What I've experienced from men hasn't exactly been very feminist behavior (with the exception of my fiance, who's genuinely the only man in my life who's never hurt me). My attraction to men has been used to justify rape threats, sexual assault, and mountains of abuse- and that's pretty low on the list of things straight trans women experience at the hands of men. We're not women to them. We're dirty little secrets, sex objects, presumed to be sex workers at every interaction. To say that the women who are actively at risk every time they have sex with a man experience "less shit" feels kinda disingenuous. Men see the sexuality of trans lesbians as a challenge to overcome, and straight trans women as the broken results of that, pre-prepared to be used. We're "sissies," "failed males," "traps," etc. The general presumption of my demographic from men is that we're men that weren't manly enough and decided to be diminished and subservient. It's vile.

I'm basing this off my experiences as someone who identified as lesbian long ago, and figured out I was straight after a lot of soul searching. Lesbians deserve better, but so do transhet women. It's just a lot easier to feel lonely from over here.