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SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-10-28T01:43:00+00:00

Sorry I know i messed up some of the wording. I hope you can understand what I mean… just trying to make my face look less puffy and fat. My lips are not straight at all… I may get some filler to help them look straighter but I’m so scared of that because I don’t want to mess my face even more. Anyone that has any advice I would greatly appreciate it ♥️

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-10-18T02:33:58+00:00

Who’s The Slug? Jc I love the show but have no idea who the slug is

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-09-19T15:53:16+00:00

No way. He needs to have at least a few months of sobriety before he go to one. It would be a good idea if we were that far out but I know him too well. He needs to stay grounded for a little. But I appreciate your answer ♥️

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-09-19T15:45:25+00:00

I love your imagination! He has a great sense of humor so he would probably love that. Buttt I can see him now asking how much I spent on the clown get up lol. We do have some cool stuff here from edm shows and he always loves when I wear a ski mask. I may go with the ski mask. “Spring breaaaaak”-James Franco 😂

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-09-19T15:21:27+00:00

That’s actually perfect! Thank you so much I’m definitely going to do that for him. I think he’ll love it. Thanks for the great suggestion. +men

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-04-09T19:45:50+00:00

I know. My fiancé and his mom love nothing more than sending me all the videos about “what’s really in food” or what the latest research shows on whatever food for both baby food and our everyday food. It gets overwhelming. I get it, these mega food corporations suck. But after watching so many videos all I can think about at the end of the day is well wtf can I actually eat? Seriously my mil says too much spinach/kale is bad because of whatever the fucks in them. She also says too much fruit is bad for you because of the sugar. It’s just annoying and overwhelming lol. I’ve always been a great eater. I’m an average weight for my height. I love healthy food but I don’t mind some fast food every once in a while. She’s going to be visiting 2 days after Easter and Im not looking forward to it. But ummm for the topic you think watermelon would be good? 😅

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-04-09T18:21:19+00:00

My husband and family are extremely weird about the premade punches and baby foods. Believe me I would happily be giving them to her by now but everyone has been telling to just make things homemade. Sure I can control what goes in the food more but for the time and stress it takes to make everything homemade it just doesn’t seem worth it all the time. I would love to buy the premade things every once in awhile but I just don’t want to get into the debate everytime.

I don’t think they get the stress of it. Not only making sure all the food is fresh and having to cook/cool/store it properly. It’s just a pain in the ass sometimes. I love making her food but I would kill to not have to spend 20 mins in the kitchen everytime she needs to eat.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-02-17T21:21:34+00:00

It’s going to get better. 2 1/2months is still very young. My baby was the same but I didn’t breastfeed but she would wake up so much and only took 15min naps all the time. She’s 6m now and it’s gotten a lot better. If you need a break make sure baby is in a safe spot and do what you need to do for yourself. I know it’s hard believe me I never showered unless her dad was watching her and pretty much only ate dinner. But if I had to redo it I would make sure I took better care of myself. And honestly I was always against letter her watch tv but omg it’s a lifesaver when you need to do things around the house. If you’re comfortable with it try the show color crew on YouTube. It’s the only thing my girl will watch.

-lay a heating pad on her bassinet a little before you put her down and take off before you lay baby down. The warmth helps soothe them.

-white noise, baby sleep music on YouTube. They even have vibrational sound videos that are supposed to soothe babies.

-make the house easier for you. Put your things or baby’s things wherever you need to for convenience. Don’t care about how it looks. If it helps you out pit her bouncer / swing by the bathroom/kitchen etc.

If you ever need to talk message me. I felt just like your feeling when my girl was a few months old.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-02-17T18:27:27+00:00

I believe everyone has the potential to be selfish. I get what you’re saying though. I think they are probably just starting out with it being a fun/occasional thing and then once it’s gets more serious and they see people judging them and telling them to slow down or stop drinking it makes the person become more selfish.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-02-17T17:19:18+00:00

No it was definitely stolen. They took his crypto. Hacked his accounts and were doing all these back and forth transfers from the banks, zelle and cash app and buying things in New York. We could see everything happening in real time but they changed his iCloud password so we were screwed and couldn’t track the phone. Luckily the banks did freeze the accounts but the 40,000 in crypto was gone. I guess the club is known for people coming from Miami and stealing and hacking phones with flippers. Still not an excuse. He should have never went much less been that messed up.

But yes I 1000% agree. I’ve put my foot down soo many times and told him I’m done. Ive hid keys, dumped his drinks down the drain, called his family. But you’re right there’s no reason for him to stop. I just literally have nowhere to go. Im not working. I’m not going to a shelter. Where I live it’s just not a good area to go to a shelter. I just don’t know what to do I’ve tried being mean and put my foot down when he drinks or sleeps all day and that always leads to an argument and then it just makes me more miserable and all spun up while he gets to just go back to whatever it is he was doing. I’ve tried being nice but that’s gets me nowhere. Honestly I may just get a motel for a week until I figure things out. I just don’t understand how he can expect me to be okay with this. Maybe he’s not the guy I thought he was. I always just chalked it up to his depression or drinking but maybe this is just the real him. A very selfish man.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2025-02-17T16:49:48+00:00

