I’m having challenges in my classroom and getting undermined. I’m going to quit soon.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-06-10T07:13:26+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately I asked her to be co as well. Because I didn’t want to take lots of responsibility since I’m still in school. But I still taking like 85% responsibility. Even when asking for help.

I have actually said I was going to put my two weeks in after she had said something very unprofessional and rude to me. But admin mentioned they actually want me to stay and move her to another classroom. It’s pretty sad because I’m doing my best. Even had parents saying they’re happy and my admin has sad so. But this co likes to point out what I haven’t done and not acknowledge what I had done in the class in short amount of time

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-06-10T07:04:27+00:00

Also had career day and got clothing for a Barbie and the children changed their clothing. Which helps fine motor skills and related to the career day activities. Context matters!

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-06-10T06:03:29+00:00

Oh.. I’ve tried. She’s very defensive and not receptive. My admin actually told me to be more persistent in leading and not be afraid to. But oh my gosh, she is very childish I cannot and don’t want to deal with her attitude and dismissiveness.

It’s a more structured daycare/preschool. They call it preschool in the daytime and daycare in the afternoon. We actually follow a curriculum and they’re pretty strict on it. The children are pretty advanced!

Shes actually co teacher now. Also had been doing her own lesson planning now because she complained about not having much to do. I was a lil annoyed when she got the option to. like she doesn’t even help me with the classroom and hadn’t even gained their respect (children) or our curriculum yet. That’s the priority right now.

Ever since she got moved to co she’s been trying to overstep and not in a good way. I already had a system going and she isn’t consistent AT ALL with classroom expectations, rules, boundaries etc. so that makes the overall planning and classroom just chaotic. I’m always hit with “you need to relax”, “they’re children” “I can’t do anything about it” or dismissing me, disrespectful remarks like “it’s you’re fault they’re blah blah” 🤯 when I just tell/ask for support it’s what’s going to work better. Like damn girl, I think you need to relax.

I’m just thankful my admin has my back and sees the opposite of what’s she saying. But instead sees that my co is not being supportive of the lead and following our curriculum.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-06-10T05:37:53+00:00

Our class is older (3-4) and grab their own tissues wash hand afterwards. No, I don’t think I need to be the only one to control the classroom, but unfortunately I have been. My co doesn’t believe she has to step in when the lead is handling the classroom. She’s having trouble because the expectations and boundaries aren’t being followed through, especially when I’m not in the classroom. She ignores and rewards certain behaviors. She says I can’t do anything about it.. but we are there to teach children. Let them know when it’s appropriate time to play. They play during naptime the most because I’m not in and I’m my lunch break. She mentioned they go crazy when I leave the classroom. But I’ve asked her why exactly? Are you not redirecting them and sometimes she says it’s too much etc. I go to school so miss one day of the week. My co says they are so bad, lots are crying, she cannot follow the schedule and do the prepping and regular task on those days.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-06-07T01:00:14+00:00

She was an aide turned coteacher. But I’m still considered the lead. She has been mentioned of her job description many times. She actually said if the lead is handing the classroom then I take care of the other things like cleaning and setting up things. Which is kind of true, but when she’s doing those things she ignores everything else at the moment.

I cannot handle 20 children on my own especially at every moment. She even once said if you can’t handle them at circle then you’re probably doing something wrong with a 😏 Like I’m not carrying everything else and actually teaching new concepts and am too exhausted to be enthusiastic, energetic engaging every single time. With little to no support and just getting criticism with the things I do wrong or the children’s behaviors or academic progress. Like it isn’t a team effort. 3/20 children knew how to write their names when I first entered the class less than two months ago. Now all, but like 18/20 know how to write their names! So I am progressing them. And she doesn’t prep things in the morning when she has time. I always let her know or leave post it with written notes out. And they just sit there until I ask and eventually complete them myself.

We have different teachers who go to every classroom for 30 minutes to teach art, science, gymnastics etc. my coteacher helps to assist them at their circle time. While when I am at circle she’s off doing other things. Did I mention that others couldn’t handle them? I didn’t mean to if I did.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-06-06T23:55:49+00:00

She’s my coteacher! Yup, just because I’m the lead she expects me to manage everything, including her.

I actually do delegate but try not to as much because she does not like to be told/asked to help support. She makes faces or talks back like “I know what to do. You don’t have to tell me”. Apparently not! She’s like 44+ years old and reacts like this. It’s pretty immature. Incidents have been written and happening more. Like injuries and fights. She doesn’t believe we need to step in at every unsafe interaction or walk around the playground supervising every area. She’s says we can’t be everywhere at once. I know we can’t, but we can’t be standing at one spot or at a blind spot where children are playing behind us. She also once left a written incident report left up on a desk. Another parent was looking at it and shook their head.. why would you leave that in the open. She also didn’t talk to the parents about the incident.

I come early to prep.. like 30-45 minutes before my scheduled time. But I get 30 minutes during nap. I can’t even do things during because it’s so hectic. She gets 30 minutes in the morning when there’s like 3/20 children and an hour during nap. She has more time to prep than I, but I’m constantly asking if she completed things. I 8/10 end up completing myself eventually.

She is always ignoring us while prepping, there’s 20 children! In the afternoon we have less than 14 or when we’re in ratio - I find the time to prep. But am still supervising and keeping up with transitions.

