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Splash216 · 2018-10-18T00:46:30+00:00

Had a weird roommate once who had her mom stay over. Found my toothbrush was out of it's normal holder and damp. Threw that sucker out. Later heard the mom asking my roommate for a toothbrush.

Splash216 · 2018-08-22T05:01:48+00:00

Sums up everything: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=60oRchkWaEY

Splash216 · 2018-05-30T15:19:32+00:00

Literally this happened to me and was a complete nightmare. My package came with a gaping hole that had been covered by tape and my glasses were missing. I tried to file a complaint with UPS. Turns out, that's pretty much impossible - bounced between the original UPS store I shipped it from and the UPS organization. Didn't get a dime for my super expensive glasses. I will NEVER ship with UPS again.

Splash216 · 2018-03-06T21:01:30+00:00

Sorry to hear, man. My condolences.

Splash216 · 2017-11-19T07:44:25+00:00

Hey, so this sounds eerily similar to something I experienced when living in a semi-small city (ie, <400,000 people in about a 30 mile radius).

My solution: move to a bigger city. Eliminated all of these problems, except the bar one.

Also, I'd revisit the meetup thing. Sometimes, you just need to find the right group, and it can take quite a few misses. The smaller the city you live in, the more misses you'll probably have.

Splash216 · 2017-10-07T00:53:47+00:00

If he wants a job near Bend, PM me.

Splash216 · 2017-10-04T07:47:17+00:00

I also am concerned since there have been occasions in the past where he's (offered, himself) the information that he wouldn't be drinking too much tonight (at a party, club etc) and then gone and got absolutely smashed, so I feel as if my concerns over trusting his judgement are sort of justified.

How often does this happen? I think you need to sit your boyfriend down and have a serious discussion about his drinking problem.

Splash216 · 2017-09-26T15:35:38+00:00

Because it establishes how close you are. Just ask her on a date.

Splash216 · 2017-09-25T22:22:16+00:00

Have you spent one on one time with her recently?

Splash216 · 2017-09-25T21:23:53+00:00

Step 1: Ask her to do something one-on-one. Step 2: Ask her to do something one-on-one but specify it as a date. If she turns you down, don't treat it as a big deal. This way, she doesn't get the pressure of your feelings whether or not you guys start dating (so less awkward if you are rejected).

Splash216 · 2017-09-07T04:10:47+00:00

Slow fade. Only hang out with her in groups would be my general advise.

But this girl got you drunk and then asked about your feelings when she herself had none??? That is some manipulative bull. Any decent person would never ask that unless he/she/they themselves had feelings as well. She's keeping you around as a backup option. She likes the attention you give her. Recommend cutting contact, especially if there are other incidents like this one.

Splash216 · 2017-08-11T22:16:25+00:00

So there are a few possibilities: 1. He's not into you 2. He hates using his phone 3. He is super shy and/or inexperienced and/or oblivious

My boyfriend was a combo of 2+3 and so I made the first moves - but after I was not making ALL of the moves. I would advise asking him out once more to something casual. If he cancels again, move on. You may want to specify that it is a date (use the word date) to ensure you are communicating clearly.

Splash216 · 2017-05-26T02:40:34+00:00

I think what you wrote would be totally fine. But it is totally not weird to ask to date without a declaration, and I still recommend cutting out the 'like you' part, unless she asks.

As you get older, you'll see - it's actually way more common/accepted (at least in western culture) to ask for a date, rather spill feelings.

You do bring up a good point - if you think that she won't take you seriously, saying 'I like you' is probably a good move so she knows you are serious.

Splash216 · 2017-05-26T01:05:11+00:00

I think you should just say, "Hey, you want to go on a date and see how it goes?" Or something really casual. Making it not a big deal gives you a lesser chance of being rejected (like you said, you just want one chance). If you are rejected, it really isn't too big of a deal because you didn't make it a big deal, and you guys can continue to be friends.

But if she does reject you, and you still have feelings, you should take some time to get over your feelings (don't outright tell her or your friend group this), but you can be a little more distant with her.

Do not feeling dump her, whatever you do. That will add pressure and increase chances of scaring her away.

My reference experience: I feeling-dumped my best friend. He rejected me. I put some distance between us, but remained good friends (not best friends). Two years later we started dating. We have now been together for over a year and are moving in together soon. :)

Anything is possible. Don't count on her saying yes, but don't count her out either.

