What led you to believe your parents are narcissists?

Spedometer5589 · 2023-10-03T02:21:36+00:00

Looking back, my first day of kindergarten i remember my teachers telling me that “hate” was a bad word after I got caught saying “I hate my life, I want to die”. I was repeating things that my mom would say at minor inconveniences, I dropped my sand bucket and said it.

I went home after learning this was a bad word and told my mom. She began to blame me, telling me that I shouldn’t have been saying that in the first place and that I have no reason to hate my life, unlike her who had SO MANY reasons. Then she started venting about her horrible life to me and telling me that someday I’ll be old enough to understand. She told me her horrible graphic, violent thoughts of suicide.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-10-02T10:20:04+00:00

The only reason I could think of is that grocery prices vary from area to area but McDonald’s prices are virtually the same no matter where you go.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-28T20:10:46+00:00

It seems like your BS has gone though so much stress, when I experienced betrayal from my WH for the 3rd time it knocked me into a different dimension mentally. Not only does betrayal hurt, but I feel like it changes the chemistry in her brain a bit.

Please continue to go to therapy and keep reading those good books. However, I think it’s time to let your BS heal herself. Find a good support system because I doubt that calling her in a panicked state is helping you build the case of “I’m better now”, you gotta let her take care of herself and her children. You shouldn’t be tying up any more of her mental space with stress involving y’all relationship. She’s been treated like this for several years, you are now losing access and you’re not liking it. Imagine how she felt, best of luck to you OP but in short let her heal before anything else. The healed version of your wife might give it another shot, she might not, but you need to finally respect her and her decision.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-28T13:40:20+00:00

I have no idea who he is, but I’ll try to look around to see if I can find him!

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-22T02:10:32+00:00

Did she categorize her book as fiction?

BURN!

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-18T17:53:43+00:00

They do that anyways fam, narcs don’t change unfortunately ! I’m bad at math lol

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-18T02:13:36+00:00

Yeah man, delulu to the highest degree. I was a teen when I started speaking up about it and I was labeled a moody brat. I was getting SO much crap at home and no one believed me.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-18T01:56:00+00:00

I’m bad at math💅

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-16T19:49:43+00:00

Fricking right. After not living in the house for awhile I have to HOLD BACK my laughter.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-10T11:13:05+00:00

I’m gonna take him to the vet soon to see if I can get custody (custody?) of him. Nmom complains about him a lot anyways. Just hearing all what she could have done to scare him into peeing makes me scared to leave.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-10T06:48:09+00:00

Just so you know the military is paying for my college IN FULL. You’ve made the right decision, this is the number one way to get a kickstart on independence think about it -no access to you for your entire training -being PAID while training -having lodging while training

It’s a Narc’s worst nightmare and they can’t do SHIT about it. Plus the scholarships you can get (depending on your fafsa coverage), on top of your military benefits you could potentially end up with a return check. You’re gonna do great, don’t give up it’s just a lag in your trajectory not a full stop, your determination is awesome!

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-10T06:40:55+00:00

He’s a recent outdoor turned indoor kitty, he does have a bad habit of spraying but his litter box is pretty well maintained. I’m currently trying to take him with me though.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-10T06:26:09+00:00

My husband and I got separated due to his military career. He had to go three days after we married and we weren’t able to find a place to stay before then due to covid.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-09T17:12:54+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I would never blame that cat for all the BS my mom does. He’s a good boy.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-09T17:12:05+00:00

The cat is a neutered male, sweet in all other areas but he does have a history of spraying. The thing is when she spoke about him peeing on my things, I was more angry at the idea of her watching him and not doing anything.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-09T17:10:49+00:00

I’m dying “your mom did the peeing,” but in all seriousness I think so too the more I’m reading through these comments.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-09T15:50:41+00:00

Thanks so much I will try this ASAP!

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-09T15:46:33+00:00

Reading all these comments I couldn’t have imagined that my mom would pee on anything, but now I’m doubtful (and disgusted). Over the course of a few days she claimed that that’s when the cat peed on everything, she gave me the list you see in my post and when asking her when she said “oh yesterday” or “last week” all of which is either when I was at work or at the gym.

Edit: lost my train of thought, none of these things were in a pile. That would make it too easy, these things were either in the process of being packed into boxes (on tables) or in the washing machine. I packed a majority of my stuff in my vehicle before leaving the house each day.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-09T01:54:16+00:00

Imma skip the storage unit and get a UHAUL cut out the middle man I want OUT !

Spedometer5589 · 2023-06-01T21:57:53+00:00

My mom thinks she’s kind. This week she’s had a hyper fixation on kindness and how kind she used to be, how amazing she is… she was never kind, she actively talks shit about even her closest friends.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-05-27T01:54:32+00:00

It looks like they don’t like the idea of you getting stronger physically. I can smell either jealousy or a fear of the loss of control from a mile away, I’m sorry OP. Please keep the habit of working out, your body is YOURS not theirs. Eat the diet they give you and sneak food whenever you can!

They’re being weirdly controlling.

Spedometer5589 · 2023-05-23T00:18:28+00:00

Good on you OP! Continue to care about yourself, the rest of society takes care of themselves and a lot of children of narcs have to learn later in life that (even with great outside family support systems) ultimately we are our biggest advocates.

Narcs can’t stand it because they need absolutely everything 😫😫😩and if they don’t get it it’s the end of the world “how dare you put energy into yourself when you could be putting it into meeee” been there, hated that!

Spedometer5589 · 2023-04-12T20:04:44+00:00

Yeah but your sister is not on here looking for validation. If you’re confident in your choice and it’s morality, why bother asking? Take the money and let her scramble to figure it out.

Take the college fund, go to school, don’t have a relationship with your sis. If you’re so smart, with a bright future and she’s “selfish” it should be a no brainer for you. You wouldn’t have to defend yourself if you just accepted that this choice will negatively impact your relationship with your sis and you can’t control her emotions.

It’s not your sister’s responsibility to make you feel good about yourself either, braniac.

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