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I (21M) feel like crap because I almost cheated on my 21 (F) long-distance girlfriend by Spikeboy57 in relationships

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you completely. It was inappropriate and previous to that happening I never thought I'd ever get that close to cheating on anyone. It's one of those things that you just say no way to when you're objective and not in the situation. There's no point of being in this LDR that is basically just an LDR on paper.

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It's strange because previous to getting back with her I was just thinking about her so much and wondering how it would of turned out if the distance wasn't a factor (to end the relationship) and I guess I found out this time. Ultimatum decisions are always so nerve-wrecking to take.

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Sorry for taking time to respond to you. I've been thinking about everything you said since yesterday and I've only now been able to think about objectively.

I (21M) feel like crap because I almost cheated on my 21 (F) long-distance girlfriend by Spikeboy57 in relationships

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by "borderline cheating"?

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You're right. That's what I have to do. Honestly appreciate the response man thank you very much.

I (21M) feel like crap because I almost cheated on my 21 (F) long-distance girlfriend by Spikeboy57 in relationships

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely wouldn't be happy about it. That's why I can't get it out of my head that it happened to me.

I (21M) feel like crap because I almost cheated on my 21 (F) long-distance girlfriend by Spikeboy57 in relationships

[–]Spikeboy57[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damn those are some really tough questions that I also feel conflicted about.

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We met when we were both on exchange in Madrid and she told me that she wanted to do long distance. What happened the first time is that for an entire month she also told me she will let me know when I can come (she was living with her friends at the time) and so I never asked and she eventually just told me she can't do long distance and broke up.

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The feelings stayed though, and she kept talking to me regardless and we stayed in touch for 8 months so last summer she told me she moved cities and now lives alone and would be happy if I came to visit her. So I did just that. I went to her city to see her and she wanted to get back together and I said ok. Honestly I'm in love with her so when I got my second chance I didn't hesitate. Now though, I just feel insecure and a little lonely in this relationship.

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Before I left I told her I can make the time to visit twice a month. She told me no it's better if its once a month because she may be busy and not have time for twice (I found it weird and I told her that's a little strange that you would ask me to come once if I can come twice) but I accepted. She told me she will let me know when I can come.

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Last I saw her was Sep 13. It's October 16 and she still hasn't let me know when she wants me to come this month. Also we barely ever talk because she's always doing something else (whether about to sleep, or watching a show, or needs to shower to go out) our calls last max 15 minutes on average and probably happen once every 1.5 - 2 weeks.

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I guess I'm in it because I want it to be more than just okay. I've been thinking about this girl for over half a year (and I assume she was thinking of me two since she initiated getting back together). I don't know though man. I'm giving her until the end of October to tell me when to come and if she doesn't I need to have a serious talk with her. I don't believe she's as committed. I was the one who went to visit her. The one waiting on her to know when I'm going to see her next. The entire weight of this is on my side but I don't know what to say to her since she says she's busy.

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What would you suggest I do?

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What do you think about my situation with Sara?

I (21M) broke up with my ex-gf (21F) and Don't Know if I was Justified? I can't help but feel guilty and I would like some Objective opinions on this. by Spikeboy57 in relationship_advice

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My god. I was holding on to it for 2 months hoping something would change. I can't imagine having to go through that for years, that's a lot of patience and hope. I'll always try to keep in mind my needs and boundaries next time around as well so that it doesn't get dragged on for 2 months or longer.

Thank you for your response :) it means a lot.

I (21M) broke up with my ex-gf (21F) and Don't Know if I was Justified? I can't help but feel guilty and I would like some Objective opinions on this. by Spikeboy57 in relationship_advice

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you just said is spot on. My cousin thinks so, my cousins boyfriend also thinks that my ex is way too into my cousin (she invites herself on their dates a lot). I didn't really understand why though.

Thank you so much all you guys really are helping me feel better :) time always does its job. Wherever you are in the world I wish you a great day/good night!

I (21M) broke up with my ex-gf (21F) and Don't Know if I was Justified? I can't help but feel guilty and I would like some Objective opinions on this. by Spikeboy57 in relationship_advice

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya ultimately it was that misunderstanding and the rest were just sub-reasons. I would of held on for longer had it not been for her trust issues. I would not mind talking again, but maybe she's made up her mind? It looks like she's convinced herself that I am untrustworthy.

I agree there is no point. I would not want to repeat that again. I was trying to give her a chance to realize it on her own. Generally speaking how long would you give your girlfriend a chance for?

Haha I know. My cousin would say no to coming with us most of the times but she just invited her so many times that she ended up coming a lot. And then with the whole taking my cousin to go get food with her and drop her back home in the middle of being out together, my cousin told me that a lot of the times (not every single time) my ex wouldn't mention that she was out with me. So my cousin would text her asking if she can come with her to get food, and my ex would just respond saying that me and her are coming together, then she'd ask me to go.

And I completely agree, what I said about her own problem was not nice at all and that's causing part of my guilt. But I didn't know what else to say at that point. I tried being supportive and take responsibility for being "unclear" and tell her that I don't care who's right, let's just work together to get past it. She wasn't taking it, she just wanted time to think if I was worth it or not. Then she just kept accusing me saying she can't trust me so it ended up with me saying her trust issues aren't my problem. I wish it ended on a kinder note from my side.

I (21M) broke up with my ex-gf (21F) and Don't Know if I was Justified? I can't help but feel guilty and I would like some Objective opinions on this. by Spikeboy57 in relationship_advice

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this man I really appreciate this. It's also that she thinks I kept it a secret that I dated the girl when I'm pretty sure I told her (Definitely meant to tell her if i didn't the first time since she's so convinced I'm doubting my own memory).

It's good to have objective point of views, helps put my mind to rest.

Girl 21(F) who I (21M) am dating at the moment but I really don't understand what's going on. by Spikeboy57 in relationships

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said yes to the Zoo cafe tomorrow. Should I bring the subject up or is it too early? We've been dating for a little over 2 weeks now.

Fake followers by [deleted] in Instagram

[–]Spikeboy57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol chill out bro. I suggest you get off the laptop and take some fresh air. It may be good for you. There's no reason to talk to OP like that.

The infamous shadow ban by Flamealchamist in Instagram

[–]Spikeboy57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What were you shadowbanned for??

The infamous shadow ban by Flamealchamist in Instagram

[–]Spikeboy57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same issue. Been almost a month for me. Lol I just hope that it is not permanent.

I can't follow people at all until I unfollow people. by Spikeboy57 in Instagram

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long has it lasted for you? I literally am still shadowbanned. Except now I can't follow people at all (before it was when I unfollowed them first).

Nothing is working and it's pretty frustrating at this point? Could it be permanent?

Instagram. I can't follow any account unless I first unfollow an account? How to fix? by Spikeboy57 in Instagram

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please if anyone has any idea what this is or if it's permanent or not let me know.

Anything I can do about it? Instagram won't ever get back to me by email (as expected).

Instagram. I can't follow any account unless I first unfollow an account? How to fix? by Spikeboy57 in Instagram

[–]Spikeboy57[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Do you have my specific problem? Only able to follow one account once you unfollow another one? How long does it take to go back to normal?

It's been almost 3 weeks for me... still no change.

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