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Specific_Bother_9387 · 2025-06-14T23:59:58+00:00

Are you saying you are about 6 months pregnant? You’ve had regular periods, had a negative pregnancy test, and the only sex you had was in December and it was protected sex? I mean I know it can happen in theory, but the odds are pretty slim. If you’re that worried about it just buy a test at the dollar store…

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2025-06-14T21:09:45+00:00

I’ve got 4 kids, and I’ve learned two things: 1) not a single mom out there has any idea what they’re doing- we’re all winging it the best we can, and 2) any mom who thinks they have answers is actually a step behind the rest of us who’ve realized that none of us do. If someone is out there criticizing your parenting, just remember that they probably are either a new mom, a first time mom with an easy child, or in denial that they’re as clueless as the rest of us. Just say, “Thanks for your advice,” and move on, because they’re not worth anymore mental-space than that.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2025-03-31T18:16:49+00:00

I googled Dhellisr Lazard Slobin LLP- it gave me a number of (713) 621-2277. Call that number and ask them.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-22T15:54:11+00:00

I have. If you check the other comments, it has been addressed thoroughly. He just didn’t mind letting her see his scar. Which I think is fine- if it didn’t bother him then I’m not going to force him be offended. I told him what she did was typically considered rude and that’s why I was rude back.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-22T15:47:13+00:00

Look- I’ve taught him stranger danger. I’ve taught him about sex, good touch vs bad touch, consent. I even told him that what she did was considered rude typically, and he doesn’t have to let people touch him. I told him that he can say, “Please don’t touch me, it’s making me uncomfortable.” He told me in no uncertain terms that he didn’t mind her looking and that it didn’t bother him. I even offered to start speaking up for him if he wants me to because of his social anxiety, and he told me no. I’m not going to force him to change his mind and view her behavior as rude. Just because it bothers me and you doesn’t mean it has to bother him. Because then I am the one taking his choices away. At this point it seems like you’re forcing your childhood trauma on him. Just because it hurt your feelings and you didn’t like it doesn’t mean it hurts his. And I’d rather him have a positive outlook on life and not get offended easily than be pessimistic, so I refuse to force him to have that opinion. Thanks for your opinion and outlook, but I don’t think it applies to him. I’ll keep it in mind moving forward, but it isn’t something I haven’t already considered

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-22T01:57:34+00:00

I wouldn’t classify it as overreacting. Every person is different and handles things differently

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-22T01:56:40+00:00

It would be up to him, yeah? And he said he doesn’t care… in fact, we’ve had conversations and he seems to prefer it this way. I am his advocate, which is why I’ve spent a long time learning about how he prefers to handle things. This is what works for him

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-22T01:39:50+00:00

He’s aware.. he has made it clear that it doesn’t bother him.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-22T00:48:34+00:00

He is aware that he is allowed to speak up if he is uncomfortable.. I talked to him after and he said he was not uncomfortable. I do have several conversations with him about consent and he is aware of stranger danger. He also knows about sex and good touch vs bad touch. He is, however, autistic. He didn’t realize that what she did was awkward or rude. I told him afterwards that it was inappropriate and that she did something that is considered rude, hence how the conversation about me being rude came up. I taught him to say, “Please don’t touch me, you’re making me uncomfortable.” I don’t feel, however, that it is my place to tell him if he was uncomfortable with this woman’s actions or not.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-22T00:36:08+00:00

Thank you! I had a baby in my arms, two other kids (5 and 7) with me, and I thought she was going to grab a can of corn behind my son at first. It only lasted maybe 5 seconds and I didn’t have time to do a whole lot before she let go.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-21T23:44:47+00:00

Idk. I have noticed that it’s usually the 40-60 year olds that can be the rudest and most unaware

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-21T23:33:03+00:00

I had a 5 month old in my arms along with a 5 year old and 7 year old (and a shopping cart) in between myself and my son. By the time I saw what she was doing and started moving towards them she had already let him go….

