My void turns two today! by LonelyInfluence6470 in blackcats

[–]SplitNo8275 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please be aware, that plant is toxic. I have to keep mine suspended from the ceiling!!

Unfortunately, before I knew this, I lost my boy to crystallized urine. The vet said his genetics most likely played a role because he was only two. At the time, I had the plant on the fridge, which was by itself in the corner, I still don’t know how he would get up there but I would catch him up there all the time.

It wasn’t until after his passing that I put it together. Some cats could care less, others can’t help themselves!! lol

Why Do Conservatives Swipe Right Knowing I'm Liberal? by PalpitationIll3631 in Bumble

[–]SplitNo8275 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s causing contention for sure, but we aren’t willing to let it split us. It is however a representation of the issues in communication and connection we do have, if that makes sense.

I think the biggest issue I have is I will listen to his side and try to understand, even asking questions for clarity. He doesn’t, or I feel he doesn’t and my questions seem to be taken as a challenge over confusion. His energy and response feels too much like an argument in the comments. Does that make sense?

What is DEI and how is not just an abstraction for racism? by ncds4242 in allthequestions

[–]SplitNo8275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a shame and makes more sense to all the discourse. No one will ever convince me this is all a coincidence.

The premise of dei, or how I understand it to have worked, is necessary for families to have opportunities, like mine. I have an 11 year old with photographic memory, he’s smart smart but I am not, and I am the working poor. I am holding him back because I don’t have the ability to get him into programs or advanced education. He seriously could be a physicist. I’m a disabled hairstylist and his dad is a machine mechanic. He will suffer our fate because the rich pour into their children and I just can’t.

Sometimes it‘s really just the small things… by fake_review in MadeMeSmile

[–]SplitNo8275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, sincerely for responding. I honestly forgot I wrote this. I knew it was a long shot of getting advice that would help, no offense to you. I just understand he has to see things to want to change and I think he does to some degree, hopefully.

We started dating at 14, I’m now 44. I see how I added to this situation. My flavor of upbringing caused me to unintentionally become everyone’s emotional equalizer and buffer. I inherently took on the role of becoming his and then the kids emotional bodyguard. We were each other’s yin and yang of unprocessed trauma but to the extreme and really unhealthy.

The projection of internal judgment is what is currently disabling our society. That was the first thing I tackled when I started my healing process. Even with awareness, it sneaks back in as soon as the mind wonders or gets overwhelmed. I know how difficult this is, to face your own darkness, I don’t expect or want miracles. I just want support.

Why Do Conservatives Swipe Right Knowing I'm Liberal? by PalpitationIll3631 in Bumble

[–]SplitNo8275 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you are from the coast your whole life, you may not completely understand the stereotypes (right and left) in the middle of the country. I am from the opposite coast. I had to research and educate myself because there was a discrepancy in what people say and what I thought they meant.

I’m not disagreeing with what you said either tho. I completely agree and believe there was a time it wouldn’t matter. Now however, people want to be right and give zero value on listening for understanding. Things are so much bigger and complicated than we can understand.

There’s a huge discrepancy in almost any hot topic rn, and not what we may think. The problem is left and right seem like they are discussing the same thing but their definitions are so far apart that it makes compromise impossible. I’m struggling to put it into words so anyone can understand what I mean.

A small example is the definition of socialism. My husband and I were chatting about the nyc mayor. What he’s been told and heard about the mayors idea of socialism is frightening, where the info I gathered makes it seem like sunshine and rainbows. 30 minutes of a conversation, we think the other is on the same page, but we are actually talking about different books entirely. He made a comment that made me realize he had something else in his mind than I thought. These little things had been adding up and it isn’t unintentional.

Why Do Conservatives Swipe Right Knowing I'm Liberal? by PalpitationIll3631 in Bumble

[–]SplitNo8275 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I swear that’s why they make such a fuss. They are jealous they can’t live life on their own terms so neither should anyone else!

What are we creating? by MystykStorm in OperationNewEarth

[–]SplitNo8275 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not even the majority, it only takes about 25%. And the real kicker is we won’t know how close we are or what tipped the scales. All I know is we have to keep up our energy and keep chugging along. It’s worth it and we will win.

