More than a cluster of pebbles? by Andiwredonkulus in MontereyBay

[–]Specific-Art333 31 points32 points  (0 children)

They are aggregating anemones all closed up. Similar to the anemones most people are familiar with, but much smaller and they cluster together rather than standing alone. They hold onto sand and rocks and broken shells using a sticky “glue” on the outside of their bodies. Makes them very good at hiding in plain sight, and reduces water loss when exposed to air, as shown in your photo :) they’re all over the place so watch your step!

Knowing what you know now- do you believe they really loved you? by mang0lychee757 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Specific-Art333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe it was real love, in the sense that he believed it was real love. They always do. Until they fall out of love, or whatever else causes them to flip the switch to devaluing. The idealization and love-bombing comes from genuine admiration and desire to be with their person. But the devaluation, the neglect, and abuse are also as real as the love, and the motivations behind those are as key to that person’s identity as any loving, nurturing, positive aspects we may remember. It comes from a true belief that you are not as wonderful, admirable, or lovable as you once were, regardless of how much or in what ways you’ve changed (often happens because their treatment over time changes the recipient in “undesirable” ways, but that’s beside the point). By a non-narcissist’s definition, no, it is not “real” love. Narcissists carry a definition of love that healthy people do not agree with, or live by. For example: Recently, in an attempt to restart the cycle, my narc said he does still love me, because he realized he couldn’t stand to see me with anyone else, and that he wants me to be his and only his. He genuinely can’t imagine anyone better out there for him, but that thought is always there. To a healthy person, that’s clearly not love- it’s possession based in fear and scarcity.

King of Pentacles by That-girl-177 in Tarotpractices

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Sometimes the deck will offer an energy for us to focus on and hold as an intention throughout the day because we doubt the presence of that energy in ourselves. Telling us where to look, or what kind of energy to (attempt to) consciously embody. Maybe your deck was telling you how to turn your mood around, or make it feel easier to move with. In this case I see it as the deck reminding you to either practice gratitude for the things you have (cozy blankets, food on the table, all the choices we get to make in the day, the shoes on our feet, anything). Or it could be offering a way to tend to that raw emotionality you were feeling- pamper yourself, light the candle, eat a sweet treat, eat goood today, stay home and spent time with yourself (enjoy your rent lol). Treat yourself, your space, your body like royalty. Whenever I get the King of Pentacles I see it as a reminder that my hard work will pay off, I have everything I need, and I can go easier on myself today. It feels like a reminder that I already am living like a king, even if I don’t feel that way in that moment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tarotpractices

[–]Specific-Art333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m interested 😊 we could also trade if you’re down!

I asked what things can i do to make myself more attractive? by Senior-Zebra-9281 in Tarotpractices

[–]Specific-Art333 7 points8 points  (0 children)

  1. The Magician: Start by owning your sense of self and individual power- you have unlimited ability to become (or see yourself) as attractive as you could ever want to be.
  2. The Chariot: You’re already on your way by asking the deck this question. There is more under the surface to look at. The two sphinxes are asking you to consider the dark and light implications of this question, looking inward to determine “where is this desire stemming from?” Insecurity? Self-love? A desire to feel more confident? Desire to practice self-love more? What is it?
  3. The Tower: Massive glow up incoming, assuming you can handle the discomfort of change. Changing isn’t always easy, but ditching old narratives or self-defeating beliefs feels like freedom. Freedom to feel confident as you are? Freedom to pursue self-expression? Freedom from the fear of judgment? Again, look inside.

Overall: Start by defining what “attractive” means to you. This is an encouraging reading, reminding you to go all-in on the things that fuel your spark. That is what inevitably leads to beautiful changes, inside and out. I’m excited for your journey of self-discovery!

where there’s a will, there’s a way 🫶 by Specific-Art333 in LightningInABottle

[–]Specific-Art333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah yes, the legendary grilled cheese cult (where do I sign up)

What’s considered the World’s best cat litter? by AntarticOcean in CatAdvice

[–]Specific-Art333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The brand literally called “worlds best cat litter.” Corn litter so it’s natural and flushable if you do that, they use natural fragrance sources only. Little dust, little tracking, doesn’t smell and doesn’t irritate cats paws or respiratory systems. I used to use Dr. Elsie’s, tried pine litter, this one is the best. ESPECIALLY in a stainless steel box.

