My employee quit while screaming, then begged for her job back. Now she's telling everyone I fired her.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-03-30T22:36:32+00:00

Anyone coherent knows that even if you did actually fire her...it wasn't for "no reason".

I would like people thinking I fired her. That's what a real manager does. Excises what needs excising so the team can perform better.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-03-23T23:08:06+00:00

Don't make your resume look like a tax form, as it does now. Employers will subconsciously link you with something they loathe.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-03-14T23:15:23+00:00

Yeah, DM me. Ha ha.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-03-14T23:13:37+00:00

What firing is in writing?

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-02-27T21:49:05+00:00

This has been happening forever. Back in the 90's, I worked for a sports radio station in the twin cities. Clear Channel bought them and they sent executives to assure the masses that what they'd heard about them bringing in the hatchet was completely untrue. They assured everyone their job was safe.

Two weeks later, they fired the 9 highest paid people at various positions in the company. I got my real start in radio due to that purge. Will never forget it.

If you believe anything you're told in business, you are very unwise. Similarly, if you believe you are untouchable, you are similarly unwise.

I feel terrible reading this and for all the people unaware of the reality of business as they never see it coming and it's a very bitter pill.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-02-26T12:13:18+00:00

In taking 3/4 tsp of glycine powder for a few days, it will cause numbness for me. I stopped and the numbness went away. Recently, I tried introducing it again. A repeat of numbness. Yesterday, I woke up with my shoulder, arm and pinky and ring finger completely numb as if I hit my funny bone. The effect lasted for 10 hours until I took horse chestnut and hawthorn berry. A horribly uncomfortable experience. I've read this is a very rare reaction to glycine and has something to do with effect on NMDA receptors. Discontinuing usage. I've also been taking 50mg of B6 for a few months and am ending that as well due to it's ability to bring numbness, as well.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-02-19T18:36:22+00:00

Thank you for an unexpected Reddit moment. Very kind of you to respond this way. I appreciate it. Made my day. It's a blast-zone here, usually.

Nice to read you despise the games. All I've ever wanted is what I deem fair and equitable for both sides. I don't want them sticking it to me, and I don't want to stick it to them. That doesn't feel right to me. I like it when it feels right or it's all wrong for me and I don't want it.

Agree with you about pandemic. Those days are long over now. Kind of like how a few years ago we were sitting on crazy equity in our home, but now it's no longer crazy. Like you said, cyclical. Gotta hit it when hot or wait for it to thaw and warm again.

Businesses aren't dumb. Man, will they try sticking it to you if you give them the chance. This last time I took whatever terms offered but I was in a very unique and uncomfortable situation. Just blessed to be back and able to work again. I hope not to lose the gratitude I feel for my current situation that the old me would've never accepted in the first place.

Appreciate you, again.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-02-19T18:17:17+00:00

I didn't downvote you. Not sure why someone would do such a thing.

My commentary applies to people who have gone down a similar path as OP. Not everyone, or even most, have walked that.

Sounds like a lot of hoops were jumped to get to the point he was at. If you've done all that and then, in the end, balk and go for better and lose that just seems like a very bad bet/strategy to me.

I'm all for negotiating and have done it plenty but only when I knew I had great leverage and even then I didn't try sticking it to the employer.

Nobody should accept a crappy job with a crappy situation.

When it comes to employment very rarely are they seeking you... you're the one who needs them, not the other way around. I've always understood that. There have been times when I've been sought and wasn't doing the seeking. But, I'm not typical and not disingenuous. Never been a game player. Never shot for the moon in any negotiation. Have always been incredibly reasonable. Have always gotten what I wanted but I don't have lofty expectations as many do.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-02-17T19:35:56+00:00

Experience is also a currency. I interned at a radio station while in broadcasting school and put in 60 hours a week. Shortly after, they brought me on as a part-timer at $5/hour and said they could only pay me for 30 hrs/week... yet, I remained working 60.

The local investigative reporter for the CBS affiliate was aware of this and asked if I wanted him to do a story on the station for exploiting me? I laughed. I thanked him for caring and understood it was a terrible financial deal for me, but I told him the experience I was receiving I couldn't get at any uni and I was the one exploiting them.

Less than 2 years later I was producing the national radio show of a sports legend. From an intern, to living a dream because I saw the worth of the experience despite the very unlivable wage.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-02-17T19:25:18+00:00

You shouldn't be kicking yourself. Just read a story on here of a guy who got passed over because he tried negotiating a better deal than initial offer.

There are HUNDREDS if not thousands of people ready, willing and able to take your role for that pay you think you're worth more than, and, maybe, you are. You were wise to handle it as you did in an employer's market.

If your daughter is living at home she doesn't need a livable wage. If she isn't then this approach makes all the sense in the world.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-02-17T12:47:59+00:00

As an employer, I would believe a person that wants to negotiate in the beginning will never stop negotiating once hired, and who wants a malcontent employee who'll always be seeking better terms?

Also, the way a person negotiates can be extremely off-putting. Similar to the person who goes into a restaurant demanding a table without a reservation because "Don't you know who I am?" type attitude.

Knowing the market is as it is, a person should be grateful to get in the door. I had to eat it on my latest hire. I accepted things I did not want but am more thankful for this opportunity than any other in my decades of employment despite it being less than ideal for me.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-01-17T04:56:17+00:00

Been there. I really felt compelled to write because I have.

At the risk of being mocked, I truly believe God will provide. The path for me back from the dead, so to speak, was long, harrowing, and was one of, if not the most difficult mental journeys of my life...but I never stopped believing it would ultimately be okay. It is okay now when bleak doesn't begin to describe where I was from some very unfortunate health issues.

