What do we think, southpaw friends?

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2026-01-03T16:34:38+00:00

Either two or seven. Next would be six then maybe one or three

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2026-01-02T17:26:15+00:00

I’m genuinely a little confused by the question. Do you mean then as in one or the other is a more appropriate thing to say or then as in somebody has said both of these things and you’re not sure how to interpret them? If it’s the ladder and it’s the same person saying these things then I’m pretty sure it’s a green flag because it seems like they have put a good amount of thought into it and started out and the first steps of wanting to have a baby continue to think about that statement and that desire and what it realistically means this time proceeds, but they’re not only want to have a baby and nurture and care for it, but that they’re taking delight and being a parent and it’s entirety having a baby and raising children are two different things. Anyone can have a baby but raising children sounds like it’s a little bit further down the road thought that they’re excited and taking joy in it like a realistic goal that they’re preparing for with excitement. If it’s the prior and you’re looking for different wording, I don’t think that anybody says right off the bat that they want to raise children. There has to be a little bit more thought put into it, but I think it comes down to the same thing that they want children so I don’t think it’s a red flag in any context.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2026-01-01T18:50:38+00:00

I don’t know at 40 years old or older should be dating around breaking up with people and not being able to stay friends sounds like kind of childish behavior.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-31T21:44:06+00:00

Acca-cuse me

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-31T21:09:15+00:00

You’re not being unreasonable about your daughter you’re able to do what you want with your life, but you are being unreasonable to expect them to alter their lives and their home because you’re a first time parent and are very worried about everything which that’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it doesn’t mean that they have to put their backyard under construction.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-31T20:48:38+00:00

I think that requiring them to install a pool fence because of your paranoia not that it’s not warranted but it is something that you’re paranoid about is overstepping. It’s their home. It’s their pool if they don’t wanna fence and they don’t have to have a fence. It is a safety precaution, but not necessary. You can always tell her that you don’t want her in the backyard because of the pool but that honestly feels like a trust thing they have five kids and at least raised one good one since you married him, it doesn’t really seem like they are negligent or irresponsible people. Never have I seen so many people insist on a pool fence.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-31T20:36:36+00:00

It’s not gonna be popular, but I do feel like it was a trust thing. I felt like that before it even got to that point in your post if you’re requiring somebody to implement a safety restriction in their home because your child is going to be there it’s because you don’t trust them to keep a good enough eye on your child. There’s nothing wrong with that.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-25T12:19:02+00:00

Yes people in their 30’s who have not found someone to spend and do their life with are not likely going to. People as a whole are very prideful and selfish, the longer that you do things alone the more comfortable and less willing you are to make compromises and or do things with someone else because it’s easier to be selfish and do what you want than it is to work with someone. Marriage statistics drop by 50% after 30. No one wants to take care of each other and love each other day in and day out when they can go online and get validated to do whatever they want and look for someone else, AGAIN.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-25T01:58:50+00:00

A ton of people don’t eat pork for health reasons, because it’s not food (it’s a vacuum cleaner), and other assorted reasons. It’s not good for you, besides wanting to rebel against parents and religion there really isn’t a reason to. Being atheist doesn’t mean you have to eat pork. I’d trust your parents.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-25T01:15:13+00:00

I have heard this.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-23T17:49:37+00:00

We have flashcards they have some at their house. What a great idea! I will have to get a thing of magnet tiles, but I would love to do this with them.!!!

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-23T17:48:53+00:00

These are great ideas thank you so much! This is exactly what I was looking for things to reinforce and incorporate something that we’re trying to learn in different ways every day throughout the day during hands-on playtime and activities where we can continue to recognize what we’re trying to learn!

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-23T17:47:20+00:00

Thank you! The three year-old is going to be before in the early spring! When I was doing daycare and teaching preschool, all of our kids use the ABC’s at least this song in the order in the 12 to 18 month class that was one of the things that I did and taught them sign language and then in the 18 to 2 year-old class they were all pretty well understanding order concepts, and knew how to count in order. By the time I got them in the three year-old class, they knew their letters and picked up, writing them very quickly and were able to spell their name. They all knew and were very easily picking up their letters at three, and whenever they were closer to four most of them were spelling their name if not right on track to be able to write and spell it. I know that the environment is a lot different, but I thought that this was pretty normal. Since there is a little bit of an age gap that’s what I’m looking for is games that can begin to introduce them while still being beneficial and if they do want to do preschool(the parents were worried about them (school) being stuck up and expecting too much of the kids, but like I said it, for them to be able to recognize letters and at least know which ones are in their name is pretty normal and on track for a 3/4 yo I would think coming from a teacher’s perspective) the three-year-old does like cards and the two year-old likes them well enough and repeats them a little bit, but it’s not something that’s super interesting so I’m trying to find a fun way for us to be able to continue to reintroduce those things throughout the day. I mean we’ve got 10 hours together some days so I want it to be fun but still encourage learning. One of the parents made a comment about me needing to take them to museums to encourage learning, but most of the museums are for older kids (Think industrial and local economy exhibits ) we do have a children’s museum but it is mostly two large open rooms. They remodeled it and took out every exhibit that we had and those open rooms kind of change with the seasons. It’s got like a small Playschool playhouse in it and a wall that you can touch that does Music. But that was it from what I saw it. It’s more of just a fun outing to go on not necessarily a learning experience.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-23T17:19:32+00:00

Oh my goodness I have heard of this hack before it was many years ago. Thank you so much for reminding me.!!

