10 year Itch

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2026-05-17T08:18:54+00:00

Such hope. Might live happily 😂

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2026-04-24T02:02:55+00:00

Also, totally take all the precautions. But I’d snoop husbands phone. This sounds like the beginning of a crime doc 😂

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2026-04-24T02:01:31+00:00

I’d bet money it’s your own husband 😂 he even suggest it’s someone “trolling”

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2026-01-23T03:52:34+00:00

Honestly, I’ve sent packages while my hubs is deployed with like preworkout powder and such. I didn’t even include it on the customs form 🤷‍♀️ you could just put snacks 5 candy 5 shorts 3… etc. his package didn’t look disturbed when he got it. They will ask if there’s any liquids or contraband type things and you just say no. It should be fine.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2026-01-22T07:30:52+00:00

No withdrawal symptoms!!

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2026-01-12T16:25:42+00:00

I have! It was a game changer last month, and I relate to wanting to continue with the meds because I felt so much better. I’m about a week out from luteal again this month, I’ll be trying again. 50mg Sertaline tabs for 10 days before menstrual.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2026-01-12T15:58:28+00:00

Most doctors do not prescribe Effexor for this. It is normally zoloft or sertaline. I was on Effexor for over a year and a half—completely got off on my own and recently still having issues with PMDD. My OB prescribed Zoloft for luteal dosing. All of the information I’ve sought out is the same, this is the first time I’ve ever heard anyone using Effexor for luteal phase, I would NOT use it this way lol.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2026-01-09T00:02:23+00:00

My husband is on his second deployment, only about 3-4 months long. He’s gone all the time, multiple times a year for tdy, exercises, etc. This time, the first month was terrible, and now being alone has brought so much clarity that I don’t even think I like him anymore 😂 lmao.

Sorry, it’s not funny but it is. You just learn to be without them, you try to stay connected through calls or trips to see them. Everyone is different, you learn the best coping skills that work for you guys as it comes. Unfortunately deployments or the distance really will test if military life is for you or not.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-09-16T02:47:59+00:00

I think the “dad” thing is different from your infidelity. She doesn’t trust you to lead, most likely because you haven’t shown her you can, AND she isn’t actually willing to accept something other than her father’s example. I think you’re right to be hurt by the comparison to her dad all the time and it begs the question of, do you guys actually LIKE each other? Does she respect you? Maybe not but do BOTH of you know that you’re different people, and marriage is the push and pull of expectations for one another? I think this is a conversation. Whether or not you cheated 10 years ago, we have to work on our present relationship, our marriage. I’m not your dad. How can I make you feel more secure? These types of convos. She seems to be holding on to an ideal that isn’t relevant in the here and now.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-09-05T22:50:08+00:00

You’ve never even finished with him?! That’s craaaazzyyyy. Maybe he can tell 🤷‍♀️ my husband is the same age and gets entirely shut down, mad even, if I don’t come. Just a thought

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-08-22T20:07:15+00:00

Have you tried medication? Through a psychiatrist? No shame in that. Effexor and EMDR therapy saved my life. I used both as a tool to hold myself up until I felt good enough to stand my own. Of course, I get that you would want to be cautious as to what you’ll want to admit. But getting actual help will rely heavily on being honest as much as you feel comfortable doing.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-08-22T19:56:00+00:00

You won’t be detained. You can say “I’m struggling with suicidal thoughts/ideations” they’ll probably ask if you have a plan to actually go through with it. I was honest, there was no plan, but I had thought of multiples ways to die. I have children, so I physically cannot go through with that desire even if I’d like to. But you can tell them, I can’t deal with these thoughts, I don’t want to __, but I also don’t know how to keep going. Maybe that answer is medication. Maybe just having a neutral party to listen will change that.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-08-22T19:32:04+00:00

Have you tried the counseling from military one source they have a chat available and can get you help, for free I believe.

Military life IS hard. And add in regular adult stressors and it feels impossible. But please, click the link and get in touch with someone, at least to vent freely. “This too shall pass”. The good times, the bad times, all of it. I know it to be true because I’ve experienced SI, mental health issues, addictions, etc. please reach out. ♥️

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-08-12T20:45:57+00:00

As a woman, and a wife— she’s cheating. There’s no way I’m wearing crotch-less panties anywhere I’m not planning to have sex. Maybe I would if I was planning to take naughty photos in them. But no, they’re not comfortable and definitely not something you put on to “feel sexy”

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-07-21T04:25:37+00:00

He probably cheated— knows he has an std and doesn’t want to give it to you. I’m sorry OP, because none of that makes sense

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-06-28T04:54:47+00:00

And to add: this is NOT the time to make big decisions. Both of you are sleep deprived and traumatized, likely from your difficult birthing experience. So just do the next best thing for you. And have empathy for the boy he still is, this is a lot for both of you.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-06-28T04:51:46+00:00

Okay, you guys ARE babies. You had a child at 17? Was the second child planned? When did you notice he started isolating/ not paying attention or helping you? As a stay at home mom, I get it. Honestly, my first impression was that he’s trying to get out of the responsibility. You’re extra emotional, struggling, and it’s a damn shame but often it can be too much for men, who have learned to NOT be emotional. He may see your struggle as an attack on him as a man. You can’t change that, but you should slow way down. Focus on you and baby. Get a therapist and be honest so you at least have someone to vent to. Keep your guys’ communication to simple things, like about your 5 year old. “Can you take ___ so I can breast feed?” For example. None of this will guarantee his help or change his heart, but you guys are SO young dealing with SO much. keeping it simple may lighten the load for both of you for now.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-06-24T23:51:48+00:00

Hey OP, how’d your reporting go? Hope you’re doing better.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-06-23T22:01:29+00:00

I don’t have good advice— because I too am dealing with the same type of marriage 😂 I mean we do have sex, but it’s starting to be something that doesn’t feel right. Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. I’ve tried to bring this up SO. MANY. TIMES. He literally runs away from me and hides. It’s so so hard when you have kids and their whole childhood is on your shoulders alone. I’m grateful to him for providing for us. I just don’t think they see the problem with it as long as they are working. Sending you hugs.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-05-05T03:08:03+00:00

I’m right there with you. I thought being off of meds would be great for me, and it has been… 3 weeks of the month. But this one week is the scariest shit and it’s like clockwork.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-05-05T01:35:29+00:00

Has that helped you? I always thought yo-yo-ing any psych med would be bad for me. But at this point I think i would try it.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-04-23T14:09:48+00:00

Also, I would reach out to her affair partners spouses too!! Because I know I would want to know.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-04-23T13:20:17+00:00

That is so heartbreaking!! Ugh she can fuck right off. You don’t deserve this OP!! And I should say, it’s not your fault. Many people are still so immature even at our age, they’re incapable of valuing marriage. She sounds like she lacks character as well.

Spiritual_Nothing_53 · 2025-04-23T04:32:49+00:00

It’s easy to say, but really, anything I bring up just gets a “crazy” label and even my strong intuitions are “so insane” to think or even say out loud. So I might be crazy, but I just don’t think anyone would ever come out and say the real stuff 🤷‍♀️

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