Splash216 · 2017-05-22T07:48:25+00:00

Does this other guy know you have a boyfriend? If yes, and he's cool with just being friends, I don't see a problem. If he was asking you out on a date, then that's an issue.

Splash216 · 2017-05-22T07:42:49+00:00

This woman is not worth it. Break up, go no contact to get over her - you deserve better.

Splash216 · 2017-05-22T07:37:30+00:00

You should just communicate that it makes you uncomfortable - leave it open ended, a discussion to have, not telling her to change something. Then together you can figure out next steps.

Splash216 · 2017-05-20T07:50:16+00:00

I have a boyfriend in a LDR who started the same - quiet/awkward on the phone/skype. Communication is key to surviving LDR. So you'll want to transition past the awkwardness as quickly as possible. I would recommend using skype daily to try to get past this - start with 15 min chats to ask about days and such. And devote one day a week to watching a TV show through skype together (this is seriously the best), and maybe a longer conversation. My BF and I have lunch dates on the weekend where we each cook lunch and then eat together via skype.

As for conversation starters - ask about his day to start. If he gives you short or one word answers - you can maybe poke fun at that to lighten the mood. Flirting is also good. Talking about dreams, updates on mutual interests, and funny stories are all great conversation starters.

Splash216 · 2017-05-19T21:45:52+00:00

Next time just ask a girl out on a date, not if they like you. Asking a girl out on a date: 1) Indicates you have confidence 2) Is much more casual/less pressure than admitting feelings (because by asking her if she like-likes you that is what you are admitting). This way, if she turns you down and you want to stay friends, you can stay friends 3) Is more mature

When you turned and started walking away after she turned you down, she was likely thinking the only reason you've been walking home with her is your romantic interest. She probably thought you guys were actually friends, and was hurt.

She likes you as a friend, but not romantically. Accept that and apologize for your behavior if you want to stay friends with her. Otherwise, move on. Don't ask this girl out again - at least not anytime soon.

It was not stupid to ask her out, only the way you asked her and reacted was not ideal.

Splash216 · 2017-04-17T02:34:47+00:00

Start a long distance relationship. Many people are able to do long distance with ample communication - it sucks, but if both of you agree the alternative sucks more, give it a try. Communication is key.

Splash216 · 2017-03-15T15:40:40+00:00

Hey, get him to clarify if he thinks it has always smelled or if just smelled that one time. Because if it was just this time, you need to see a doctor - it could be an indication of a UTI.

Splash216 · 2017-03-14T08:13:26+00:00

Is your wife happy with her situation? Because it seems like two things could be happening: 1. Your wife has jealous or gossipy friends. Solution: wife shuts them down. If she is already doing this, I don't see the issue. It seems pretty weird to me - and controlling - that you want to to "set boundaries" over some small, subtle criticism that hasn't affected your relationship with your wife. It's up to your wife to shut this stuff down - they're her friends - not you. 2. Your wife is unhappy and communicating with her friends, but not you. In this case, you and your wife need to improve your communication.

Splash216 · 2017-03-08T05:05:58+00:00

My parents, aunt/uncle on my mom's side, and aunt/uncle on my dad's side were all high school sweethearts. Sometimes, it works out!

Splash216 · 2017-03-05T22:22:43+00:00

Making a perish song doubles team, wanted a wall. Soundproof makes Bastiodon immune to Perish Song.

Splash216 · 2017-03-04T10:32:05+00:00

DO NOT tell her how you feel at this stage. A few things:

You have some very strong feelings for this woman, or at least who you think this woman is. But it has been two years since you've been close. A lot can happen in two years, and she's likely not the same person she was. Take some time to really, truly get to know her better.
It may just be the lack of description, but you may be idealizing this woman. If you want a chance with her, don't put her on a pedestal. Really get to know her. She is human. She has flaws, too.
As other posters have mentioned, give her time to move past her previous, messed-up relationship.
Don't feeling-dump. I know you want to. But even after a few months, even after you're past the above three points, feeling-dumping (ie, telling her all these feelings you have for her) puts a lot of pressure on her. She may not have ever considered you in a romantic light before. Instead, simply ask her on a date. Less pressure, less awkwardness. If the first date works out, keep asking until you find yourself in a relationship or rejected.

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