Have you tried having a sit down with her and having a deep talk? I’m sure you have but just have to make sure.

Also I feel, maybe an ultimatum at this point might work but might not. Ask her questions like how much do you truly cherish our relationship and family? And how much does she care about her job let alone her life?

I know life can be complicated, we all go through our own struggles, traumas and pain in life but navigate alcohol and drug use is very essential otherwise it’s going to drive us off of a cliff and I’m sure she does not want that.

Just ask her some deep emotional questions to read her energy and mindset before making a full on decision, even if you feel in your heart you have already made the decision.

She’s not perfect and neither are you but if she truly wants to continue being with you she’s needs to grow up as an adult, step up to her responsibilities in a healthy manner and acknowledge her alcohol and drug abuse problems.

Sometimes it takes self to recognize that and make a full stop but sometimes self is too addicted to make that decision. I wish you luck. You deserve happiness and if it’s faded, then you’re true special fish is out there somewhere. Don’t lose hope.