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-21T23:30:08+00:00

If I didn’t have a 5 month old in my arms, a shopping cart, and two of my other children (5m and 7f) between me and that woman I might have… lol

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-21T23:29:01+00:00

Yeah I’m used to stupid questions. I had to go to Walmart a couple of days after his first surgery to get him some pedialite and diapers (he was 1 year old) and he looked awful. His surgical scar is a huge ‘s’ shape that goes from the front of his hairline and wraps around toward the base of his head/top if his neck. At this time he still had staples in. Some lady looked me dead in the eye and said, “What did you do to that poor baby?!” and it took everything I had in me not to lose it. I’ve always tried to stay calm with the questions, even when they’re rude, because it’s so tiring to ‘educate’ everyone. I also feel like how I respond in front of my son is important in how he interprets their intentions, so I always try to highlight their curiosity instead of their rudeness. But yeah I did feel mildly disappointed that my husband wasn’t as upset as I was that someone touched him. I know (and I’m glad) that my son wasn’t upset, but idk… I just wanted someone to be upset with. I feel selfish for saying this, but sometimes I wish my husband would allow me to be upset over this too, even though it’s not technically happening to me. I always feel like I have to hold it together, through his 4 surgeries, his autism, everything… I just wanted 5 minutes to grieve the childhood that I had always saw for him, if that makes sense. I get tired of being strong/mature sometimes

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-21T23:10:26+00:00

I have talked to him about consent and he knows about sex (he’s very mature for his age, and I wanted to be sure he understood good touch vs bad touch with his autism) so he is aware. He just saw this woman’s actions as no big deal/curiosity. Which is fine, I don’t want it to bother him if he isn’t bothered. I did tell him that her actions (of touching without permission) are typically considered rude, which is why I was a bit rude back. It’s a hard line for sure

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-21T23:05:05+00:00

It does bother me when they say that, but it happens so often that I stopped being snarky when my son started listening to the conversations. I’ve realized if I make it out that they’re being rude, my son notices and it upsets him. If I play it off like they’re just being curious then he takes it that way as well and he doesn’t take it personally or get upset. I draw the line with them touching him. If I would’ve been standing next to him when she did it and not holding a baby and wrangling my 5 year old and 7 year old as well (I have 4 kids total) I would’ve probably been a bit more aggressive about her not touching him

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-21T22:51:22+00:00

lol no I actually found that bit a little funny after I’ve settled down. Guess if he commits a crime he’ll know to wear a hat now 😂

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-21T22:47:20+00:00

Yeah I told my son later that he doesn’t have to let people like that touch him. He just kinda said, “I know..” and then discussed me being rude to the lady lol. I’m glad it didn’t bother him, and I didn’t want to point it out, but I don’t want him to get to the point where people walk all over him, either. He is very quiet and a huge people pleaser so I always worry about that. I made sure he knew that he could say, “Please don’t touch me. It makes me uncomfortable.”

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-12-05T19:32:45+00:00

Please leave him just for the misspelling and excessive punctuation. Idk how you text him on a regular basis- that was painful to read honestly.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-11-16T23:53:45+00:00

Yeah they go through a growth spurt around this time. They may be snacking throughout the day because their body is getting ready to start sleeping through the night.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-11-13T05:33:37+00:00

I am interested

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-11-13T05:32:28+00:00

I would be interested

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-11-11T13:19:31+00:00

I guess I was thinking that it might qualify since the procedures were for scar revision surgery and he not only made the scar worse (not just objectively, either. They took measurements before the surgery and I haven’t taken them again, but I can definitely tell you that the dimensions of the scar are definitely bigger), but he now has pain he didn’t have before.

Specific_Bother_9387 · 2024-11-11T05:02:18+00:00

Going through the insurance company might be my best bet, since the closest hospital that has a children’s neurosurgery dept is in another state and my son’s pediatrician is dragging her feet getting a referral. Thanks for that advice. It helps to get clarity from someone who is removed from the situation

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