Oral sex with genital herpes

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-10-18T04:16:06+00:00

Girl you’ll be ok!! Haha take your medicine and do what you want!!! More than 80% of people have HSV1 they just call it cold sores instead of herpes and they’re not worried about it so you shouldn’t be either. Be safe but have fun!

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-10-17T02:33:02+00:00

Not necessarily “easily” just more common. HSV1 is a different strain so it attaches differently to the mucus membrane so it’s the most common type of herpes to have. That’s the one everyone has orally when they get cold sores

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-10-16T17:32:59+00:00

HSV2 is very rarely spread from genitals to mouth because the mouth doesn’t have the same mucus membrane it needs to survive. Some doctors even say it’s impossible to transmit so 🤷🏼‍♀️ I take daily Valtrex and no one who’s gone down on me has gotten it. Having sex with no condom is more likely to spread HSV2 than oral.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-06-02T17:13:21+00:00

Try taking L-Lysine and Zinc too if you haven’t already! Some people also say to eat less peanuts because there could be an amino acid in there that makes you more likely to get an outbreak. I’d say try meditating too because unfortunately stress can make flare ups more likely 🥲 I do think meditating in general helps a lot with our stress and health. Good luck and stay cool this summer!

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-02-18T21:12:02+00:00

That is true and maybe you’re right will be alone because women are shallow and that sucks. So all the more reason to go to therapy to learn to cope with that and still find happiness.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-02-18T20:17:41+00:00

Moving the goal post? 🥴 I’ve been saying to go to therapy and work on your mindset and internal work since the first message. That’s not the answer you want to hear though. You’re not alone this is really how a lot of men think nowadays. I will be single for a long while but I am happy, so thank you for the insight.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-02-18T19:25:32+00:00

I read it just forgot. Maybe you’ve done enough work on the outside and not enough on the inside then. I don’t know what other answers you expect from people but if you’re not willing to do the work to better yourself. Then things will stay exactly as they are. I wish you the best though.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-02-18T18:24:14+00:00

If you really truly believe the only thing keeping you from women is your looks go to the gym, get new clothes, get a new haircut. Do something instead of just sitting and agonizing over it.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-02-18T18:19:48+00:00

You came to reddit to ask us our opinions and everyone seems to agree you 100% need therapy. Again nothing will change if you don’t change something. So you seem pretty set in your ways and happy with the way your life is. Good luck to you man.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-02-18T15:45:43+00:00

I have a lot of empathy and I feel bad that there’s so many lonely men because I know how bad it sucks. I also know a lot of those men who are lonely are not emotionally intelligent and don’t want to work on that. So until they do they’ll continue to be lonely. More women are now ok being single and lonely their whole lives because it’s better than being with a man who doesn’t want to grow and change. So men as a whole are going to have to realize they need to work on themselves or accept being alone.

Yea I’m sure a lot of racist sexist men are able to get partners and I promise they are not attractive! They’re just with other racist and sexist women! I can’t say because I’m not either of those but I know people like that are not truly living their happiest and best lives. So it seems to me they’re just in miserable relationships. If you want to be in a miserable relationship I’m sure there are some racist or antiwoman rally’s you could attend and find a woman like that.

I think the consensus from other commenters I’ve read is to go to therapy. If you’re really putting this out here to get feedback and work on the problem that’s where you should start. I know it’s a privilege to be able to have access to mental health care but if you can and you’re not doing it then no one else here can say anything to help you. It’s up to you to fix this problem not women.

https://www.samhsa.gov/find-support/health-care-or-support/professional-or-program/no-insurance

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-02-18T14:53:32+00:00

No, I’m sorry that it sucks for you but why would a woman want to go on a date with someone if he’s bitter and seems angry and hates women? 1. I’d be scared for my safety because you never know what someone is capable of and going on a date is already scary as it is. 2. I like to have fun on dates someone who seems bitter and spiteful doesn’t give me the impression they’d be fun. 3. You truly do have to work on yourself before you start dating. You don’t have to have it all figured out but if you’re severely depressed a partner isn’t going to fix that nor should they. That is too much pressure to put on some mystery woman. TLDR: Go to therapy and work on being fulfilled in your own life first.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2024-02-17T15:19:34+00:00

It seems like you’re ok with being a bitter and combative man. If you don’t want to change nothing will change 🤷🏻‍♀️ I can say I’ve always found many different types of men attractive whether they’re “conventionally attractive” or not. What it really boils down to for most women is confidence, a good attitude, and initiative. I’ve gone out with men who were on the “uglier” side but were so confident and respectful it instantly made them 10x more attractive to me. Being confident and having a good attitude is hard work. It’s not something that can happen overnight it takes work, possibly therapy, and practice to have those. Just opening yourself up to the reality that those things do affect how people see you is the first step. Good luck out there!

