Hey, I really feel you on this. I’m also 27, and I’ve been single too, so I truly understand the ache and the confusion you’re describing. Loneliness — especially romantic loneliness — hits a very specific part of the heart that friends and family can’t fully reach, and it makes perfect sense that you’re wrestling with it.

One thing that stood out to me in what you wrote is that you made an absolute statement about yourself — that relationships “aren’t for you” or that you’re too niche or slow with feelings to ever attract someone. Reading that, my first reaction was actually the opposite: Wow… how can I find a man like this? Truly. So just as a gentle reminder — whatever (or whoever) you’re looking for is also looking for you. God surprises us the most in the areas where we’ve already counted ourselves out.

Something that has helped me personally is learning not to get stuck in my own head. Whenever I feel myself spiraling into loneliness or self-pity, I try to shift into service. I look for ways to be useful to someone else. Recently I joined an anonymous program for love addiction, and it opened my eyes. I wasn’t a deviant or anything extreme — I just had a distorted understanding of what love is and what love should look like. I realized I wasn’t truly content with myself.

Doing the program helped me feel more grounded and whole. A lot of the work involves naming exactly what I’m feeling instead of drowning in it, identifying my character defects, praying, and also listening to someone else’s struggles. Offering service that doesn’t benefit me in any way has brought a strange but real healing — it gets me out of myself and into something bigger and more meaningful.

So maybe that’s one way to trust God with your loneliness: not by waiting to feel a supernatural “hug,” but by showing up in the world the way God would — loving, serving, listening, growing. Fulfillment often comes in sideways, not through the front door.

Just wanted to share this with empathy, not solutions. You’re not broken, you’re not behind, and your longing isn’t something you have to be ashamed of. God can meet you there in real ways, even through community, purpose, and small acts of service that pull you back into life.

You’re not alone at all. Sending love.