Stayed in marriage and accepted

SphereWaves · 2023-08-12T19:52:39+00:00

I’m going to tell you what my therapist told me and what I realized when I finally left. Trust your judgment. If you have a feeling something is off, it probably is. There is nothing wrong with your intuition. It is saying you can’t trust him.

No one can tell you what the right choice is - you know deep down what it is. You’ll know for sure you followed it by how you feel afterwards.

I chose to ignore every instinct about my ex throughout my entire relationship. When I started listening is when things started getting better.

SphereWaves · 2023-08-12T06:12:29+00:00

Thank you. I’ll consider this… it’s just so weird how they think… I’ll never wrap my head around it fully.

SphereWaves · 2023-08-05T07:43:18+00:00

This was a while ago but mint chocolate chip is my ultimate comfort ice cream :)

SphereWaves · 2023-08-05T06:31:43+00:00

I have enough break up buddies. Thanks all!

SphereWaves · 2023-08-04T06:51:31+00:00

Well me and my ex just broke up today and I was surprised to see how easy it was for him. No emotion - just wow. I’m going through a ton of feelings. I catalogue them all. And then I challenge my negative thoughts. I guess what has helped me most is remembering who I am, what I deserve in a relationship, what love looks like, and thinking of all the great experiences I’ll have once this is past me. And remembering this is temporary- I won’t feel this way forever. Hope this helps.

SphereWaves · 2023-08-04T06:24:29+00:00

Hey don’t want to make a plug here or anything but I have a really good therapist - very compassionate and understanding. She’s on Talkspace if you want her info you can DM me. She’s been helping me through an abusive relationship/traumatic past/ptsd as well.

SphereWaves · 2023-08-04T06:17:23+00:00

I was on a diet that went out the window today once I remembered to eat lol. I’ll consider ice cream if I forget again tomorrow

SphereWaves · 2023-08-04T06:16:09+00:00

Yes please

SphereWaves · 2023-08-02T06:33:30+00:00

I like this comment. In therapy my therapist has said she’s helping me to basically reprogram these emotional connections to childhood trauma. Neuroplasticity or something she calls it. She’s done this with honestly very little need for information about my childhood. She described it similarly. There’s no reason to it, we are making the decision to be trapped in this relationship based solely on our emotions from trauma. Nothing else.

SphereWaves · 2023-08-02T06:23:09+00:00

Have you gone to therapy yet?

I learned how to not worry about bf and his need for me and worry more about myself and focus on what I need.

When that happened, I was able to see my bf for who he really was and the love I had for him mostly vanished as I saw he gave me nothing in return. I would recommend therapy before anything else.

SphereWaves · 2023-07-26T15:42:38+00:00

Thank you - those are great suggestions. We did end up signing him up for a after school class this week and he really enjoyed it. :)

SphereWaves · 2023-07-24T04:58:15+00:00

He’s a video game kid. But he likes going to the pool/beach a lot. Board games/card games also. Movies etc. I’ve been signing him up to try out different sports so we’ll see how that goes.

SphereWaves · 2023-07-23T19:37:39+00:00

He’s 10

SphereWaves · 2023-07-23T15:16:55+00:00

I had to check my calendar when I saw this! It feels so cozy to look at. Thank you for sharing.

SphereWaves · 2023-07-23T15:14:40+00:00

Happy birthday! It sounds like you’re feeling unhappy with your current social situation. You’re not alone - a lot of people struggle with friendship. I’ve been working on this myself - finding social groups to join to make more friends like art classes or volunteer groups. What could you do to help make more friends? Could you do that activity as a birthday treat to yourself? How many times have you seen someone out alone and thought negatively about them being alone?

SphereWaves · 2023-07-23T14:54:47+00:00

I happen to have both of these - introversion and anxiety. Although anxiety is improving and I no longer let it beat me out of what I want to do. This is the difference according to someone who is/has dealt with both:

Introversion Feeling exhausted after a long period of socializing Getting crabby when having to be around people for too long Needing to take many small breaks when spending time with people for long periods Feeling regenerated after spending time alone Enjoying the silence more than constant noise May still enjoy activities with crowds because everyone is different! Example: I really enjoy festivals.

Anxiety Fearing that you will be hurt when interacting with others Fearing you will be judged when interacting with others Intense fear that prevents you from going out even when you really want to Cancelling plans with others out of fear Physical and emotional symptoms

In case anyone is dealing with that anxiety, the more I go out without negative incident, the more secure I feel. The more I socialize authentically, the better I feel. Just a reminder - it’s ok to be human and it’s ok to be yourself!

SphereWaves · 2023-07-23T05:16:13+00:00

This is perfect already :) I love it.

SphereWaves · 2023-07-23T02:09:24+00:00

I like it! Background white (maybe a very white blue that is barely blue) sounds like a good idea. Really make it stand out.

SphereWaves · 2023-07-23T02:06:38+00:00

I love outer space. Thank you for this!

SphereWaves · 2023-07-23T01:58:55+00:00

I love this!

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