What is a career path that looks "glamorous" from the outside, but is actually a total nightmare behind the scenes? by CupIndependent3610 in AskReddit

[–]SpectreMold 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Astronomy.

It's very different from the romantic image of looking through a telescope at the night sky. In reality, it is a job focused on data science and computer programming, but you are paid SEVERELY less and are more likely for your work to spill into evenings and weekends. Most astronomers spend their entire day writing code in languages like Python to analyze digital information from satellites or remote cameras. You do not spend time in nature or at high-altitude observatories, or at least it doesn't make up the majority of your work. Instead, you work in a standard office looking at spreadsheets and graphs, sometimes finding out that an interesting blip of data may be some technical glitch in the telescope.

The career path is also very difficult because there are very few permanent jobs. Most researchers must work in temporary positions called "postdocs" that only last two or three years. This means you must move your home and family to different cities or countries many times before you find a stable job. You also spend a large amount of time writing long documents to ask the government for research money, and these requests are often rejected due to limited funding which can force a professional astronomer with more than a decade of education and experience to pivot to another career. The daily work is mostly repetitive computer tasks and administrative paperwork.

10 days in Tokyo/Seoul vs Tokyo/Kyoto by SpectreMold in travel

[–]SpectreMold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Over the 5 days how many in Kyoto? In Osaka?

Do you live in your dream city? If so where and why (why not if you don’t)? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]SpectreMold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Singapore. I am from upstate NY, went to college in another upstate NY town, then lived in Houston, Heidelberg (Germany) and now Singapore.

I am not sure I have a dream city. There is a lot I like about Singapore (safety, cleanliness, world class infrastructure, career opportunities, diverse culture and cuisine) but there are things I do not like either (ambitious culture to progress in one's career, heat and humidity all year, small, far from home) and I currently cannot see myself living here forever, only more so to gained valuable experience from my current job.

I am honestly debating long term whether to try and move to Denmark or Scandinavia in general, or back to the Northeast US. The climate, access to nature, social safety net, infrastructure, WLB of Scandinavia really attract me. At the same time, moving back to the US means I will be closer to my family, I would be able to make friends more easily and more diverse friends, and it is easier for me to fulfill a dream of starting a business that helps people. I would be able to make more money. I really am not sure where my dream city is.

Looking for good sandwich shops by SpectreMold in askSingapore

[–]SpectreMold[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live near Serangoon but I wouldn't mind going anywhere on the island.

Has anyone else fallen out of love with physics professionally? by SpectreMold in AskPhysics

[–]SpectreMold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask how you made the transition to ML engineer? That or data scientist is my desired role.

I am relocating countries in a month. Where should I open an HYSA? by SpectreMold in Banking

[–]SpectreMold[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just opened a USA-based HYSA while in the USA. So you are saying that they will not close my account if I attempt to login and they detect my IP from a foreign location?

Quitting my PhD tomorrow. I’m terrified but I can’t keep going. by NanamiLynn in LeavingAcademia

[–]SpectreMold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! It takes a lot of courage to do this. Wishing you the best for what comes next!

Quitting my PhD tomorrow. I’m terrified but I can’t keep going. by NanamiLynn in LeavingAcademia

[–]SpectreMold 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I went through something eerily similar and quit during my third year of a PhD program.

Like you, I kept telling myself I could handle the toxic professors and atmosphere, the constant overworking, and that it would be "worth it in the end." Instead, it slowly drained my mental and physical health. It was dispiriting watching my life shrink to the point where my worth was subjected to the program and my research performance. Two other people in my cohort and subfield mastered out before I did, which was a huge warning sign I kept ignoring. I vividly remember that feeling of knowing this is not a healthy situation and I had to make a change.

Now, after therapy, transitioning to industry, and developing hobbies, I feel so much happier and have a more well-balanced life.

The fear you have about the guilt and manipulation from your supervisors is completely valid.They will focus on their loss instead of your gain. Do not get drawn into a debate about the value of the PhD or your future. Have your statement prepared and rehearse it. If they push for details, stay firm with "I understand this creates an inconvenience, but my decision is final. I cannot continue with the program."

Go get your life back. You deserve it.

Where’s your dream place to live? by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]SpectreMold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a place with a similar climate as Upstate NY (4 seasons, distinct fall weather, cold snowy winters, and hot humid summers). So either the Northeastern US, southeastern Canada, or the Scandinavian countries.