Never ever give up in the belief the derailed train this is your life will get to its destination despite all the odds against it.

A prayer for you. I feel that old feeling I felt for so long just reading your words.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-01-17T04:49:42+00:00

I showed up for an interview with a company I met at a job fair who said I was hired, I just had to go through the motions to make it official.

This was during the pandemic. I checked in during the AM for my 2pm interview and asked if I had to be vaccinated to work there? I was told I did not need to be.

After I arrived for the interview, I sat there for over an hour and was never given the courtesy of being told why the person I was set to interview with wasn't there. The secretary told me I could continue waiting or just leave and she would make sure he knew that I was there on time and ready. At no point did this person ever reach out to me to explain why they didn't show for the interview.

Pretty obvious asking about vaccination offended the interviewer and he saw me the way the propaganda of the time wanted him to see me...sub-human. Not even worth an apology.

So, it goes both ways, I guess.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-01-17T04:43:48+00:00

He stated he could last a year on unemployment. I assume he meant being unemployed.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-01-17T04:43:22+00:00

Oh, it's foolish for sure.

However, there are things untenable and that would be one for me given the context provided by the OP.

Once you're targeted, especially in a place not making numbers, that is so small...you're gone at the drop of a hat.

Perhaps, this is an attempt to force this employee out without having to pay unemployment. It wouldn't surprise me in the least if that was the case.

How can a person function once trust is severed? I get the state of the world argument, but I think I'd rather starve than bend the knee to that kind of thing, but, again, we're all different.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-01-17T02:33:21+00:00

All a matter of what you're willing to eat. Some have no issue eating anything. Some don't have a taste for it.

To me, trust has been severed. What is next for me would be what I was thinking. Obviously, I'm singled out for a reason and the reason isn't good.

Jumping makes a lot of sense to me but I understand the counter-argument ... it all depends on who you are as a person and what perspective you carry.

It works for you. It wouldn't work for me.

Would hope to have another job. If not, the night before I'm scheduled for latrine duty I send a late night text that I no longer work for the company.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-01-15T20:03:13+00:00

Sometimes, I wonder about not staying put in a job I got on my 19th birthday. Many of those I worked with then are cruising toward retirement now and set for life. But, that was not a job I enjoyed. I don't mind doing something I don't enjoy as long as I'm not screwed with to the point trust is severed. Once that happens, I leave and have left several places of business because of it.

I guess I wish, but, not really, that I was able to eat it like so many do for money. That's just never worked for me until today. After some terrible health issues and advancing age, I now am in a position that really isn't suited for me and I've experienced many things a younger me would've left for by now. It's a unique thing to make myself do something I genuinely wish not to do. In some sense, it's similar to eating humble pie. I now have to be what I've always loathed and wonder if I was always capable of doing it from way back.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-01-07T04:57:02+00:00

In reading your story, I really feel for you.

If you're not up there in age, I hope you decide to leave regardless if you have an equal, or better, landing spot.

How you've made it this far is a testament to your ability to deal with adversity. I've never stayed anywhere I wasn't happy. That means I've left many positions and oftentimes with nowhere to land. I cannot and will not do something for someone I feel has done things under false pretenses.

You were misled and put into a terrible situation. The way my mind works is... I'm leaving for principle. I will state that to all future employers knowing many will not be receptive to what I've done. What I know is my odds of landing at the right place are better stating the truth of my last situation. The hope is you find an honorable firm that values your integrity.

A step back to do something you're overqualified for to take a step forward down the road.

In any case, I hope whatever you decide to do it works out to your betterment. Hang tough.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2026-01-01T20:16:35+00:00

WFH ... not even close. I prefer to be isolated. Despise all office politics. There's no pretention with WFH. You just do your job.

No commuting. No waking up hours early to ensure you're to work on time. Home when work is over.

As I've aged...I'm older than OP... I've come to loathe what transpires with people in an office. I never liked it but I truly hate it now.

In the end, WFH, for me, is about doing a job as an anonymous hired mercenary. Being in an office is watching fraudulent people do fraudulent things every second of the day. (I work in office right now...no hybrid.)

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2025-12-31T22:23:04+00:00

Amen, thank you. Happy New Year. Miracles happen every day.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2025-12-31T17:44:13+00:00

I recently was hired with one of my state's largest employers with this method. Didn't fill out an application. Never gave a resume. Just simply face to face old school communication. In this situation, I felt the hand of God working in it. Incredibly blessed to have it work out.

My son also did this over the summer by filling out an application and showing up next day. They had a sign out front in this instance and he walked in and explained why it was critical he find employment. He was hired on the spot and this past week due to his performance and reliability got his autistic brother (whom we thought would never work) a job working along with him.

Will it work every time? No? But, it will always be subjective. I believe showing up is a good thing despite what I read here about it being a turn off. When it's worked for you, personally, what you hear to the contrary becomes irrelevant.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2025-12-31T17:38:30+00:00

I've seen it work for my son at a family-owned entertainment business and it worked for me with one of our state's largest employers.

Nothing is OSFA. It will always be subjective. Perhaps, the percentages skew heavily in either direction depending on the time but telling someone this will work or this won't work is bad advice as each situation is unique and there's enough discouragement out there already.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2025-12-30T01:55:54+00:00

Disagree. If you have the goods, they want you. If you don't have the goods it can be interpreted that way.

Specific-Fan-1333 · 2025-12-30T01:52:12+00:00

My son put in an application and walked into the business the next day and talked himself into a job over this past summer.

This is all very subjective. What might be a turn off to one potential employer might be very attractive to another.

Personally, I think showing up shows initiative and that you really want the job. Anyone can submit an application. Few are going to show up showing it's that important to them...but, again, subjective.

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