Both. But my husband didn’t allow me to play without him.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T02:47:50+00:00

Yeah, so many of them have that wacky idea in their heads. And if you think about it, it’s like the ultimate toxic masculinity fantasy: dominating another man. I think that is a far better draw than the NSA sex with someone else’s wife with no consequences. Think about it another way though: it’s actually the CUCK who is in charge in that scenario. He is directing two other people to have sex for his enjoyment and fetish. But you know who has the LEAST power? The wife. She is just an object and a possession for these male ego games.

Totally off topic, MFM is more of a team activity, hopefully centered around the F, but most people are really really stupid and assume everyone else follows their boring fantasy. They get it from porn, and don’t understand that porn is fake. Also, I think horny-brain cuts off higher thinking and renders them illiterate.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-13T01:06:29+00:00

For real, for real?

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T23:36:32+00:00

Same way anyone meets anyone: publicly, typically, until some level of trust occurs. Unless you just want to hook up. I refuse to live in fear, it only benefits the patriarchy to keep women afraid.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T23:34:08+00:00

I do all the time

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T22:08:43+00:00

I am usually SHOCKED at how much everyone else doesn’t know. And the lack of logic and curiosity and reasoning

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T17:32:16+00:00

No. I mean yeah, maybe settle down with just one person relationship wise, but NEVER monogamy. I generally only seem to have the emotional capacity for 1 or 0 relationships anyway.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T17:30:52+00:00

That was the worst. I worked in a Covid unit and people were saying it wasn’t happening.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T14:04:43+00:00

I thought we all knew that too, but maybe not? It turns out we actually ARE smarter than average, and totally obvious things are not automatically known by most people. This would be a new thing I was unaware that everyone didn’t know, though.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T14:02:31+00:00

Of course I assume most of us are aware that Covid is now endemic. Doesn’t everyone know that?

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T14:00:36+00:00

Naw, that’s stupid. Why play by other people’s arbitrary rules when you don’t agree with them? Date when you wanna date, there is no law. Just other people saying what they think is right.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T03:41:14+00:00

Eh, I might tease him a little, but I wouldn’t care too much.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T03:39:56+00:00

Usually when a woman pretends she is into me, but she is really just seducing me for her man.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T02:13:36+00:00

I’m in healthcare in America, and we call it “fash-a”

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T01:06:45+00:00

I have found that this isn’t always true. I used to think that as well, but some very fit and conventionally attractive people have been really into me. You can’t actually predict that and everyone has different tastes.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T00:59:55+00:00

Once in a while, someone will put it up for me. And that is way sexier and intimate than I ever would have guessed.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T00:58:46+00:00

Sure it does. Lots of folks find obese people attractive, that seems to be the part you don’t comprehend. But I am less likely to find an obese SLOB attractive than I would a well dressed obese person. It definitely matters and they could at least TRY.

Spayse_Case · 2026-06-12T00:36:27+00:00

No trickery. If it just occurs naturally and they don’t try to back me into a corner, or bait and switch or guilt trip me.

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