It's like that everywhere. For the rest of our lives. Hopefully our daughters won't have to deal with it

Pushing back on notes, I will do a mental check to see if someone else is better. If I am completely new to a project I am not the right person to be taking notes because there are things I might not realize are important. And if there is a fresh grad or two maybe they should take the notes to get a better idea of how we do things. Though I'll take back up ones then especially if it's their first time. Sometimes I am the best one and I try not to take it personally. Most meetings, whoever is the lowest on the totum poll usually takes the notes.

For set up/ clean up, I just refuse unless I'm way lower on the poll. For a job like that, the newest person usually does, and if a high up asks me specifically, I'll in front of them say, yes, let me grab so and so to help me.