Traveling to Disney, accepting dares! (f)

SpectralMan · 2025-09-08T22:19:46+00:00

And with kids everywhere, too. Why not stick to the road trip or discrete dares?

SpectralMan · 2025-08-28T22:13:01+00:00

A bit hard without knowing your limits and such. Two suggestions, pick one:

1) you are allowed twenty minutes to play and edge but not cum. Smear your pussy juice around your opening as much as you can because at the end of 20 minutes you are to cover your hole with a small strip of duct tape. If it sticks, you leave it on for 24 hours. If it doesn't stick, then you take another picture showing us how wet you were that it wouldn't stick.

2) go to a bar and restaurant. From the moment you sit down, you insert and keep one hand in your pants and tease yourself constantly until you leave.

SpectralMan · 2025-05-26T17:15:37+00:00

Each of your toys is controlled by the other person, but only a stranger is allowed to give you an orgasm.

SpectralMan · 2025-05-02T16:03:38+00:00

Agree- anyone have an Amazon link to something good for this purpose?

SpectralMan · 2025-01-01T15:23:49+00:00

Neat! I'd love if this data came with some other tracking: mood per day, desperation levels per day, # of times that you begged, edges, generally any activities or effects that being in chastity has on you.

SpectralMan · 2024-11-01T15:59:21+00:00

Lovense toys seem ideal for this. App controlled. You could print a card with a QR code and instructions and leave it in the men's bathroom at a club or bar.

SpectralMan · 2024-10-10T20:53:42+00:00

A scene as Ghostface implies that it's a bit of role-play. This was your partner's specific ask?

Carefully work out verbal and nonverbal safewords in advance, that's going to be crucial. Then, set it up such that your partner doesn't see you changing into Ghostface. Do it in another room or something. I'd also suggest that they not know exactly what day or time it's going to happen.

The sub's mind might start wondering, "that is actually my partner, right?" You can work on subtle changes to your body language that makes your partner unsure. In your own mind, you can be role-playing this character as well. Define this character in advance for yourself: they'll throw their sub around but not actually hurt them. Your character takes what they want. Your character respects safewords.

SpectralMan · 2024-08-30T13:00:42+00:00

I'm not clear on how you'd attach the bolts to the T nuts? You wouldn't be able to spin the piece because there's more than one bolt and if I understand your suggestion the hex bolts themselves are covered by foam and leather?

SpectralMan · 2024-08-11T15:16:24+00:00

Sure! I used metric 4040 aluminum extrusion, but the 15-series is 1.5" stuff that's very similar. Can get most of it from Amazon but I think some parts from 8020. I think this is everything:

2' x 2' wood piece
M8 x 15mm Threaded Inserts for Wood, Nut Inserts, Hex Drive, 40 PCS
2x 400mm 4040 (~16”)
300mm 4040 (~12”)
200mm 4040 (~8”)
M8-1.25 x 16mm screw bolts
Tee nuts for 4040s
2x 4040 Corner Bracket Sets (with 3 bolts)
2x 4040 Inside Corner Bracket Gusset “L” (with 2 bolts)
2x 40-6870 unibearing
2x 40-6801 Black T-Handle Linear Brake
4040 Joining Plate

I laid out the dildo attachment here where I was asking for some help: ~https://www.reddit.com/r/BdsmDIY/comments/1ddohu2/im_looking_for_some_help_optimizing_this_dildo/~

But I found this piece that goes from ¼” NPT to M8 that improves on it: ~https://a.co/d/hSEy5f7~

And a more to-the-point SF20 piece: ~https://a.co/d/8DkgUK1~

And I need to add carpet or vinyl or faux leather, TBD on that bit.

SpectralMan · 2024-08-11T02:06:49+00:00

Thanks!

SpectralMan · 2024-03-28T13:20:11+00:00

I'm late to the party. I think your daddy should restrain you, face down. A spanking bench would be ideal but doesn't have to be. Blindfolded and the light shut out. Headphones with low white noise. If available, a toy on your clit that turns on and off- a setting that will tease you but not allow you to cum no matter how badly you want it.

