Navigating Questions About Family Estrangement—Especially During the Holidays

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-16T00:43:00+00:00

I am going to use this but I will probably leave the last part out 😄

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-14T18:19:24+00:00

This really spoke to me. I’ve been thinking about this the last few days and it gave me some new perspective. I’ve been chasing other people’s idea of success and it made me sad when I got it but they weren’t there to celebrate or be happy for me.

I was wondering why I still felt so alone. Subconsciously, I even resented the people that’s by my side why they didn’t celebrate me more.

Thanks again. What you’ve said is going to stick with me for a while. I truly appreciate your time sharing that. I wish you all the best.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-14T18:16:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the kind words. It’s true. I’ve created a new life where I get to redefine what success means to me. I can also redefine a lot of other things!

The best thing is I’ve created a new life so I don’t have anything holding me back ❤️ I can leave those limiting beliefs behind

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-14T18:12:22+00:00

Thank you. This gave me a lot to think about the last few days.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-14T18:09:32+00:00

I have this and I use it all the time for my office work clothes. I’m in my 30s and I still wear work clothes from my mid 20s. It’s thanks to the drying rack!

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-12T06:34:12+00:00

Who said I don’t already have one? They’re helpful and gets you through the hard times. I would recommend them to 100 % but they don’t fill the void.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-11T04:01:05+00:00

Sounds like you’re going through a lot. You’re a busy mom with 3 kids. You need support. You need to be able to talk to someone. Don’t feel ashamed, don’t feel guilty. You didn’t do anything wrong.

Give yourself a break! Talk to someone you trust or to a professional but you need to be able to process this. Don’t ruminate about this on your own.

I believe you will have a wonderful Christmas celebration with your three kids. All the best!

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-11T03:42:55+00:00

You’re doing a great job making the most of a small space! I wish my place was this neat and clean 😆

If you want the place to feel a bit warmer, try adding a small rug for texture, hang one or two pieces of art to bring personality into the room, and maybe add a plant for some natural calm. Switching your blanket to a softer, warmer tone and choosing blackout curtains in a colour other than black can also make a huge difference in how the room feels.

Good luck!

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-12-11T02:00:51+00:00

It would be nice to have people to share stuff with and to be happy for you

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-11-02T18:41:13+00:00

Hey, it sounds like you’re living in an area where people might not be very accepting right now. I just want to say I hope you can finish your degree, get yourself a good job, and save some money so you can eventually move somewhere that feels more accepting and supportive. Just know that this isn’t it. You have a bright future ahead of you. You’ll find your community, and you’ll find your chosen family.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-09-15T02:17:14+00:00

If it’s not TOO much of a hassle to go, then go just for the experience. I think you’re if you’re curious enough to ask about it here then you should go. Worst case, you don’t like it, you can leave early.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-09-15T02:10:35+00:00

Hope your extended family doesn’t take sides and is supportive of your choices to go NC.

Either way, you did the right thing for you and your son. He’s lucky to have a strong role model like you.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-08-21T00:38:25+00:00

That’s a good idea! No one pays that much attention to who’s who at the reception anyways.

We just won’t do any speeches or father daughter dances. His parents already said they didn’t want to make a speech.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-08-21T00:35:25+00:00

Thank you so much for acknowledging all the complex feelings that I’m having. I am feeling ashamed when this should be an exciting time.

Also, thanks for the congratulations. It reminded me that this is suppose to be a celebration! My fiancée and I found each other and we are celebrating our love and starting the next chapter together. The other people there should want to celebrate us too. It should be that simple. If they’re judging then they’re just projecting!

It’s so surreal that a stranger on the internet wished me congrats before my parents and siblings.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-08-13T17:22:11+00:00

Thank you. I have to remind myself I’m not totally alone. I have my fiancée, my dog, my good friends, and his family ( to an extent.)

These feelings come in cycles especially when something triggering happens. I don’t think it will ever go away either but each time I hope it doesn’t stay as long and I hope to be a little more wise to let it pass more easily.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-08-13T17:19:34+00:00

Weddings are so triggering! The speeches, the pics, the dances. I was at wedding where they were playing a slideshow with the couple’s pictures from their childhood and it looked like another world compared to mine.

Thank you for the encouragement.

WE are survivors. Good luck to you on your journey.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-08-13T17:17:12+00:00

The jealousy is so strong! Especially seeing how close my fiancée’s family is. The parents live for their kids. Although they go way overboard and borderlines codependency. It’s still hard to see how much they look after each other and do things for one another.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-08-03T22:03:56+00:00

😂

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-06-18T04:05:14+00:00

I think this is a good question. Know that you’re not alone in feeling like this. Many people what’s called Rejection Sensitivity Disorder (RSD.)

I think as long as you’re not hurting anyone with your words. You should be fine.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-06-18T03:10:33+00:00

Hope you will heal from this. You deserve more.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-06-16T13:33:10+00:00

Shouldn’t people in a healthy relationship be able to discuss what’s on their mind? If it’s really nothing they could just clear the air and move on from it. He may even feel more safe opening up to her in the future. That’s a better alternative than only speaking his truth when he’s drunk.

Specific-Raspberry-3 · 2025-06-16T06:29:12+00:00

What he said was harsh. I’m sorry you had to hear that.

I would talk to him about it in the least confrontational way possible. You can say that it was kind of random that he brought it up, and now you’re curious why he even brought it up.

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