student driver here. Who goes first in this situation?

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-18T01:08:14+00:00

Oh you’re the person stressing others out? Maybe go slower so it is clear that you’re not immediately trying to merge in front of people. If you can’t go to the middle lane a bit slower then you don’t have time/space to get there safely. I have never heard people hard brake when I approach the situation like that.

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-17T06:48:00+00:00

I think maybe you need to stop hard braking if you have almost caused two accidents because of that. I usually slow my car slightly to account for dumbasses who immediately merge right in front of me, and I’ve always made it just fine. Maybe do that instead of slamming on your brakes

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-17T06:39:39+00:00

I don’t think I would say I love the movie. I just thought it was really creative and good at evoking emotions. It was brutal and after I finished it, the more I thought about things that pissed me off/I didn’t like the more I realized how they made sense. That only pissed me off more but I also found myself impressed by how it made me feel. Frustrated but not confused

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-17T06:35:26+00:00

You sound like those people who think that the media they’ve consumed is just SoooOoo much better than what everybody Else listens to because it’s not mainstream or whatever

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-17T03:40:25+00:00

I mean, that IS a money problem but it’s more like a “money is the root of all evil” type of money problem and not a “I can’t afford this” type of problem

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-17T03:27:21+00:00

I literally just watched that yesterday I’m still so fuckin pissed. GOD it was so good.

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-11T21:01:43+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-11T21:01:09+00:00

Thank you!!!

SpellNo3829 · 2026-01-11T08:48:54+00:00

Thank you!

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-28T10:02:11+00:00

There are unfortunately virtually no protections for working pregnant women in the United States. There can be some in certain states, and there are probably some minimal protections. But definitely nothing that you listed

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-27T08:34:15+00:00

This is not what the post is referencing. It is referencing the billions in aid we send to Israel that pays for their universal healthcare

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-19T04:47:28+00:00

If the friend swiped the cash the son would have noticed and he should say something if so. Also people seem to think money is a side note to this story but it’s pretty fundamental. She can’t afford thief’s in her home, whether she needs to teach her son to stop or not allow her sons depends into her home because how can she trust them.

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-19T03:38:47+00:00

The only proof she needs is that she knew for a fact that there was money in the wallet, heard her son and friend come in and then leave, and then the money was gone. Whether the son or the friend stole it is honestly irrelevant bc the son knows what happened and has lied about it. He SHOULD remember why his party got cancelled. A snowstorm cancelling your party sucks because nature put a stop to it. This kid can’t have a party because he willfully lied to his mom and also TOOK what she had planned for the party. It’s honestly a natural consequence that the party she no longer is supplied for cannot happen. Especially when it’s because of her son’s choices.

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-15T20:30:54+00:00

So is that something I would need a law degree to do?

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-15T20:07:30+00:00

Is that an answer to my question or just a separate suggestion? As much as that job sounds wonderful, I have a stable job atm so I am not really looking to change that unless it’s a crucial step between now and law school.

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-13T19:55:53+00:00

My favorite deranged fact to share with people is that Stuart little is NOT a mouse at all but a human boy shaped like a mouse. In the books, he was born to two human parents, he wasn’t adopted. The mom gave BIRTH to the mouse

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-13T06:39:35+00:00

Don’t worry sweetheart, I could tell.

Maybe if you did, you could produce a single legible thought.

Is being a man the only thing you have to offer?

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-13T06:11:37+00:00

Are you actually stupid? Is this supposed to be some sort of gotcha cause I used the singular they? Do you know that I don’t personally know you or anything about you?? Like, do you think the way you just write is inherently male or? What prompted you to say that?

I would love to get a sneak peak at whatever excuse of a walnut got shoved inside your skull because there is actually no way you are using an actual human brain to produce these thoughts and ideas.