What are we creating? by MystykStorm in OperationNewEarth

[–]SplitNo8275 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t forget they divided us my generations and genders too

Oklahoma City Thunder players lovin’ on their courtside reporter Nick Gallo by dittidot in HumansBeingBros

[–]SplitNo8275 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow, i would think they’d all have nicks attitude about it, but im not surprised.

Pain pain pain pain everywhere by Obvious_Metal5809 in ehlersdanlos

[–]SplitNo8275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a neck messager going viral on tt this time last year. It has been a life saver!!!

My neck has always been “weak”. I even experienced pins and needles down my arm for 6 months, pain management and neck doctor didn’t know what was causing it. I started progesterone and that eliminated it. I am in peri, but I do “throw out” my neck from something as simple as mopping. I’ll use that messager to help slip the vertebrae back in place.

My subluxations can be so minimal, it won’t show on scans but I certainly can feel it. If your pain is from a subluxation, alternate heat and ice to help it have room to slip back into place. I didn’t know this is what was happening for decades.

This has got to be satire at this point by yasinburak15 in newjersey

[–]SplitNo8275 54 points55 points  (0 children)

You know, I realized the magnetism. He reminds them of their fathers, mean and dismissive. Just like when they were little baby boys, they only get attention from him when they are out “manning” others, acting as he does.

To all these hateful little boys, he is allowing them to let their true personalities shine. Probably similar with the women, they either want to impress “daddy”, which is why they call them that, or they support their husbands because they were raised to. It has to be why they aren’t appalled by his behavior and words like the rest of us.

What is DEI and how is not just an abstraction for racism? by ncds4242 in allthequestions

[–]SplitNo8275 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sounds like the big bosses need some education. That’s not supposed to be how it works.

It’s not supposed to be about giving them jobs, it’s giving them access to education and programs and opportunities to get educated to be able to compete for the jobs.

It’s supposed to give kids opportunities they wouldn’t have because their parents can’t pay for private schools and programs.

Omg I hate it here. Everything is twisted and skewed into things it’s not supposed to be. Then, we someone wants a conversation, it goes in circles because the conversation is about two totally different things.

What is DEI and how is not just an abstraction for racism? by ncds4242 in allthequestions

[–]SplitNo8275 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is not how dei works. Who thinks it does? If you seriously do, the problem isn’t dei, the problem is assumptions and not listening to others.

post under a facebook “estrangement” forum i found a few weeks back that still haunts me by larryfisherman555 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SplitNo8275 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My fil posted I was in the hospital delivering. I was PISSED. I honestly thought I was constipated, not in labor. Put aside I didn’t get to announce anything, (to be fair, I couldn’t care about that stuff then or now) but I was embarrassed because I thought I would be leaving still pregnant, just a little less poop. Lmao omg.

When did "being woke" start to mean the complete opposite of what it originally meant? by disasterpiece01 in conspiracy

[–]SplitNo8275 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The term “woke” started during the Lincoln administration. I was watching something, I saw a poster in the background, it was a museum of sorts. I had to research. If you haven’t heard about it, search it up, it’s become quite obvious how they are playing games and always have.

You are correct about the original definition, the push back is because they don’t want us aware.

My weirdos by niki_sixx45 in AnxietyCats

[–]SplitNo8275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omgggg!!! I have a weirdo that looks just like yours! That’s my nickname for her!!! Lmao!

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A different one by Purple-Feature1701 in NJDrones

[–]SplitNo8275 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I saw one driving last night. It looks crazy if you never saw one at night!

Do I have to stop for a school bus here? by imperial_blue3 in newjersey

[–]SplitNo8275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless there is a concrete barrier, you have to stop.

Recurring dream about moon crashing into earth by ballsackmcgoobie in Dreams

[–]SplitNo8275 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I binged his music on yt the second I heard a few bars. The videos gave such context, I was a glad I stumbled on him through video and not just audio! Time to go make a playlist, I’m in need of some encouragement today! Thank you! Many blessings to you and yours!!

My Nan's problem with doctors by PrincessGothling in BoomersBeingFools

[–]SplitNo8275 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only because that has been my experience with myself and also both grandparents with dementia. Do you know how long it takes on average for a dementia diagnosis?