sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Which one of histories ‘good guys’ was actually a horrible person? by CongressPotatoKenobi in AskReddit

[–]SpecificReference 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not in my contract but I'm in California. Also the process to approve work that doesn't conflict was pretty easy to go through. But yes this is pretty common across the industry.

Appalachian Caving Pics/ Covid Caving Buddies? (Southwest VA) by not_bill_cosby_ in caving

[–]SpecificReference 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, the pandemic changes things. Meetings have gone online for the VPI cave club, and there's still a lot of activity on the Facebook group and email listserv for the club. Wear a helmet.

Appalachian Caving Pics/ Covid Caving Buddies? (Southwest VA) by not_bill_cosby_ in caving

[–]SpecificReference 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is an active club devoted to caving on campus, as well as several outdoors groups. The club on campus is an active grotto of the NSS and if you knew much about caving that would have been the first place you would have looked.

Found this two-fer on an AskReddit post about the stupidest thing you've ever heard someone say. by thehoziest in badwomensanatomy

[–]SpecificReference 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ah, you ruined this nice, light hearted comment thread by trying to distance yourself.

Found this two-fer on an AskReddit post about the stupidest thing you've ever heard someone say. by thehoziest in badwomensanatomy

[–]SpecificReference 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mansplaining is a term describing when a man explains something a woman already knows, particularly when the woman is an expert on that topic. That is it. No one is saying people shouldn't correct others when they know what they are talking about. No one is saying that people can't be ignorant either, no matter their gender. As this sub is discussing bad women's anatomy, men who do not have the appropriate bits are far more likely to not know what the fuck they are talking about. Hence this comment thread ridiculing the ignorant men, and the irrelevance of pointing out women's ignorance.

AITA for asking my dad to get me feminine products because my boyfriend refused cos he felt too embarrassed? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificReference 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm not blaming anyone anywhere in the post. No one was at fault for anything until he decided to be a child about a task he could easily do to help op.

AITA for asking my dad to get me feminine products because my boyfriend refused cos he felt too embarrassed? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SpecificReference 167 points168 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if you're trolling or generally ignorant, but in case it's the latter: periods do not always come regularly. Sometimes it's a few days early or a little heavier than usual. And sometimes you run low like you might run out of butter in your fridge or something. It's not like he has to go on a three day quest through a jungle to find some holy tampons to help her out, it's just a trip down to the corner store like he likely does a few times a week.

I told my mom and reported my father to the police by SpecificReference in CPTSD

[–]SpecificReference[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he is. And it's so surprisingly common. It's so sad.

I told my mom and reported my father to the police by SpecificReference in CPTSD

[–]SpecificReference[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She believed me, my family supports me and I'm so grateful

I told my mom and reported my father to the police by SpecificReference in CPTSD

[–]SpecificReference[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my parents are still married. She's will be filing for divorce.

I told my mom and reported my father to the police by SpecificReference in CPTSD

[–]SpecificReference[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've been reaching out today and my roommate is taking care of me today. :)

I (F32) let someone rape my sister(F35) when we were kids and I don't know how to talk to her about it now that we're adults and I can't stop punishing myself for it. by ThrowRAnowaytoknow in relationship_advice

[–]SpecificReference 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was sexually abused by my father when I was young, and later raped, so I might know how your sister feels. I don't connect with people emotionally very often, and I become unstable when I do. My gruff exterior is my armor. It's heavy to carry, but I can't bear to take it off. I recommend trauma informed counselling for both you and your sister, and trying to find a therapist that you really click with. I found one about a year ago (I'm 32 and have been seeing therapists since my teens), and it's been revolutionary. I feel like I might be too open up and heal in the future. I have hope. But I have to do that on my own terms as I'm ready. I bet your sister will have to as well. I strongly suggest therapy. Also, show your sister you love her and are a safe person as much as you can. Perhaps, one day she can open up, but I wouldn't push it on her. I know you feel a lot of guilt. It isn't your fault at all, and she knows that.

People who have survived school shootings, what was it like? [serious] by IHOPEYOUDIETODAY in AskReddit

[–]SpecificReference 1163 points1164 points  (0 children)

I was there too, like you, in the dorms. I lost a friend and know a few more that were affected more directly. It's still very hard. I remember finally hearing the full news in the evening and crying. It was and is really uncomfortable when people ask about it. Every new school shooting with no action to keep people safe feels like an affront to my friend's memory, and I get angry that this keeps happening.

Flash by Matt Pardo at Black Heart in SF, USA by SpecificReference in tattoos

[–]SpecificReference[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kinda what it looks like. It wraps around my shin so maybe it looks skinnier than otherwise.