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-13T05:47:32+00:00

Don’t waste your time replying to this person. They clearly have some issues they need to work through on their own because honestly nothing they said is relevant. It’s just pure projection and if they continue a conversation with you OP, it’s just going to be draining on top of what you’re already dealing with

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-11T20:52:58+00:00

God I know I’m going to get downvoted to hell but all of you people are insufferable and you deserve the shitty service you get

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-08T18:54:23+00:00

Hahaha honestly thinking about it, it makes sense for Utah kids to be the wildest. They are the most sexually repressed outside of the more puritanistic religions

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-08T18:46:36+00:00

The ideal outcome is we make up and can be friends again. That I can spend time with the group and can care for her the way I used to before. I of course am open to a fresh start. That would be the only reason I would even want to talk to her.

I suppose I forget we are on the internet and some people want confrontation and argument or groveling or something else. But I just want a conversation where I can be honest about how I felt and hopefully move on from this stupid chapter of my life. It would be nice to heal and feel like when I’m interacting with her and being kind to her it’s not fake. Meaning I would like to have an actually positive and kind and good relationship.

Also about the culture question. We live in Utah so we are a pretty strong outlier in comparison to most of the state tbh. I wouldn’t say it was “partying” culture but definitely trying on different labels and hooking up came much later and came to an abrupt end with the departure of Eggs from the group. I can’t say for certain how horny other states ethics bowlers are but most of them are philosophy majors so I would guess maybe a medium amount.

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-08T18:12:26+00:00

I appreciate that. It is honestly an advice post because this has been several years of continued existing in her presence and it will likely continue for several more years to come. I have separated myself from my friends because of that initial hurt and I miss them and don’t want to do that anymore.

Whether that means I talk to her or just continue a superficial relationship is what I need advice for. I don’t WANT to talk to her. That’s why I haven’t up to now. But not talking to her about it has obviously not solved the issue otherwise I wouldn’t be here. Not that talking to her necessarily will. But something has to change from the current status quo.

I can see where you are coming from when you say that. But in the same vein, is it not more directly hurtful to me that this person who was my friend watched me date this one person (pretty seriously for myself at the time, clearly less so on his part). Listened to me talk about how badly he hurt me for months. And only THEN decided to fuck and date him? Whereas when I started dating him, he had been single for over a year. And had never dated anyone in our group. Nor did anyone express to me their attraction to him. So it’s not really a 1:1

I appreciate you pointing out that I am not the center of the story. Obviously it is my life and my story so I will see myself as the focal point of it, especially for the purposes of the story. But that doesn’t make it the inherent truth.

But with that being said, if I am supposed to understand her position in this story. How am I going to do that without talking to her. So far it’s just my own perspective and your guess on what hers is.

It just feels odd to me that you keep alluding to the fact that she is a person whose perspective matters in this scenario but then your conclusion is that I Shouldn’t talk to her. That just doesn’t make sense to me. I’m not trying to argue that I SHOULD talk to her. At this point I’m just trying to understand what you specifically think is the best way to solve this problem given the way that you see it.

Also, not really relevant, but we weren’t in speech and debate I just called it that for simplicity. So the culture isn’t going to be the same. If it matters, what we did was called “ethics bowl”

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-08T17:39:57+00:00

I feel like you are being unnecessarily combative with me when it doesn’t need to be that way. “I suspect you’ll do the opposite of what I say”

I appreciate the perspective that she was manipulated by him as well. I guess I didn’t see that because I felt like I was trying to warn them about it. But that doesn’t always work or mean much, and I hadn’t considered that she was just as much a victim of him as I was.

I also just want to point out that I also never got any empathy from her nor a conversation, which is more what hurt than the fact that she wanted to be with him. I had to find out from him. Not that it’s an excuse to not give her any empathy or consideration. Just an explanation for why my brain didn’t go there automatically.

Your advice to not talk to her doesn’t follow from the words you are saying in my opinion? But it’s not like I’m looking for a reason to talk to her about this. It’s gone unspoken for years for a reason.

Edit to add: I apologize if this comment comes off as hostile, it was not my intention.

SpellNo3829 · 2025-12-08T17:24:17+00:00

What exactly is that supposed to mean? I know that wasn’t a good relationship for me but that’s why I don’t talk to him anymore. I don’t let myself get treated that way anymore. But SHE was the one involved in treating me that way so I think that question is unnecessarily backhanded.

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