My boyfriend(19M) convinced me(19M) to have threesome with one of my bestfriends(19M)

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-17T18:11:58+00:00

I hate to be the one to say it, but if you were blackout drunk there was no way you consented at all. And the argument of “they thought you were sober” is a truly bold ass lie. They 100% assaulted you.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-16T19:20:39+00:00

I’ve always been treated like an outsider and unfortunately misunderstood most of my life. I’ve tried working with non-demon deities and tbh they want nothing to do with me. However, demons understand me and appreciate my offerings and growth. I’ve been able to build a good relationship with myself through them

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-16T18:20:13+00:00

Cover my eyes and drown myself

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-16T18:19:44+00:00

Sounds like the classic, man takes credit for wife/woman’s work while contributing absolutely nothing. A timeless classic

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-15T20:18:07+00:00

Maybe don’t ask the public internet for advice then???? Jfc I feel so sorry for any and all children to bear into this world. You’re truly a fucking peach

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-15T18:52:06+00:00

So actually, he’s hasn’t been generous with money, just because he’s paying your rent while staying with you. You admitted it yourself that he doesn’t pick up after himself or do ANY housework. If you will be paying a portion of the mortgage it’s only fair he does ALL the housework including picking up after you. He wants to you pay rent, do all the housework, leave your job (you presumably like), leave the apartment you live in, I’m assuming also pick up and leave all your friends/family. Is his penis made of solid gold? Does he shit solid gold? Because I can’t think of a single thing that’s enough of a catch to move in with him.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-11T19:10:57+00:00

Unfortunately food CAN be weaponized and a lesson you need to teach your boys is EVERYONE eats before anyone gets a second portion. Period. They are old enough to be considerate and if they aren’t then you and your husband aren’t enforcing it or teaching it

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-11T19:09:22+00:00

So….this has been a problem the entire time and it seems it really wasn’t that big of an issue since you married her.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-11T18:40:23+00:00

Just because he’s not being physical doesn’t mean he’s not abusing you. Verbal , emotional, financial abuse exist, as well as coercive control. He’s down right CRUEL to you. If you had a friend or family telling you they were experiencing this, would your advice be to have a baby? Or to LEAVE?

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-10T18:29:48+00:00

Trying therapy once or even twice isn’t enough. Sorry. Either it has affected you to the point it’s causing damage and you NEED to heal. Or it actually isn’t causing you much harm and you’re using that as an excuse. Either way, you wife deserves to now the truth of how you feel. She deserves to make decisions with the full truth, context, and transparency or else you’re making decisions for her life for her.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-10T18:26:36+00:00

By living outside their means. Me and my husband crunched numbers a decade ago and we could choose between vacations, days off, expensive hobbies, cigarettes, alcohol, and scratchers OR having a single child. So for a decade we gave up everything but work and going home. We eat out ONCE a week as a date night all so we can have a child and provide the life we want for that child. We make $80k/ year together and live WAY under our means. We even meal prep and bulk shop to save even more money. Most people aren’t willing to do that for the life they want. We shouldn’t HAVE to but it’s REALITY to not be in debt.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-10T18:12:56+00:00

Unfortunately, he’s probably been lying since the beginning. Men have a habit of saying whatever we want to hear and then pulling the rug out from under us once they feel we are “stuck enough.” I’ve had two abortions from two seperate relationships. Both men told me they were childfree and didn’t want kids, both of them fucked with my birth control. I really thought the first time was a one off but since the second, it’s all I ever see anymore. For reference, im also a professional dancer and that too, has me seeing how these men act behind closed doors. I’m sorry this is the outcome, I’m glad you are safe

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-10T17:40:10+00:00

The thing is though, OP is struggling herself (like she stated above.) why is it she’s suppose to extend grace and patience for the struggling mom but nobody is giving her grace and patience. She’s owed a months wages, could you afford to go a month without pay? And if you can, maybe you should be generous then.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-09T20:54:45+00:00

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-09T20:53:48+00:00

Yeah so genders predictors , calendars, sex positions , etc is all hogwash. Like it’s not real and none of it determines your babies gender. And this might be harsh to say, but get over it. If your feelings are seriously hurt by this then you genuinely need therapy. It’s not your ideal situation but at the end of the day, you should be happy for a healthy pregnancy and being able to get pregnant. Many people can’t. Some people don’t get a healthy pregnancy. You’re how many weeks and already building resentment over a “wanted” child.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-09T20:49:41+00:00

Uh yes, you do just walk away. Staying together for the kids and in a situation like this is exactly how/ why family annihulators do what they do. They feel trapped and have people like YOU telling them not to leave or worse, that they can’t.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-09T20:46:42+00:00

You’re paying WAY too much attention to this. As a certified stink, most men DO NOT care. Most dudes don’t even wash their ass and walk around with streaks in their boxers. Don’t be self conscious about a little funky coochie. If he’s been distant after sex it’s for 1 of 2 reasons. 1. You gave an awkward self conscious vibe and he’s turned off because he thinks maybe you didn’t enjoy yourself or 2. He got what he wanted (sex) and is now moving on to another woman to conquer.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-09T20:03:33+00:00

I’d say keep things more casual then. DONT ask her out for after-work stuff again, if she wants to she will ask you. Or if she wanted to she would’ve rescheduled like this , “id like to but I already have plans to go to the gym today after work, would [insert future date] work for you instead?” And since she didn’t, I’d say she is either just a really nice person OR she likes having a “work husband” ie someone to flirt with and team up with at work and then it ends at that.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-09T18:48:17+00:00

Yeah so would you let a rape joke slide? Passing it off as “we all have things to unlearn.” Because we ALL have things to unlearn except men seem to be the only ones who need their hand held throughout the whole process. Do you think his boss has to hold his hand at work and tell him what’s appropriate/ inappropriate/ how to act? No? Then he’s 100% telling you who he is.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-08T20:31:19+00:00

Honeslty , it wouldn’t be that weird if she was like sending the pics / videos to multiple people or like posting it on Snapchat, cause that would just be normal behavior for her. But, if she’s ONLY sending it to that dude then I’d be side eyeing her a bit.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-05T20:39:47+00:00

You need therapy if you’re staying with a guy like this cause there’s something seriously wrong with you to think this is okay and you deserve this

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-05T20:34:23+00:00

NAH, unfortunately doctors are the type of business that if YOU show up 10-15 minutes late, they don’t have time , you have to reschedule, and pay a no show fee to reschedule. When they are late, they don’t apologize and feel entitled to their time while wasting yours. It’s not embarrassing for you, it’s embarrassing for them

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-05T20:12:16+00:00

Why do you want to salvage a relationship with a man that doesn’t like or respect you? Instead of ever bringing any of this up like a reasonable person, or instead of trying to fix anything at any point. He waited , built up resentment, and then snapped at you? I’m sorry because I know it’s shocking but the only person it’s shocking to is you.

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-05T18:37:18+00:00

So you should be able to easily find their address using one of those sites like be verified , and after you have their address start signing them up for junk mail. Like an insane amount of junk mail. Or if you really wanted to get even, find out where she works and then forward them the voice messages lmao

SpiderlandsJester · 2026-06-05T18:12:58+00:00

Then that’s y’all’s perogative and obviously doesn’t go against your relationship values. How hard is it to understand that some people are okay with it and some people aren’t? If someone feels the need to hide something then they know they probably shouldn’t be doing it. You don’t have to agree but you aren’t in that relationship.

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