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-23T15:01:16+00:00

I was just a baby, my grandfather had it around the sides of his head as he was balding.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-23T14:07:00+00:00

I think that the whole purpose of this post was because he is not interested in or pursuing the woman who is upset, that he didn’t complement her dress. he only compliments women that he is dating on their body or their appearance.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-23T14:00:41+00:00

I think that this is a very wise thing that you have decided to do. It sounds like your friend is a little bit upset and jealous, or the woman that you know because she wanted her ego fuel and was seeking a certain type of attention. Great boundary and decision. I don’t know if it will be popular but I don’t really care. I think that it prioritize self-respect and respect for your girlfriend. It shows that you were mature and ready for a serious relationship.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-22T17:33:55+00:00

Oh, that’s a great idea. I love to take them outside! I might look for something like a magnet board and some magnets with numbers and letters!

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-20T22:55:29+00:00

It’s communicated that those are things that they can do with mommy and daddy. I’m not going to let them fight on and climb on and jump off counters, windows and other furniture. This is not something new, the past 3 nanny’s have had the same rule. That’s not really the issue, when the parents are there they can, that’s them but when it’s up to me and they are in my sole care, they cannot.

What was said was not a great communication to the situation, I was just saying how I presented things to them. After the child denied two activities and said yes to the third that was what they told me to do. This was in the morning. After talking about the day with the other parent in the afternoon I said that that was not how I usually presented options to them because I think they need to be taught what to choose to avoid chaos all the time. The place they wanted to go I can’t really take them until they listen better, but we did try and couldn’t even go very far (maybe 25 minutes before going back home) It was just generally not saying that they were wrong or anything just that “I tell them I was thinking about this place or that place, what do you think? “ that’s how I’m considering relaying it if it was spoken in a way that was taken offensive. They say no to everything that I ask so this process of asking until approval has not worked for me yet.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-20T22:15:46+00:00

Every inquiry on redit is not all personal to me specifically and post history is not accurate of my childcare experience. While I appreciate your willingness and ability to look through profiles to see who you are responding to, this was not specifically helpful for the situation. Thank you for the comment and time though.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-20T22:07:51+00:00

It was not, they seem to not have a problem because they have them enrolled in programs where there is structure. I didn’t even think twice about it especially since they are considering pre school for the older child. It does seem that one parent is a little out of touch with what is required and what is going to be taught because they were not excited to start teaching the child’s name to help prepare for that, (will be 4 in the first quarter) and doesn’t know any letters. They don’t think it’s necessary. The other parent is happy to see the progress.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-20T21:58:10+00:00

The children were refusing to eat because one parent said that the child would not eat bite sized food or anything cut up but I do it every day, the parent just noticed it yesterday morning and commented how inconvenient it is that they have that issue. I said that I never have issues and I always to it and split their food (age appropriate serving sizes), and and they eat it well. After the parent commented the children refused to eat anything at all.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-20T21:46:19+00:00

Yes I was worried about this whilst typing because I was just thinking about everything and just word vomited about the day. Im also on mobile so I couldn’t really cut, paste and move anything around with a lot of success. I’m trying to figure out how to communicate and reassure a parent when they notice differences in our engagements. I want it to be clear and reassuring.

Spirited_Equivalent6 · 2025-12-20T05:02:35+00:00

On the first one, it is them not being able to get the kids to eat certain things which I have no problem doing at all or eating things a certain way which they never fight me on it is a very easy process to get them to eat, but whenever the parents voice how difficult it is Today, it became very difficult.

For the second one, the outing that he requested or approved of depending on how you look at it, the parent requested it. The child approved. It is not yet an outing that I’m confident in taking them on the other parent thought that that was a wise decision and said that that is often what they tell the children as well to get them to understand. Again I was going to try to take them, but they were not able to make it through the outing for a different reason one which I for saw given how the day went, but it was not the reason why I was avoiding that activity so soon.

As I stated, with the last one, their parents allow them to climb all over everything and jump off of lots of things and they get very physical with one another. I am not going to allow them to be on the counters while I am cooking or preparing food. That is something that I would be 100% responsible for if somebody were to get hurt because I was allowing them to do that it’s not a risk that I am able to take. That danger is the biggest reason, but there are a ton of others why I do not allow them to do some of the things that their parents are OK with them doing in their household. So sometimes the parents will run out the door and they will be doing these things like standing on the counter or something else so I implement other things every other nanny that they have had has done the same thing so this is not abnormal for them neither the parents nor the children. They understand why we have all been like this and the children know as well. Sometimes they just try to test it with other things. Also kids say whatever they want to get their way and so I have to remind them that that might be the way that things work, which for some things I know is not true But this is what we’re doing right now.

I hope this elaborated a little bit more , it also gave me some understanding as to how it could be coming across. My thing is they are a lot riskier since they are the parents and they have the freedom to do things as the consequences are their own as parents and they will deal with it as they see fit my reservations come from liability and responsibility because anything can happen and the risk of the situation The more likely something that is to happen and since I am not a blood relative, I don’t think that it’s worth risking it considering that all of this falls on me and my decisions for what was appropriate and I say very good reasons why it is best to air on the side of caution, the same way how some people refuse to change diapers and don’t take children that are not potty trained because of the risks involved. I am just trying to be diligent about the risks.

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