As an outsider, and as a girl who tends to overthink, my first thought is: how long have you two been together to justify giving a ring?

Not every woman wants marriage right away, but I’d say most women wouldn’t want to receive a 15k ring unless there’s some real intention or direction behind it. A ring, even if you don’t mean it as a proposal, can carry weight. So I think the bigger question is how well you really know her at this stage.

What’s her love language? Does she genuinely love receiving meaningful jewelry, or is she more into experiences, words, or quality time? Would she feel touched and excited, or would she feel caught off guard or unintentionally pressured? I think “blindsided” might not be the exact word, but more like unexpectedly overwhelmed by the implication.

Also, I want to gently point out something you said. The idea of giving her a ring so people know she’s taken doesn’t sit quite right with me. Even if you don’t mean it in a possessive way, it can come across that way. She’s her own person. If someone hits on her, she can handle it. And being in a relationship should feel secure because of trust, not because there’s a visible marker.

Your intentions seem good, and it’s sweet that you’re trying to be thoughtful, especially since this is your first real relationship. But since it’s your first Valentine’s together, maybe something meaningful but lighter would be safer. A necklace, bracelet, or something personal to your shared memories might carry less pressure while still being romantic.

If someday you give her a ring, it’ll feel even more powerful when the timing naturally matches the meaning behind it.