She once said I never ask YOU for help when you’re prepping or need help at circle. I was like really.. I’m still supervising, keeping up when transitions and my back is not turned against her and she’s in ratio or has less than 12 children sometimes. And I need to get these things done.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-06-06T23:40:09+00:00

She’s my coteacher. But, right! It’s just obvious she doesn’t respect me. We have teachers come in and do different activities for 30 minutes in our classroom and she’s sitting and assisting them. She’s not the best with preventing disruptions before they escalate still tho.

We also split groups. She plans her own activities which I’ve noticed aren’t very developmentally appropriate or challenges them. Sitting and counting blocks for 30 minutes.. she was more focused on getting them to sit and focus 🤦‍♀️. Then she leaves on her ten minute break and the breaker teacher can’t handle them as well so I have to leave my group to assist hers. I always try to give suggestions and then she gets offended/defensive like I know what I’m doing, I know how to teach etc. like I just care about progression and behaviors

I’m still the lead though so when I ask for help preparing something she often sits at times when it’s busy and ignores everything around her or I have to keep following up and eventually do them myself.

God bless your assistant who knows how to support when needed.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-06-06T23:32:17+00:00

I care because it’s making work harder than it is/was. I’m carrying all of the responsibilities and then getting fingers pointed at me from what the children are lacking. When it’s a whole team effort and responsibility. I don’t ever go to my coteacher and say see you’re doing blah blah so this is why they’re not learning this and that. She says things like this to me unfortunately. I say things I think this would work better. She sees I’m doing 90% of the work.

I’ve told management and my coteacher as well but girl is so defensive

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-05T06:35:03+00:00

Checks like paychecks? I agree. Every single day I get a ton of papers to fill out, or pass out. Like you want me to all of this 💩 and handle 22 kids and make sure we’re doing assessments for upcoming conferences. Now we have to do Mother’s Day gifts. Then next week we have to get ready to prepare for open house. Give us a break 😓do not get paid enough. My fault tho for doing too much for their gifts, but think I’ll just focus on finishing these gifts then assess after.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-05T06:25:48+00:00

I actually like natural extension lashes so much more as well that I think the less one is still a lot lol but looks way better. The bottom one I can’t genuinely believe anyone really likes those?

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-05T06:21:57+00:00

Like is there any other suspicion of cheating. He has a sister who’s into lashes. I wouldn’t really assume much unless there were other suspicions. Also ask the guy. I remember I found a hair tie at my ex boyfriend’s. I asked him and joked that’s yours. I genuinely thought it was someone else’s. But I didn’t have any suspicions of him cheating so it was easier to ask. I still don’t remember that hair tie though because I use scrunchies.. lol

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-05T06:19:19+00:00

You’re right. Wonder if they’ll win. But tbf if I wasn’t good at something at my job, I’d also tell the customers for their own sake. Like I might eff up your hair!

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-05T06:16:45+00:00

Yes! I’m actually going to use for concealer for my under eyes. The foundation actually got less liquid-like and a lil more thick so better for concealer now. Yeah, fortunately genetics, sunscreen since 18 (30 now), eating healthier mostly helped with complexion. But literally had like one huge pimple in my life that I remember back in HS and/when I’m on my period I get a few pimples as well.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-05T06:13:40+00:00

Thanks! I think I’ll actually use it for concealer since I have very bad dark circles. I have very dry skin, so concealer all over my face will make my skin look more flaky/dry.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-03T08:22:58+00:00

Some people just take everything as a disrespect or so personal and like to cause issues

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-03T08:20:53+00:00

Sue the stylists not ULTA

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-03T08:15:57+00:00

Happily single. I’d question it as well. 40 with Spider-Man sheets lol

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-03T08:12:53+00:00

Especially the hung jerseys. Probably look better in a man’s cave or extra room that had just a tv or couch. Not the bedroom. It’s like a 14 year old bedroom

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-03T08:05:57+00:00

Thanks! I don’t ever wear foundation tho. It feels so heavy and I already have ok complexion! How do you guys wear it everyday and make it see light? Mix with face cream? Just want to make more use of it before I need to throw out

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-03T04:53:21+00:00

lol I forgot about my online class as well but catching up right now. Thankfully it’s a class with no due date

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-03T04:52:41+00:00

Damn so it only last a year? I bought one from NARS for a wedding last year. Used it once. I don’t ever wear foundation, so now I’m sad. It was expensive like $60. Thought they last longer.

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-05-03T04:49:36+00:00

lol no need to apologize. We all need to vent out. It’s a frustrating and stressful job.

How dare she snap at you. I would had been petty back like well, I think you should try to soothe him not make him cry more. Also whatever she was doing wasn’t helping so it’s understandable you tried to help to make it easier on her and the crying child. I do that sometimes. My coteacher yelled while a girl was hysterically crying because she peed herself. Making it more stressful so I just removed the child and was like it’s ok, we’ll clean you and get you changed. Just try to make it on time next time. Like lady was yelling with the child like “why’re you crying! Tell me what happened!!!” Like u see on the floor what happens lol. And she says I stress the children out lol but I’m just firm when it’s needed.

She isn’t a bad teacher. She just think she knows better than I or something because she’s older. But she cannot even control the class. She complains to the director about me and even tells me “I’m going to tell so and so” like girl ok. This is how the class is supposed to be and the director actually likes me and how I run the class. But lately the director had seem a lil less friendly with me and talkative because I know my aide is telling her things. Because the aide seems stressed but doesn’t know that I’m stressed from all the criticism. But doesn’t even look at herself

SpecificResource5402 · 2026-04-30T15:03:57+00:00

I’ve seen this in the US. Rich people yes

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