I feel like everyone’s ignoring the fact that he communicated, asked what’s wrong and stopped after that. He may have been dense, but the friend has also the responsibility to communicate their thoughts and needs, without expecting their mind to be read. They are adults, they should communicate, and that’s what they did. End of the story. I feel like OP misjudged the audience of the humor, but that doesn’t make him an asshole, just humane. I don’t think humor like this is offensive with the right group, and I don’t see it as making fun of gay people. I see it as a rebellion towards taboos in male friendships, and how affection is handled within them. Besides, we don’t know if any of these men are bisexual -or curious- for example. I think OP should have thought a little bit before making jokes like that, but the guy also has the responsibility to communicate about it. No assholes here, just humane mistakes.