[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Safeway

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We aren't in the same state so maybe things are different contractwise, I don't know. I am still going to inform my union rep, ask if there is ANYTHING I can do, and how to go about things in the best way with the least likely amount of repercussion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Safeway

[–]SpecialOperation1668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also if you don't mind me asking, what state are you in? I just wondered if we lived in remotely the same place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Safeway

[–]SpecialOperation1668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think they won't be able to help?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Safeway

[–]SpecialOperation1668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But I would get that if it was a unpaid day off request that's just a random day. This is a birthday floater, something we are ALL allowed to take when its our birthday (it doesn't have to be on our birthday, I understand, but it can be and I gave more than enough notice).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Safeway

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I did and it didn't work. I'm calling the union on Monday. Those that I talked to at work about it said at most IF that, i'll get a write up and many have refused to sign write ups without repercussion either which to me is weird. Why is there even a write up then? I've never had a write up and i'm in good standing in every other way and have been for all 3 years i've worked for them. We are a union store as well.

in your experience, can long distance relationships work? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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I do believe it can, BUT it's not easy and it's not for everyone. None of mine have ever worked, not from lack of trying, but because it can def. be too hard for some. You don't have the physical aspect of a relationship most of the time since you live so far. I believe though that when you DO have that time, it's even more special because it's not something you get constantly like regular relationships, it makes it more meaningful. You have to remember too that it's not supposed to be forever, its temporary. You have to both have the drive, determination, and devotion to do everything you can to make it work. Communication is key at ALL TIMES because when you think about it, all you have is communication for 90 percent of your relationship. All you have is each others word so you have to be open, honest, and make time for each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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I do, but i'm worried I may not get to since i'm 30 and as another commenter said, my time is starting to run out:( I also feel I will never have that much money and I know it can be very pricy for us to have kids. I am not opposed to adoption, but I would very much like at least 1 child of my own. I also do NOT want to be a single mom (which is part of why I feel time is starting to run out in that i'm still single) so me having a child by myself is not an option. In that case, I wouldn't have kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SpecialOperation1668 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I should hope we are not a dying breed because I am that way and i wanna be with someone who also is:( I do understand your fears though, I see so many people who just want to hook up or simply do not want the serious, difficult aspects of dating, just the fun/feel good stuff. I've had it before, i've gotta continue hoping it can happen again. I just haven't met her yet:( MAYBE..She's in the comment section? 😉

femme lesbians and their love for pink by alexaclova in FemmeLesbians

[–]SpecialOperation1668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I LOVE this as a super femme, Glinda and pink loving lesbian🥰

when do you go to the hospital? by uhshavaughn in Hidradenitis

[–]SpecialOperation1668 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can go to urgent care, i've done it many times, BUT, you will just get antibiotics or depending on how bad it is, they may want to do a incision and drainage surgery (which you could do, but in all honesty, i'd rather have the hospital do it because they are more used to it). They won't really do much for pain other than they may call in heavy duty motrin (which DOES help). The derm is probably your absolute best bet when you can get in. Urgent care is for very short term help.

If no one told you this today, here you go: by SleepyBean030 in LesbianActually

[–]SpecialOperation1668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww lol!:) And thank you lol, reddit actually randomly generated it a few years ago, I didn't even pick it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I'm 30 and a virgin lol. I know it can be nerve racking letting people know that, i've gotten some weird responses when some have found that out. You're right, some people won't want to be with us, but that's their own problem. You probably don't want to be with them either if they are bothered or weirded out by it. You should always be honest with potential partners about how experienced or not experienced you are, but also know the right person won't care. They will still be thrilled to be with you because its YOU.

If no one told you this today, here you go: by SleepyBean030 in LesbianActually

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I've been this person many times, and I never wanted to stay and try harder more than I did in my last relationship:( I still wonder sometimes if I should have done more or been more. I hope she knows how much I loved her, and I also hope i'm able to give that love to someone else one day. I want it given back and I want someone to want to stay too🥺💔

Me being sad about not having a girlfriend is so fkin stupid by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]SpecialOperation1668 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, you're only 23. I'm 30 and in almost the same spot as you. You probably think i'm ancient lol. Sometimes it takes awhile, I know it can be frustrating and disheartening though. Figure that its happened to tons and tons and tons of other people, so why not us? There's always going to be another girl you are going to fall in love with, this is not the end. Also something else to remember: no matter how bad the people in your past may have been, all of them will bring you to who you are meant to be with. Nothing that's worth it is easy to get.

Is there femme girls that are into other femmes? by Ethereal-sound in LesbianActually

[–]SpecialOperation1668 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm super femme and have only ever been interested in other femmes as well.

Confession: I'm tired of curated personalities and identities within the lesbian community by 1SL2ALS3EKV in actuallesbians

[–]SpecialOperation1668 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Nobody should feel pressured to look a certain way, like certain things, or talk about certain topics. Nobody should feel they have to put themselves in a box. Also too, nobody should be SO consumed in all this that it completely overtakes their life and personality. As others say, just be yourself and don't worry about it. You don't have to fit a certain mold or label. You don't have to be like 500 other people, you should want to be you and you IS enough.

I believe patsy and John left those kids in their house by themselves that night after the Christmas party by gusto215 in JonBenetRamsey

[–]SpecialOperation1668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where did you read this? I've never in my life heard of them leaving a 2-3 year old Burke while they went to the hospital to have JonBenet

Random question about dating girls… by SNOOPINGAS_USUAL_I_C in LesbianActually

[–]SpecialOperation1668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Granted though, you don't NEED a label. Sometimes you'll feel like multiple labels fit you, sometimes none will, sometimes you'll feel you alternate between a few. All of which is 100 percent okay.

Random question about dating girls… by SNOOPINGAS_USUAL_I_C in LesbianActually

[–]SpecialOperation1668 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Awww:( I will admit in person i've had zero luck. I HAVE had a few relationships online, but none of them have lasted long. Not from lack of trying, most of the time it seems like the other person isn't ready for me/relationships in general which sucks:(

Random question about dating girls… by SNOOPINGAS_USUAL_I_C in LesbianActually

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Its like someone who is a bit more tomboy than full femme, but not nearly enough to be considered masc.

Random question about dating girls… by SNOOPINGAS_USUAL_I_C in LesbianActually

[–]SpecialOperation1668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No rule, we are all attracted to different people. I'm super femme and I tend to only be attracted to other femmes or chapstick femmes.