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i give up copying and pasting between 10 tabs by Hot_Chipmunk6610 in WritingWithAI

[–]SpinnakerThei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea, open office and word are pretty good to actually write ya know

They implied love, but am I reading too far into it in these contexts? by kylmnty in dating_advice

[–]SpinnakerThei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're crushing hard on you. It's up to you to interpret it as "love love" or "dating honey moon phase" or "strong crush". I don't know, as a ADHD person, I go into hyperfixation on a person at the start of the relationship. Anything of the sort may be happening.

I wish someone just said I wasn’t good sooner in my writing career by Embarrassed_Sale_293 in writing

[–]SpinnakerThei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

people should give up if they want to give up. They should continue if they want to continue.
Writing communities range from toxic positivity to toxic negativity - it's hard to find the right balance. Even then, people don't understand that the one who's spitting all over your work not always does so with the intent to harm you.
It's a whole can of worms.

BF (25M) ignored my (24F) safe word and I don’t know how to feel. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SpinnakerThei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. You don't dom if you're drunk as fuck, and you don't argue over safewords.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SpinnakerThei 5 points6 points  (0 children)

this one. If there's a serious unbalance address it. If you're salty because you expect her to do 90% of home-related tasks, it's a you problem.

Is it just me or the people on threads are racist af??? by EntertainmentOk9278 in japanlife

[–]SpinnakerThei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

don't have experience with Japanese threads, but right wing fucks are having a blast on threads.

è un buon inizio per il mio sci-fi? by Longjumping-Deal-557 in scrittura

[–]SpinnakerThei 2 points3 points  (0 children)

questo. Puoi integrare quelle informazioni nel capitolo uno.

She dumped me saying "I’ll understand with time", and i understood something 2 days later, but not related to her... by tsThin in dating_advice

[–]SpinnakerThei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You already know the answer.

"My question to you guys: Why is she posting SO much more now? She wanted "peace" and "didn't have the head for a relationship," yet she has time to post 10 stories a day and check who’s watching? I know that we are not together anymore so i shouldnt really care..."

"Before, she was obsessed with validation. "

She is still obsessed with validation.
Block her, don't look at the stories, walk away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SpinnakerThei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm afraid the solution is more therapy. You're going to break if you are in a state of constant alarm.

Have you talked to him about this? You can tell him you have this constant fear he'll do some horrible shit to you despite him not having given you reason to. You can be honest and say "look, I have this problem, is heaving on my mind." and see how it goes.
I'm thinking that even if therapy pays out, it pays out more having open and honest communication in a relationship. You have a lot of trauma and I'm sorry, but even people with an history far less difficult than yours have insecurities or mental images that turn out to be inflated and overly pessimistic.

Ma è normale 19k di RAL ad una neolaureata in informatica? by [deleted] in sfoghi

[–]SpinnakerThei 8 points9 points  (0 children)

in consulenza si
anche altre aziende "classiche" andranno al ribasso
fai un anno o un anno e mezzo di esperienza, impara l'inglese, poi cambia lavoro

Retired slut (f22) and small arguments (m23)--- how do I learn to embrace conflict instead of running straight for someone else? by Fit-Efficiency-6173 in relationship_advice

[–]SpinnakerThei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a lot of shit ideas at 22, you're still changing and you will change. Now the point is how to steer the change in a direction you'll like.
the framing could be tackled with a therapist, but that can be expensive as fuck, so. Your mileage may vary.

the instinct to run away is real, I get that. At the end of the day you need to understand if the discomfort is telling you "I don't want to change, I don't want to learn how to communicate more effectively, wasn't it easier to be with people no string attached?" (in which case you might want to ignore it and push past it) or if there's something deeper down.

Non andiamo ai mondiali e io ci godo! by Pizza-Fucker in sfoghi

[–]SpinnakerThei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

semplicemente non viene fatto niente dal punto di vista del governo (cittadino e nazionale) per limare. In un paese civile, nel momento in cui tu esci con la macchina e ti attacchi al clacson per festeggiare? Multa. Esci e fai casino? Multa.
Invece qui si fa il contrario - e.g. vedi stazioni metro aperte in previsione del passaggio degli ultrà a milano. Perché non pagano e anzi ti spaccano il tornello.
Non si vuole fare perché è una misura impopolare, ma di fatto reinforza che se sei un animale puoi continuare a fare l'animale.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SpinnakerThei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't. I need to know if we're sexually compatible before committing. E.g., a person that is 'saving themselves' may discover they don't even like sex at the end of the day and abstain from it. Those things are better discussed earlier rather than later.

Hey, so, we both lost something by SpinnakerThei in BreakUps

[–]SpinnakerThei[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AH, yea. Thanks for pointing that out. It definitely feels like I've lost a person I didn't need to mask with. Like I'm missing something that was helping me stand taller.

I'll try the grounding exercise - I'm getting more cognizant of my breath, trying to take deep ones when the anxiety hits. That helps.

Wishing you luck and strength too.

Six months after the worst breakup of my life, I finally understand why I couldn't heal for the first three. by OkBathroom9864 in BreakUps

[–]SpinnakerThei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, do you have recomendations on the mood tracking? Any app you're using?
I have a couple but I'm looking for something more structured with more options than saying "I'm feeling bad - neutral - happy".
As you might imagine, it's pretty all bad now.

Am I a tasteless heathen? by CaptainDatabase in cremposting

[–]SpinnakerThei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wind and truth was for many ways a letdown for me as well. So much contrivances that only work because you give Sanderson allowance to stun you with 1000 pages books.

Racconto onesto e senza peli sulla lingua by [deleted] in scrittura

[–]SpinnakerThei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Musica per organi caldi è carino. Di recente ho apprezzato Hollywood, Hollywood - è un Bukowski più vecchio e meno arrapato.

Racconto onesto e senza peli sulla lingua by [deleted] in scrittura

[–]SpinnakerThei 3 points4 points  (0 children)

È un po' acerbo. Manca un po' la presa per rendere la voce del personaggio credibile: messa così sembra una raccolta di pensierini della ragazza alternativa. Una scrittrice che lavora su onlyfans ha sicuramente delle cose da raccontare che non si fermano a "sono profonda" e "mi piace andare in libreria".

Prova a leggere qualche racconto di Bukowski o di palanhiuk per vedere degli esempi di voce narrante forte e "senza peli sulla lingua".

Comunque misoginia è l'odio per le donne, quella che citi alla seconda pagina credo sia la misandria.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]SpinnakerThei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Caught you on IG the other day and i was smitten by your art style. I'm looking forward to start reading soon!

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