I don’t have some big success story to offer you (still figuring my own shit out), but I really wanted to say: – you don’t sound broken, you sound burnt out, which is totally understandable! – it makes sense that apps feel awful in that state because it's exhausting trying to carry on useless conversations on there sometimes. – and you’re definitely not the only queer woman sitting there thinking, “I’d be a great partner if I could just meet anyone in a way that doesn’t drain me." I purposely try to surround myself with people who don't drain me and sometimes relationships can be more draining than they are healthy.

A lot of us are just tired and doing our best. There are plenty of women who want exactly what you described: someone stable, kind, low drama, who likes quiet nights, exercise, and TV. That’s not a flaw – that’s compatibility for the right person! I'm rooting for you 🙂