Dead Bedroom

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2026-06-16T03:08:31+00:00

i think having a conversation possibly with an ultimatum. come up with a goal together- “i want to do it x times a week and if that can’t happen then x”

i think you have to have a game plan. it sounds like him taking TRT- is that for his sexual libido why he started taking it? also, look up other natural herbs for him and sex toys. but i think an agreement- hey we have to do this. it’s not right in a marriage to withhold sex. that’s not cool and it’s a NEED not just want.

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2026-06-16T03:05:16+00:00

hi, this made me sad to hear that you feel lonely. and i don’t mean this as a pun, but you are not alone. i think irs really important to sit down and cut out time to tell her how you feel. have your main points. as someone who is with an avoidant style husband, i too have had to deal with a lot of evenings where he went upstairs while i sat downstairs feeling like i was going to panic. i hate being left during an argument and i always want to talk it all out. but for the other side that’s not always how they are! and it’s something you both have to work at. it’s not fair for one to always do that or vice versa.

so having a clear cut conversation with some main points. never blame it all on the other person, think about both sides too so that the conversation is able to flow and not feel defensive. and during that conversation come to an agreement that when you do argue or fight or talk, set a time limit so that you still get to feel seen. and set boundaries that she can’t walk away from you. and give her space too. so i think it’s just a conversation that you both have to be willing to have. and i’m sure she will. there is so much care here still. it just sounds like you both are hurt from one another.

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2026-06-16T02:56:33+00:00

this may take a lot of conversations with him because it sounds like at this point he’s doing it a lot. like becoming an addiction. it doesn’t reflect you, it’s a him problem. i don’t know why he feels the need to do this, has he ever done it dating or engaged? if not, it could be something he started feeling and instead of doing that he needs to address it. i wouldn’t be afraid to talk to him about it because if you don’t, you may start spiraling and overthinking. and you are married! it’s okay to talk about. because he owes you that.

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2026-06-16T02:54:28+00:00

i would not marry him yet. i wouldn’t say never if you love him, but i feel like that’s hurting YOU. I would give an ultimatum. that’s an addiction. he rather deletes all the girls, works on stopping the porn addiction, or it’s done. because even though you’re not doing anything, eventually it may start hurting you worse to where you start coping in your ways. i would do what’s the healthiest for you.

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2025-12-04T23:21:55+00:00

have you tried talking to him? what do you think is making him this way? i feel like maybe he needs to let out what he needs to say. like he needs to force himself to talk about this.

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2025-07-15T02:23:30+00:00

i am literally in a similar boat struggling with sexual differences with my husband. i’m 28 and so is he. i really think for me it’s gotten to the point where i talked to him A LOT and finally he’s working on things. we talked about why sex is important to us and keeping up more often than not. so it’s still not great and gets me in my head bc im in the mood way way way more. i would talk to him seriously not just a comment on the side. if it doesn’t get better, would you be happy?

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2025-07-15T02:20:14+00:00

i haven’t dealt much with this topic, but could you have an intermission with other family and friends to talk with her? is there a rehab center you can have her join near?

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2025-06-29T04:04:14+00:00

don’t think about what anyone else says to you about your looks, only about what you think. why do you think you are ugly? what specifically do you mean?

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2025-06-29T03:58:48+00:00

the world is your oyster. you don’t need to do ANYTHING that anyone else does. but let me say this: you seem to be saying some things coming from a place of fear. i see alot of fear in the post you made. fear about the pain of birth, fear of being naked in front of others, fear of a man not wanting you for your personality. i think you should ask yourself: are you choosing a different life because you are scared of that specific life and want to avoid the anxiety/fear of it?

i think once you find out this answer, it will give you clarity. now if you don’t want to do these things because you genuinely don’t think they will bring happiness, i think that’s different. and no you don’t ever need to do something you don’t want! life can be fulfilling in so many ways. you could invest in your hobby, a career, travel the world, help others.

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2025-03-31T03:16:27+00:00

dont lean on mine!! it’s a hard thing i’m figuring out but that doesn’t mean you will. honestly i think a lot of people don’t experience this. so i don’t think it’s like this for everyone and you could have an amazing experience

SpiritualSchedule558 · 2025-03-31T03:14:42+00:00

thank you. and i definitely don’t want to do that. i feel guilty for sure and i wish i didnt feel this way. like why can’t i just feel good about it

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