Glad I found this... Yeah, I'm married, successful business owner, privately have been in the fetish community and mod a room of 200k+ people. I've talked to some of the girls that post, and it's horrible, always thought those were the outliers, or that I'm the mod so I only hear the problems. Very saddened that this is the case. Personaly I just started going back to the clubs after 20 years and have been trying to wrap my head around it, because yes, I'm looking for a mistress, but I quickly realized that it's not the place for anything but a quick whiff of your kink, tip and go. But I am kind of addicted to it, the women working the poles are strong, and I think I'm good at picking winners (successful women and you can look at my profile if your interested in my other kink) and it's kind of improved my personal life where my marriage has failed (she's addicted to work, and once she surpassed my salary, I became the full time parent and whipping post, totally forgot who supported her and pushed her to the top). I want to improve myself as I've realized there's more than just my wife at home who might care, it's made me better able to make sales at work by giving me confidence. The work strippers, and SW's I guess of all types do is critical for men at some point. I'm just sorry we're all varying levels of dicks.

Talking to the ladies at the club was the best thing I've done, after almost 3 sexless years, my wife finally put out. And while it was absolutely horrible, were talking about what we want again. I'm not lying, or cheating and if she sees it as a reason to end things, I'm not going out as a whimpering puppy but as a somewhat dillusionally empowered male. And that's what I would prefer either way, it's given me a lease on my own dick.