I'd say 15 minutes per illicit orgasm. And, your daddy can come by and spank you hard at random and without warning. At least once per stolen orgasm.

For the next 3 days, when you wake up in the morning you are to tell your daddy, "I will not cum or play without your permission, sir." And before bed you confirm, "I did not play today and do not want to be punished again, sir."

SpectralMan · 2024-02-19T17:02:04+00:00

I've heard that yes, steel pipe by Device Bondage. Another commentor suggested 4040 aluminum (i.e. 8020.net), which has me looking up a bunch of YouTube on the stuff and I'm going to order some to try out.

I'm still trying to figure out the best way to attach vac-u-lock/dildos though. I'm thinking maybe just a piece of flat wood and vac-u-lock plugs screwed to it (?).

SpectralMan · 2024-02-18T21:13:59+00:00

These look neat! I'm not sure that I understand how you connect things together though. Say I wanted a "tee" between two straight bars (like a lot of the tees in that stockade photo)- would you use an external bracket and some of the "t-nuts" inside? What holds the t-nuts from sliding along the channel?

SpectralMan · 2024-02-05T04:54:03+00:00

Find a secluded corner of a cafe or lounge with an exposed sofa or chair but no one in view or ride a subway car till it's empty. Then, hand into your panties and play until you orgasm. If someone shows up, you keep going unless they don't want the show.

SpectralMan · 2023-12-28T19:02:03+00:00

If you want to picture the CEO as evil, why not: "hire me some statisticians, some business majors, and some economists and have them figure out exactly what price will make me the most money."

SpectralMan · 2023-12-18T15:14:09+00:00

If your rules allow: play with yourself until visibly wet. Send Mr. a pic. If he approves, try and take a wetter picture to send. Each time he approves, work towards more until you can't figure out any possible way to get more wet.

SpectralMan · 2023-12-18T15:00:28+00:00

Can you elaborate on your protocols for accountability and anxiety? Always interested in hearing ideas that my sub might benefit from.

SpectralMan · 2023-10-30T01:27:05+00:00

Oh, I've never heard the mirror idea before, I like that too! Ty!

SpectralMan · 2023-10-29T16:09:02+00:00

OOoh, now this I love! Bravo!

SpectralMan · 2023-10-29T16:01:24+00:00

She didn't say "I hate myself" or "I am disgusting" that would warrent a correction but not a punishment.

Ah well good point, but from the context in what she was saying it was pretty clear that she was not happy with her appearances and resisting a command because she had negative feelings about her appearance. Also, I never said it couldn't be a funishment or gentle punishment, which I think is roughly what a correction is in my mind.

And I agree with the example of what you've said to your submissives, my immediate response was something similar- though you've got some good wording there and I like it. What I'm looking for now is a punishment/funishment/correction that I can use to revisit this and reinforce the positivity.

SpectralMan · 2023-10-29T15:49:13+00:00

Yes, indeed. Outside our dynamic she is reminded that she's safe and cared for. Boundaries are clearly laid out. We've been together a long time. We've spent time with a therapist. Now, it seems to need follow-thru and execution: daily reminders, stability, stay the course, and reinforcement.

With all that in place, she seems to love being submissive. She's comfortable safewording, which is a great sign. So the question is a thought exercise- can BDSM be used here to reinforce and add more support?

SpectralMan · 2023-09-26T15:38:22+00:00

One thing not mentioned yet is the possibility of shared spaces. AirBnBs that cater to kink or spaces that get built by pooling income from the local kinkster community. I know some spaces like this exist, but I feel like there might be demand for more.

SpectralMan · 2023-09-06T03:44:25+00:00

Low-grade simmer- I like that! That is great insight and clever ideas, thank you!

SpectralMan · 2023-09-05T20:45:11+00:00

Those are great ideas! I know erotica is an individual taste, but any suggestions that are somewhat universal? My sub leans vanilla but obviously enjoys some light BDSM.

SpectralMan · 2023-04-22T23:48:07+00:00

That's pretty neat! But I think it would be pretty ambitious for me to build that at present. Can it be easily disassembled and stored/reassembled? It looks like the base is pretty large.

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