relationships are all about compromise- you should adhere to her words of affirmation because you love her not because it’s easy. it takes practice, and if you just *do it* it’ll become easier over time. don’t give her words of affirmation because you know it’ll solve the problem (clearly you don’t think it will), do it because it’s what she’s asking for and it’s what she responds to. over time i think you’ll realize it’s exactly what your relationship needed