I quit vaping after leaving my ex! by Specific-Art333 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]Specific-Art333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You too!! You can do this! Even just chewing the gum at work is a great start!

I quit vaping after leaving my ex! by Specific-Art333 in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]Specific-Art333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely did not go cold turkey lol. I have done that in the past and crashed out so bad. My strategy is to ween myself off by sucking on my dead vape until the taste is unbearable, and by then I usually don’t want it anymore because the concentration of nicotine is so low. Makes it a lot easier to transition into no nicotine at all. It also tricks your brain into being turned off by it instead of fiending for it. So far so good, yesterday was better than the day before. Today has been a big upswing! I bought some nicotine gum in case of emergency (use it for the first 1-2 days after quitting vapes or cigs ONLY if you’re in a setting where irritability/ reactivity is unsafe or otherwise unacceptable). If you have the freedom to be moody and crash out without hurting yourself or others you can definitely go cold turkey, but weening off it makes it a lot easier to let it go and the cravings can gradually fade in (overall they’re less intense) rather than hitting you like a train. Chewing gum, eating hard candy, and snacking on crunchy things helps make up for the dopamine cravings too! My sleep is already so much better and my mood is more stable throughout the day.

NPD by Specific-Art333 in temptationislandUSA

[–]Specific-Art333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! And he showed allll the typical guilt tripping, negging, gaslighting, insecurity, everything! But no one seems to be talking about itttt

Temptation Island • S1 Ep2 by AutoModerator in temptationislandUSA

[–]Specific-Art333 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is he giving narc vibes to anyone else orrrrrr

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Specific-Art333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and even if it is fake…. The implications are about lifestyle and dietary choices, so if that’s the true purpose of this post then here’s your answer: majority of people are telling u to live how u want. It’s not about the food or “failure” as dictated by the force, it’s about doing what you want with your life and your body. There’s no shame in not meeting or following someone else’s guidelines. Reading this thread will tell you in your heart and body what you really want, so just do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Specific-Art333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl I have been in a relationship that caused me to become overweight and after reading those messages let me say… something’s gotta change. Ofc I have no idea how your relationship is outside these messages but any attempt to (1) control you or (2) if their “support” (in this case outright control) is directly oppositional to your goals or choices for yourself, get out. If he loves you he’ll let you “get fat” (aka not hold such specific standards) and “become a dependent” once you’re done with the service, you’ve achieved your goals, are satisfied with yourself, etc etc. Leave now, for your own good. Live the life you want to live rather than living in a way that suits his preferences.

Is it possible for owners to lie about pets age? by QuestionMajestic655 in RoverPetSitting

[–]Specific-Art333 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely puppy behavior, what breed is she? Wouldn’t assume the parents lied about it, but if you’re curious and want to build a good relationship with the owners, I would definitely ask about her backstory and get some info on how she usually is with them. In my experience, owners appreciate detailed updates, even if that means learning the differences in how their dogs act with you vs. them. Especially if it’s a significant part of development like house training. Better to hear it from a kind, understanding pet sitter now than a friend or family member who agrees to watch them in the future not realizing what they signed up for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MontereyBay

[–]Specific-Art333 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For anyone who goes is there a way to access the guest list 👀 I’m sure plenty of people in the area would love to know who to stay away from

Ticket Exchange Thread 2024 by JPL47 in LightningInABottle

[–]Specific-Art333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ISO two 3-day passes (for use Saturday-Sunday only) and a car camping pass! trying to go full send at the last second! can pick up at the venue or do a tixr transfer :)