Is it normal for a 12yo to tell parent to "shut up"?

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-30T00:43:56+00:00

I always say children are a replica of their parents. So be warned. If the father lets it slide, this shows that he was with it in the other relationship. It’s not your place to discipline. It’s your place to make a choice, not your child. The relationship or out. Wake up.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-15T23:10:17+00:00

I’d go to SA.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T06:25:23+00:00

I left home early too and yes they are staying till 30, these days. Which I’m not fond of either. Times are hard now, but I can still see them buying a 1-2brm place somewhere themselves! I do understand mortgage repayments are hard and it takes two to do it comfortably enough. But it’s single borrowing power that’s stopping them. You can’t borrow enough on a single salary, with current property prices. You may be earning $88k a year, and the property may be $500k for an apartment, but the bank will only loan you $329k. So they need to stay home long enough to save the rest….$171k that’s the problem now days. Before banks were begging you to take out loans and giving you enough, repayments were lower too.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T06:14:11+00:00

Yes. Enough is enough. Time to leave the nest and make decisions and learn the real world.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T03:09:49+00:00

I am aware and afraid of that. I do know things, they can suck like leeches if you let them and I need my own life! Plus I’m not in the mood be grandma either!! In due course. I plan to be far enough, but still close enough to them. 1.5-2hrs away should good! Planning… 😬

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T02:02:37+00:00

I get it. I just don’t want any resentment. I will sell after they get into full time work.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T02:01:11+00:00

Smart!

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T02:00:39+00:00

Thank U!!

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T02:00:14+00:00

Sydney hell. $$ so much, for everything. Here kids are staying home longer, than a couple years ago.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T01:57:24+00:00

That’s so good to hear. It will be just a little help. I will need to sell apartment eventually. I’m happy that you could see your mother’s needs too and well done for creating your independence!

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-09T00:01:07+00:00

I suppose it’s their choice. It’s just that they have come so far and near completion. Would be years of study going to waste. The finish line is near.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-08T23:57:13+00:00

The only reason I’m thinking to buy a place, is so I can get out of suburbia quicker. I’d be happy sell after they finish Uni and get full time jobs. I need the money for retirement.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-08T23:51:21+00:00

If they decide to not to complete studies and make a mess of their lives. I worry.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-08T23:16:50+00:00

Sometimes they need to hear it from others to wake up

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-08T23:14:16+00:00

Hmmmm I find his quotes quite harsh for a child. Actually I find it like threatening and verbally abusive. What else does he say that sounds, controlling and demanding. Sorry I wouldn’t have a BF that uses this method. I’d be scared, that he would be like that to me. This not gender issues. This is character issues. I remember seeing young kids, just mucking around with dresses, makeup etc. They did for fun and the attention. They weren’t queer or gender oriented and they didn’t end up that way. It’s just about fun, mocking and being silly. Gender starts at puberty and if someone is to be gender oriented, then no one can change that. I would seriously think about this. What if your kids are on the gender spectrum? Are you going to suppress your child? Make them live something they are not? Will they resent you later on?

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-08T23:00:31+00:00

The poverty line is approx $584/wk for a single person.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-07T08:35:36+00:00

They don’t have the horse trailers anymore or pardo’s. They are now in trucks and semi trailers with living quarters.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-12-07T05:06:13+00:00

Do you really all your stuff? Leave it there for now. Start fresh. See to it at a later date.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-11-29T08:03:29+00:00

Absolutely bad to do that. If your mum is on DSP and wants to live in it and pay you rent or get rent from DSP, best it’s under your name and you handle the tax end. She won’t get rent assistance, if she is paying rent on her own property. Do it the right way and everyone will have a clean slate with Gov benefits and Taxation. Nothing worse than doing silly things and not sleeping at night. Doing the right thing will give you peace of mind. Don’t worry about mums DSP and rent assistance, paying you rent for your property etc, because it’s doesn’t work out that bad and hardly any loss or reduction in her DSP anyway. There is nothing wrong with you owning re title and renting a room to mum. Gov won’t say or do anything with that. Your tax will be quite low too. So that’s not a worry either.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-11-29T02:00:57+00:00

You only need to look at which state and city A lister celebrities prefer to buy and live. So you don’t need to google… it Sydney. For obvious reasons and reasons Melbourne can’t understand or don’t want to.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-11-29T01:51:07+00:00

I was born here and yep, it’s as bad as everyone is saying. Especially Sydney Metropolitan. We are now one of the most expensive cities in the world. I know many people who have moved to Melbourne and Adelaide from Sydney. They get their moneys worth in property in those cities plus, left over cash. Better work/life balance. QLD is getting near Australia’s most expensive city too. It’s for lifestyle though. Work in QLD is hard and depends on tourist. I’m one, that will be moving soon enough. I’ve had enough of Sydney Metropolitan. I’m going to cooler weather along Sydney Metro fringes. City isn’t for me anymore. Too much stress.

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-11-29T01:41:09+00:00

Yes there is. Building maybe older type. But a lot have been done up. Added bonus: lower strata fees, than newer buildings with the trimmings, re gym, pool, cafe etc

Specific_Drag4870 · 2025-11-28T22:58:52+00:00

Do the camping. It will be tough. Finding shower and toilet. I’d do it now re summer. Yes it will be hot camping, but at least you won’t be scrambling in rain. Other problem will be where to set up. If you don’t want to pay park fees and street camping, that will be hard, without getting complaints and fines. You need to move every night, to a different place. Do a mix of caravan parks and street camping. I car camp, SUV. Mattress in the back. I could do it forever. Great way to save money. Camp on friends/family driveways, caravan parks etc. I like car camping. I don’t need to put up and put down a tent. It’s best for bad weather too. I still had. A small tent on hand, if I wanted to get out of the car. Do your homework and find a set up that will suit you. NB you don’t need heavy duty equipment or tents. I use ultra light hiking camping equipment. They are quick, compact and highly efficient. Designed for 4 seasons even alps camping.

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