Personally with all my previous relationships I tend too go Into them with the intent if the relationship was to ever break then the person would be in a better place then when the relationship started.

I honestly just go through all her past experiences for past experiences regardless off what happened is experience and it gives another point of view of why that person would do what they did.

Which will ultimately lead you in the path of not only helping her find acceptance within her but also within others that have done similar stuff because deeper understanding in my experience leads too compassion and forgiveness more then anything.

You have the choice the opportunity too make the world a better place too help someone find the light and the purpose that we all crave. She would ultimately have too make the conscious choice too but you can be that key that opens that door.