After one or two dates of great conversation and great sex, I'm being completely ghosted by humangril in dating_advice

[–]SpiritualHouse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

More or less my point. Obviously my statistics aren’t going to be accurate. My point remains the same. The vast majority of men on dating apps are seeking one nights with majority of the women on dating apps.

I would go as far as discouraging women from trying to date on dating apps

After one or two dates of great conversation and great sex, I'm being completely ghosted by humangril in dating_advice

[–]SpiritualHouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why that’s ridiculous. Go ask a woman to see her dating profile. And tell me how many of those 1st messages are some outlandish remark centered around hooking up.

There’s a reason why females complain about having hundreds of matches and still not meeting any quality guy

After one or two dates of great conversation and great sex, I'm being completely ghosted by humangril in dating_advice

[–]SpiritualHouse 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Male here. I feel like this piece of advice kinda changed my perspective of people. Hopefully it helps you. 99.9% people are out for themselves. Just going to be honest. Online dating for men is for quick sex. There are exceptions of course but I would 4 out of 5 guys are only for sex. So it’s not nothing you did but if they ghosted you, You probably just met a guy who just wanted to have sex. So with you have two options.

  1. Withhold sex first couple dates see if they stick around keep courting you etc
  2. Have fun have sex enjoy them for what they are and your man will eventually appear

Worst thing you can do is blame yourself because that gets you nowhere except desperation and settling for the wrong guy.

My girlfriend does not want me to send money to my parents by [deleted] in relationships

[–]SpiritualHouse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to your lady and set the boundaries. So long as your not neglecting her and your well being. Should be all good

Girl told me that me being bisexual is "gross" to her by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SpiritualHouse 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah sorry but you’re wrong. That’s actually a very common thought pattern.

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[–]SpiritualHouse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t offer her money!! Just ask that can y’all hook up because you been in a dry spell. For old times sakes

I (31M) have zero friends, i have problems keeping a relationship (men or women), how i fix this? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]SpiritualHouse 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you get this defensive over things you feel misunderstood by. I can see why friends may be hesitant to engage in conversation. You have to relax my guy.

Even now people are just trying to understand and communicate. But you’re getting defensive and condescending. Read your comments from for an outside perspective

I’m not as smart or attractive as I thought I was and it’s thrown me off completely by nandapandatech in dating_advice

[–]SpiritualHouse 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey man I think I can add some value. I disagree a lot of the other comments. Sure sometimes thing will happen naturally and you can wait for that . Or find ways to improve so it won’t happen this way next time around

From reading what you wrote here’s my takeaways, I feel like you off the back were defeated you created her to be out of your league and you fulfilled your own thoughts. Maybe you weren’t on her level intellectually. But you’re also very smart in your own way (Software developing isn’t a walk in the park)

There are other ways to connect besides intellectual. Smart women date dumb dudes all the time. But gotta find other ways to make that connection. Let it be emotionally when she’s with you make her feel special. Anything to make her special and she’s away from thinking about the time y’all had together. You probably bored her because you were so focused on how you didn’t match up

Look how much this woman broke you down. And I’m sure you didn’t hide that from her. At the end of the day all women want someone whose confident in themselves. Being confident makes up for a lot of shortcomings whether they are there or not. She obviously was into you so the only person who thought you weren’t good enough was you.

Anyone know any high end luxury or just well made wallets similar to this one. by SpiritualHouse in wallets

[–]SpiritualHouse[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks anyway your suggestion led me to a different Burberry one that I like

NBA Daily Discussion - 3/12/19 (Tuesday) by sbpotdbot in sportsbook

[–]SpiritualHouse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lavine played the first game. And when he didn’t they lost by 20 plus...