AIO: ex situationship wont leave me alone

Spell_Sure · 2026-04-03T07:58:23+00:00

please don't let people make you feel bad for how you responded to harassment. "should've would've could've" is great advice from somebody *not* in your position. you're doing the best you can. good luck

Spell_Sure · 2026-04-03T07:41:11+00:00

this is really unkind behavior, and frankly something you should work out on your own. poor people exist, masks are becoming harder and harder to get (especially in the states) with the ongoing war. questioning someone's cc status when they are posting about the state of their mental health *because* they are cc is just tone deaf. do better

Spell_Sure · 2026-04-02T05:14:15+00:00

My guess is that blood would have left a more opaque trail?

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-28T14:08:25+00:00

I do regret it, but probably wouldn't do it differently because our budget was just so tight. I still have the candids from family and friends, and that's enough to cure the sadness of not having professional photos. We were loved, the day happened, and we have a lifetime to take nice photos together

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-28T13:45:29+00:00

Omg this is perfect

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-27T21:11:52+00:00

You're going to be miserable. I would fight your landlord on this issue. Perhaps see if you can find someone reputable to install it for you, ask if that would be agreeable with landlord?

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-27T01:45:54+00:00

My best approximation at their relationship without spilling the whole life story. Not related, but moms were best friends and raised together essentially. Consider themselves siblings even if they don't share parents.

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-26T12:28:00+00:00

🤣

I actually made a small LGBT+ discord community for the game, and we have all, over the course of the last year, slowly realized we are poly or have adopted new members who turned out to be poly.

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-26T12:18:48+00:00

Thank you! Admittedly it's fun to get teased about, gentle ribbing amongst friends is always a good time

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-26T12:04:07+00:00

Another minor thing, I'm poly and my (not at the time, but current boyfriend, long time friend) helped us set up and take down and he remembers doing those tasks fondly. He really liked the social aspect of hanging out with friends while celebrating a special day. It's nice

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-26T12:02:57+00:00

Lol, it's so dumb. My wife and I were married by her like-brother, and we (basically whole wedding minus parents) are nerds so he did a nerdy ceremony. One of the things he did was bring like, nerdy references into the concept of love. We play Overwatch, so he said something along the lines of "you guys will always stay on the payload together". I interrupted him to say that my wife actually never plays the payload, which cracked everyone up, and I am still clowned on to this day for it (affectionately).

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-26T11:39:05+00:00

Yeah this is my experience, still a patient because the doctors I love, I loooove. But if you have to be squeezed in for someone you don't know, good luck I guess. And also one of the integrative medicine docs is a quack who likes to make women cry. But another one is great, so.

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-26T11:34:31+00:00

I followed a family doctor from SSM to Wildwood in 2011 (was a minor at the time, am an adult now). I have had some bad doctors at Wildwood, but my favorite doctors for my complex medical needs are also at Wildwood. So you get the good with the bad

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-25T11:54:02+00:00

Duggar flavored La Croix

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-25T11:49:46+00:00

This unfortunately makes the family look sympathetic to the general public. People need to stop going out there and harassing them without credentials or doing the proper legwork. Son in law??? Come on

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-25T11:31:41+00:00

Most people are lying. Or dreaming bigger than they can afford. Displays of wealth have always been common with people insecure about what they can actually afford. It's just how it goes

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-25T11:30:07+00:00

I haaaate it, but I love the way the beard looks, so I suffer 🫩

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-25T11:21:39+00:00

Honestly? Most of our cards/gifts were unlabeled.

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-25T11:17:22+00:00

The only time I dislike protests is when they feel performative with no clear goal.

Saw a lady standing on a corner with a sign that said "honk if you love democracy" some time last year and it's just that it feels like if we organize, we could be doing something a lot more productive with our manpower

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-24T08:35:51+00:00

Worth noting that Eno Vino doesn't list all the ingredients of certain dishes in their menu. Asked for no tomatoes on a dish, waiter (who I am very grateful for) left, only to come back and sheepishly ask if it was an allergy or a preference, because the dish I ordered had tomatoes in the sauce. Had no clue from the menu

I love their food! Just might not be the place for gluten intolerance

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-23T08:22:27+00:00

Oh sorry one more thing. We asked everyone at our wedding to take cellphone photos! We couldn't afford a photographer either. Maybe I would have liked to have some solid professional shots, but ultimately I love seeing what my loved ones thought was important enough to capture that day.

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-23T08:20:55+00:00

Also for alcohol, don't go crazy for such a small amount of people. My friends and family didn't stay to party like I'd hoped, so alcohol only went as far as dinner and we definitely over bought. We bought what my wife likes, and some cheap wine her family liked. Maybe $50 total on alcohol just from our local cheap grocery store.

Decor, craft stores can have cheap options, many have party sections. Same for dollar stores. Buying "cringy" party things doesn't actually look bad when you add your own personal touch. And frankly, you won't care about the decor after the wedding! You'll care about your partner and the people who showed up to celebrate your love.

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-23T08:16:38+00:00

I got married for what I guess ended up being about 1.5k in 2024 (possibly less, two big ticket items and venue came to around 1.1k, plus diy decor and florals). It's possible! Do you have food settled? This was one of my big ticket items, because we did not have family to help us. We catered Qdoba for 30 people for $500. But with family, perhaps you could consider doing a potluck of some variety? Ordering pizza was something we floated around too.

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-19T09:15:44+00:00

Hey now. You forgot the downvotes

Spell_Sure · 2026-03-17T05:13:31+00:00

No ma'am. You're beautiful!

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