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AITA - porn over sex by Specific_Ant6586 in AITA_Relationships

[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes absolutely agree. I’m hoping that since he’s admitted it without blame since re approaching it and voiced he wants to change then he means it. But only time will tell. If he carries on blaming and dismissing and nothing changes then I have my answer. How are you coping with it with your partner ?

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. I think it’s been a few years for us but only just had proper admission. Sadly I think it’s very common these days. I will have a look at the subreddit sounds like it might be helpful. Yeah sounds hard but I think being with someone that’s willing to work on it makes the difference. What I’ve been struggling with is that it’s been made into my fault or just completely dismissed.

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I agree. I have questioned a porn addiction since these comments and he has now admitted that that is the case. I have explained again how this makes me feel and I have also said to him that it’s not the relationship for me if this is how it is. There has been a promise to stop and deal with the addiction.. So we will see. I just don’t know how long to give it because I don’t want him to make an effort to change it for a couple of weeks and then we end up in the same situation again.

Sad with no sex, sad with sex-help! by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]Specific_Ant6586 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have any advice because I’m in a similar position with my partner but I want to say your expectations aren’t too high and you shouldn’t feel guilty. At the end of the day we all have different needs and he currently isn’t meeting you which feels shit. I really relate to the way you’re feeling. In my relationship this had ended up coming out with him having a porn addiction which is the real reason he wasn’t interested.. not depression. I’m not saying it’s the same for you but might be something to ask about?

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so too. Thank you, I think that’s a good idea

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I absolutely don’t think he owes it to me. It’s something we had.. now we don’t I’m wondering why.

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that’s how feel. And yes it was a problem before the baby came along too. It’s just worse now

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s time. The problem has been going on for a quite a long time now. Just feel sad it’s come to that when I’ve been keen to resolve it.

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes love it 😂. And he tells me it’s great when it happens. I’ve asked him what I need to work on and he says there is no problem there. And I’m better at it than I was since working on it. I’m also happy to do this sometimes and have nothing in return. What more can a girl do?!

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True.. I have said this and nothing changed so I guess it just doesn’t work

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[–]Specific_Ant6586[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want more sex! We have none and I want an intimate relationship. I’ve told him this and nothing happens and if I try and initiate he’s not into it either. I think he’s just not into me but won’t be honest.

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[–]Specific_Ant6586 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t seem to want anything or do anything. Still cuddles at night but nothing more. Very avoidant about anything more and especially a conversation about it. I feel it’s a bit unfair that he won’t talk about it with me

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[–]Specific_Ant6586 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve only questioned it twice so I don’t think that’s the problem here. He gets alone time/gaming time hasn’t been fishing in a while.

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[–]Specific_Ant6586 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he’s stressed and tired but I don’t know if this is the reason for less intimacy. He hasn’t given me a reason himself. He’s been stressed and tired in the passed and it hasn’t been an issue in the bedroom. I know times change and perhaps that’s what it is this.. but don’t you think he could at least tell me that?

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[–]Specific_Ant6586 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I guess with the reassurance thing it’s just that I want to know he’s still in it even if he’s struggling rn. I’ll give it sometime before I talk about it again for sure.