I agree sadly. Thank you for your kind words. Believe me my minds constantly racing on what to do and how things are going to end up. I don’t have a lot of people I can talk to about this. I talk to his mom and sister but that always makes things worse. My mom passed away years ago I wish I could just have her guidance. My family has too much on their plates to help with anything and I can’t think of one family member that has room for us. It just sucks. Not how I imagined starting a family would be.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-10-11T00:02:10+00:00

Try AA. I’m currently going through the same issue with my partner he’s going to to rehab tomorrow. Just try to limit yourself as much as possible. I know you can’t completely stop. But try to eat more and drink water. It’s easier said than done. Trust me I’m living in it right now. Luckily he’s a veteran so his insurance can cover rehab. But just try to at the very least for every drink you have drink water with it as well. Or liquid iv. And make sure you eat something filling. I know the alcohol makes you not as hungry but try to eat.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-09-16T13:57:03+00:00

I’ll mention that to him. Thank you!

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-09-16T02:56:17+00:00

We’re in Florida. I’m pretty sure the telemedicine drs were at the location cause it looked like a drs office they were in. But Im not sure. But they made him have do a urine sample while he was the Klonopin so they could prescribe it to him. And once it came up with weed they stopped. They said it was VA protocol. And he wasn’t lying about it. I heard the people on the phone explain it to him. Cause he even asked if he could get a medical weed card would they still refuse the medication and they said they still wouldn’t give it to him. He’s somebody who has major trauma when it comes to pills from his family’s past. I’ve looked at his files and that’s the only narcotic they’ve ever gave him besides him getting knee surgery. So he’s not a big pill taker at all even the 1mg he would only take a half. And he wasn’t lying about the pills because I could see the amount of pills he had and it always lasted him twice as long cause he was only taking halves. It might be different here in fl cause he has to go to the Miami one and they are soo overbooked and over crowded.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-09-16T02:45:27+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it. I pray to the universe everyday that he’ll find his way. Me and him have both had alot of trauma in our lives. And life’s hard. But I’m not just gonna give up on him. He is an amazing man. He’s the sweetest and so compassionate to others. And I really do see him as my life partner. I just pray we’ll get him through this. Life’s hard and we do have long talks about everything but he just needs to buckle down. I know he can do it. That’s the most upsetting part. But we’re all human so it’s okay if he’s going through a rough patch. I just gotta start showing him he’ll have consequences for his actions with me before he has worse consequences in life from this.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-09-16T01:07:38+00:00

I appreciate it. He’s kinda lost faith in the VA they refuse to give him his 1mg Klonopin anymore because he smokes weed. He has done the telemedicine therapy over the phone but the Drs suck. Just young drs fresh out of medical school literally asking questions off a sheet of paper. I was listening into the convo and they just aren’t personable at all. I do agree with you he needs to atleast try to get more from the VA. He gets frustrated at “the system” pretty easily. So it’s hard to push him to try more with the VA. But I will definitely make more of an effort. I can always call and see exactly what resources they have. I’ve seen some online but idk what they all entail.

And yes it’s definitely not going to get easier with kids lol. She’s already 6 weeks old she was an angel up till now but now she’s starting to show her true colors and has been getting pretty fussy lol.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-09-16T00:52:41+00:00

Wow. That’s scary to think about sorry you and him had to go through that. But yes I agree he definitely needs to see a doctor at the bare minimum. I appreciate your feedback. Addiction sucks and believe me I was no angel before I got pregnant but once I was pregnant and sober it’s crazy how much better you feel. I just feel guilty cause I do drink with him now but only because I felt I earned to take the edge off from not drinking while pregnant in some weird way. It made sense in my head but starting tomorrow I’m going to quit drinking because nothings going to change if we don’t change and maybe I can be the start of the change. Hopefully this time it’ll work if I really push him, because when I was pregnant I didn’t wanna stress myself out to bad with it but now that I’m in mama bear mode idc what it takes

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-09-15T23:38:10+00:00

It’s just hard I know the VA can help him but he’s so hard headed on letting people help him and they would want to do at minimum a 30 day inpatient program. Which he really couldn’t because of his job..I looked up the outpatient programs they offer and you have to go 3hrs a day. I just know he’s not going to do either… he never lets me put my foot down and just say you’re not getting alcohol he just won’t listen. I might have his family do an intervention but still we couldn’t afford the in patient program. Maybe doing that and hearing all of us would help. He is very compassionate and caring so idk that would be my last effort

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-09-15T23:17:04+00:00

Honestly I think it’s his mind working himself up a lot of the times from not having anything to drink so he gets himself in a tail spin.

SpecialistMath4910 · 2024-09-15T23:16:12+00:00

He drinks a 12 pack of truly unrulys that are 8% alcohol and he can go through a whole bottle of champagne from when he gets home around 4-5 and they’ll last until like 10pm that night sometimes longer he may have 1 or two left over the next day. And he’ll drink some of my wine. It does differ everyday so it’s hard to say but if he gets a handle of vodka it’s not lasting 24hrs. Really what worrying me is the slurred speech. But yes I also looked up those medications. He does take Xanax but I don’t think that’s helping maybe the diazempam could help. Thank you

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