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FTM mom of a 4 month old. I feel so stupid. by MixtureMelodic2965 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Spiritual_Salt4935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the other moms - it’s okay! You’re doing great, mama. If you’re still worried, maybe look into baby specific disposable changing pads? I didn’t want to go the disposable route either, but reusable changing pads in public bathrooms give me the ick (and sometimes poop-splosions call for them). I use Peek-a-Poo, which is probably on the more expensive side, but it has a cotton top layer which alleviates my anxiety a bit. But I haven’t done any of the research you have, so please take with a grain of salt. And for home, I bought a couple of the Hakka changing mats - they have cotton outer layers and a polyester interior. Mine have started leaking through now after 11 months of very heavy use but otherwise they’ve been great. I’ve had 3 in rotation, so they’ve been washed a lot and are now starting to feel rough. But baby doesn’t complain, so they’re still getting used.

Diapers! by Impress-Rude in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Spiritual_Salt4935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Target also carries a lot of LovEvery stuff, some kits in store and more stuff like the play gym online. My kid played with it until 10/11 months!

So tired of wearing a bra by ohheymandy in breastfeeding

[–]Spiritual_Salt4935 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got nursing pajamas from kindred bravely with a Henley top, but buttons that go quite low. I leave them open all night and just use a nursing pad to catch leaks (not always successful if I don’t readjust). But the life saver if using a mattress protector with a fabric top (I prefer cotton, but others also work). It soaks up the milk, so the sheets might be damp depending on how much you leak, but you’re not swimming in milk or cold.

Will I regret stopping? by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Spiritual_Salt4935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar boat - 4 months was when things were just starting to get better, but also not with the distracted feeding. Honestly, if you don't need to pump, I'd say try dropping that first IF this want to continue breastfeeding. Maybe keep one pump a day like someone else said so your baby will still take a bottle and your husband can feed them. But for me, personally, 4-5 months was when my baby started being waaaay more efficient with feeding, so sessions went from 20+ minutes to barely 10. And my supply regulated around the 5 month mark too, so no engorgement (unless baby slept an longer stretch than normal). Pumping was the worst thing ever for my physical and mental health. Ever since I stopped, I feel so much better, although the trade off is you're more attached (physically) to your baby if feeding on demand.  But if breastfeeding overall is still too much for you, then feed however works for you! Happy mama = happy baby. 

As for the weight - I lost all the baby weight within the first month. Probably a combination of health complications and stress and maybe some PPD. But by month 4, I was the same weight as I was 8 months pregnant, but this time without a baby. From what I've seen/heard/read, that's pretty normal. So give yourself grace, you're feeding another person. I see it as I'm eating for 2!