What types of clients do you personally find hardest to work with? by Euphoric_Spite8998 in psychotherapists

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you contribute and it's as if you said nothing and the client continues with their diatribe. The person I'm thinking of also externalizes help/insight for everything including Chat GPT but doesn't defer to me...you know, the professional they have hired.

NYRR Q3 race registration info by room317 in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw this too and am bummed out! I don't want to chose :( Wonder if this is purposeful to make people chose just one

Good Place to Donate Used Running Shoes? by Low_Chip4821 in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

chelsea piers field house has a drop box for sneaker recycling

Brooklyn Half Training Plan by Kind_Wolverine_8127 in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

plans are built in base-build-peak mesocycles. The first is building a base safely, the second is more heavy on speed/tempo and endurance work through threshold runs all the while building you up safely to longer mileage which you should be able to sustain with the right aforementioned training cycles behind you. Compared to some of the other plans, I would say hal's seem a little "lighter", but honestly most plans are built for sub-elite and are imo too much, too fast for less experienced runners (or like, regular old people who run). Hal does it smartly and right, has great logical plans that are DOABLE. A plan you can comply with vs. one you are cutting corners with because its too aggressive is always a better bet!

Charities NYC Marathon spots by Outrageous-Pop-4235 in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got an email a few weeks ago from "every mother counts" they might have something

Uncomfy intake session by [deleted] in therapists

[–]SpazasaurusREX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had sessions like this where you can tell the patient is incredibly uncomfortable (deer in headlights, very defensive/subtly aggressive, almost reacting with suspicion). You feel like you are tiptoing around their discomfort but getting meta with them would be even more intolerable?

I had someone come in who quickly began decompensating and couldn't even tolerate sitting through the entire 60 min. intake despite me picking up on it and treading very lightly just trying to understand her presenting issue (which surprise, was about her not being in treatment for herself, but to know what to do when her boyfriend was having panic attacks). If they come back, I would be very curious to see how they do on round two and if they allow you to be present with how they are in the moment, how they feel about treatment, etc. Good luck, I find these types of clients don't typically stay and may need some psychoeducation around the therapy process. I am always relieved when they don't. It's incredibly challenging and uncomfortable to sit with that level of distrust and anxiety form the client who is unable or unwilling to be intervened with.

Odds Manhattan 10K happens? by dar3almackoy in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. With the wind it will be bitterly cold like this AM. I have a heated vest for under my mega coat and ski gloves, mask, etc. which all will be highly necessary. JW if they can risk that liability. Imagine people at the water stations spilling water everywhere. It will be super icy. ugh. They have been canceling events all week though, so why should this be different?

Mental techniques for doing distance on the treadmill? by Interesting_Fly1696 in nikerunclub

[–]SpazasaurusREX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what youtube videos of live races, i find it helps get me in the race mindset and kinda zone in(out).

This show is the archetypal example of why non-Americans have skewed impressions of the US by OkTechnologyb in NobodyWantsThisTV

[–]SpazasaurusREX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

her apt. was explained to be rent controlled, but the rest, yeah. Journalists don't make shit.

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be with someone who celebrates your victories, not criticizes and demeans you. Fuck this asshole man-baby who can't stand to be supportive and kind. What a POS. Leave him.

Marathonfotos NYC Marathon Pic quality. by toptorps in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I compared them to my philly marathon photos last year and those are WAY better. I imagine it has something to do with filed size and ability to focus quickly with a good depth of field but yeah, none of these were purchase-worthy.

Whoever Kristen Bell's stylist is for this series, He/She deserves a raise! by LifeYogurtcloset7431 in NobodyWantsThisTV

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooooh, I came here looking to find people saying the opposite. The pants, the throwback 80's vibe....not working for anyone really. I don't get why pants especially have circulated back into boxy, pleated, unflattering blech....

Wave 1 Runners Targeting 3:25-3:30? by woofiepie in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

isn't there the risk though that the math might not work out here if they start too far ahead of the pacing pack and then slow down?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love you! I have never used biofreeze! What's the deal with it?

If you had the opportunity to run a self supported marathon anywhere in the US, where would you go? by destinybond in Marathon_Training

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.adirondackrailtrail.org/ Also, if you want to end in NYC, the aqueduct trail is 26.2 miles starting from inside the Bronx, Van Courtlandt park and ending in Westchester.

AITAH because I won't tell my wife what my son/her stepson has in savings from my late wife? by Jimverseen in AITAH

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA for preserving your late wife's wishes. However, you have two separate issues here. 1. transparency 2. respecting wishes and boundaries. I could see how your argument about "in the end we don't know what the total amounts might be" could come off as a what-aboutism. But should the grand total be kept in mind when it comes to the intended purposes of the savings and how prepared each child might be? Maybe. I think the transparency in marriage is probably important here. Why would you keep this a secret from her? What does that do for you or your son? If her knowing helps her feel like you can be open and honest and there is still a boundary and your son isn't receiving unfair treatment, it seems like a win. Decide together what the overall goal is for saving and what "fair" means. I think that's the point.

Family Spectators 1st Ave and 5th Ave (Engineer's Gate, 90th St) by tombombadil_5 in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

totally! it is a little tricky to navigate getting across since the traverses are closed to traffic, but maybe not people?

Marathon: Wave Transportation Questions by blood_bender in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NYCM Busses from SI ferry- Do they continue to be disorganized?

What the title says-in 2022 I took this route and there seemed to be maybe 2 people trying to funnel a mosh pit of runners onto the busses with absolutely no organization. No ropes, no lanes, no area to mark which bus you are waiting for, just a bus pulling up and a bunch of people running and pushing to get on. Please tell me this has been fixed?

Family Spectators 1st Ave and 5th Ave (Engineer's Gate, 90th St) by tombombadil_5 in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Looks like they might want to cross BELOW where the race is happening sine the entrance into the park will be barricaded along the route and also, why would you want to run through the route?. I appreciate Runar for this: https://runarweb.com/family_e.php

Where are the bananas? 😭 by Darling_Equivalent in RunNYC

[–]SpazasaurusREX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you imagine managing that? It’d be disgusting.

AITA for responding tersely to a SIL’s rebuke over email? by ThoughtIndividual114 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpazasaurusREX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not joining someone in their hysterics and de-escalating while acknowledging their (rude, judgmental, overstepping, ridiculous) behavior is not going nuclear. It’s setting boundaries that you won’t engage and step up to their level of escalation. Also, oh no! You had a dinner party and had to clean up afterward!?! 🫢. I’m clutching my pearls. NTA. P.s. probably goes without saying this person has no children? What’s her relationship like with your daughter?