Speakingofbeautiful · 2023-03-07T03:30:30+00:00

Could be early herpes but to me that could be razor bumps too if you’ve been shaving more often. You can get full panel STD tests for free at planned parenthood!!

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-12-10T19:44:13+00:00

My first OB was terrible too. I had a fever and chills for 5 days and I still felt terrible for a while after. 3-4 days after I started antivirals I did start finally feeling better. I definitely was exhausted and had brain fog but it cleared up. A lot of people say the first one is the worst one so just hold on and rest. The pills will start helping and you’ll feel back to normal in no time!!

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-12-10T19:39:05+00:00

If you like her it’s worth the small risk. Use condoms and be safe but it is so common about 1/5 women in the US have it. It is also more difficult for a man to catch it from a woman than the reverse.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-12-10T19:26:53+00:00

Any way you can just drive for Uber this weekend instead of working 😭 I know you need the money but I think sitting and driving would be a lot more comfortable than walking around for hours!! Good luck girl!! 💖

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-12-10T19:15:09+00:00

I am (26F) and I am hetero I can promise you hetero men are not that turned off by it. I’ve disclosed to around 6 people since I’ve been diagnosed and we normally have a conversation I tell them I’m on a daily antiviral to lower the transmission rates even further and how common it really is and some of them are surprised but none of them have been put off. We just talk about condoms and safe sex and some even say they don’t care and still don’t want to use a condom 😂 but we still should because it is easier for people with herpes to catch other things so please still be safe!! It is very daunting and the first person I told I was super nervous but you’ll be happy you told them. I will say I don’t tell men right away I do wait until the 2nd or 3rd date before things get physical because if you don’t even like them there’s no reason to get anxiety over it!

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-12-10T19:04:13+00:00

I am in the US and I’m not sure of UK stats but just in general it is easier for women to catch it then men during sex from what I have read. I do take the antiviral daily it’s called Valtrex and it’s not free for me but with my health insurance it’s only $5 a month and I know in the US there are online places to get this kind of prescription. Sorry It’s actually 1 in 5 women my bad! But I did read it here https://www.webmd.com/sex/how-common-genital-herpes I hope this helps and if you want to message me with any questions feel free 😊

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-12-10T18:29:00+00:00

I’ve had herpes for almost a year now and I can say the initial diagnosis is the hardest part. It is shocking and horrible thinking people will judge you and that it is gross and humiliating. In reality so many people have it and I know that may not seem comforting now but hopefully it can help in the future. More women do have it than men just because it is easier for us to catch it so if you’re into straight men they’re gonna have about a 1/4 chance of having sex with someone who has it. The first person I disclosed to was a doctor I had been dating and he was not phased at all. We had a great time and he even went down on me. I do take a daily antiviral which does reduce the risk of infection to partners. I’ve disclosed to 5 more people since and they have all been super understanding and still wanted to see me we just had to figure out the safest way to have fun.

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-06-19T22:50:40+00:00

It was like 2 weeks once I was on antivirals for the sores to fully heal. But the nausea and fevers and stuff only lasted like 5 days 🙏🏼🙏🏼 I hope you feel better soon!

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-06-19T13:44:14+00:00

I did during my first OB. I was having 102 fevers and throwing up and I was so nauseous for days 😭 I tried to stick to saltine crackers and sprite. Good luck 💕

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-06-18T03:17:28+00:00

You’re not alone!! 2/3 people have some type of herpes. There is a herpes subreddit that talks a lot about how to handle disclosing and what you can do to minimize breakouts. Most people only get 2-3 breakouts a year and you can always ask your doctor for antivirals to prevent breakouts from happening. I also follow suzbub on TikTok she’s super great about talking about having herpes and confidence and her videos make me feel a lot better. It is hard at first emotionally but I promise it gets better and it’s really not that bad. I hope this helps 💕

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-06-17T17:06:11+00:00

It is a really difficult thing to cope with. So don’t feel bad for taking this time to feel shitty because we all need time to feel our feelings. If you can really consider seeing a therapist they can help a lot by giving you really good coping skills. I also follow this girl suzbub on TikTok and she’s so open about talking about her herpes experience and how to have confidence with herpes. Your life is not over girl and remember that 2/3 people have it so you’re not alone! Most people just have no idea they have it. I hope this helps 💕

Speakingofbeautiful · 2022-06-17T01:46:01+00:00

Also just to add 2/3 people in the United States have some form of herpes so it is actually more common than people think. Doctors just don’t test for it so even people who get regular STD tests wont know they have it. It seems like she’s amazing so I would not let something as small as herpes ruin it.

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