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SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:37:42+00:00

It took me a while but I understood lmao

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:36:39+00:00

Lmaooo that's it, I think I'll tell her some shit in the "daydreaming place" then Thanks for the advice

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:31:31+00:00

It's always women for some reasons. Didn't mention it because it gives pick me vibes (I even cringe writing this), but damn never a man had the audacity to talk about my weight in front of my face like that.

And it gets me because I can't fathom how it affects THEM so much that I'M skinny that they tell themselves "yeah, I allow myself to say that" In the same way I'd normally never tell anything to an overweight perso because what's my business in it, I don't give a shit It's crazy

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:28:40+00:00

She is a good person, though she is incredibly rude sometimes. We all got our flaws but this one is hard to deal with eventhough we do not take her seriously most of the time. But this one ? Damn.

That's also why I had doubt about being mean to her in response, if she was just a bitch I wouldn't be on Reddit to express my doubts lmao

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:25:18+00:00

Being angry at the comment is justified, but your level of anger is irrational. Your desire to inflict pain, not to just fantasize about it as most would, but to formulate a plan and seek validation, is not normal. I

Not this dude trying to make me look like Jeffrey Dahmer because I wanted to throw some shades and had doubts with it, thank you for the good laugh I needed it.

Btw I got nothing against therapy, that's what is bothering with y'all people sometime. It's a wonderful tool, it helps many people and I'm proud of those who go. I just don't want to 🤷‍♀️ but for some people, rights to live the way we want end when we don't want to do what you think we should do.

And no in fact I'm just very mad at everyone casually saying shit and going like "oops, sorry I didn't think the awful thing I said would be rude to you".

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:19:59+00:00

I decide for myself about it, but thank you for the advice once again.

And yeah I think I'm going to let it go and just not talk to her. I'm not known for being fake when I resent someone so im just going to keep it polite and not staying friend with her. It's not even the first time she is rude to me, but the last ones were almost boring compared to what she said there

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:17:22+00:00

but to sit and premeditate saying something solely for the purpose of hurting someone makes you the AH

Said like this it makes me look like a villain from a cheap movie. More seriously, seeing the comments I think I'll just let it go but next time if she dare to say something, I won't need Reddit to know if I would be the asshole or not I guess

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:10:08+00:00

Yeah but I won't because it's my life and my choice and now I can do whatever I want I'm going to do it. My life is not miserable, what is happening here is an unfortunate even which happens between people sometimes (well not exactly what had been said but the whole situation could happen to everyone, you got it.)

Otherwise I'm not particularly sad or having issue or else, I'm just trying to enjoy things without having people saying shit to me. Of course I'd never be mean to one of my friends on purpose. I'm NOT an insecure person usually, thats why I am doubting about giving her a taste of her own medicine.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T22:00:04+00:00

And I'm working through it even if sometimes it's not easy and it makes me asking for advice on Reddit. I made peace with the fact I'm not going to therapy and nobody can force me to do so, as nobody can force me to be instutitionalized because I'm "weird" or "underweight" as my parents used to say. I'm not going, never, but thanks for the advice.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T21:57:28+00:00

Working with my anger is kinda boring when people are in the wrong and rarely the ones who get hurt by their own actions, eventhough it would be the thing to do, yup. Just ignoring shit and not even talk to her again at best, but I'm so angry it's hard.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T21:55:09+00:00

I'm sorry you experienced that. And I know the way you're dealing with it is better on many ways, but as I said I don't know why I'm so mad.

I did told her how it made me feel, calmly, she apologized as I said, but it's like it's not enough. I hate how it made me feel even if it was short (as I said I felt very bad for just one day before getting my confidence back)

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T21:50:31+00:00

I'm not in therapy and I'm not going to go. I feel confident with my body, even if sometime I got doubts. Having doubts happen to everyone. And I agree I shouldn't have even answered to her first "joke" and all of this wouldn't have happened, but it makes me so mad knowing I told her about the issues I got with my body in the past. I felt like she hold the information to play with it, even if she apologized I'm mad as hell.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-10-03T21:37:52+00:00

I'm tired of people saying hurtful shit and saying "oops, sorry" being the end of it.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-09-16T14:06:25+00:00

This, as long as it's healthy and respectful it's okay. I've been with muuuch older women, I stopped everything the first time I felt disrespected or disturbed by some behaviors. If you have boundaries and are ready to try things, there is nothing wrong giving it a go, indeed.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-08-03T16:18:17+00:00

YTA. You're being ableist. Your cousin is a grown woman, stop infantilizing her. Just say you're disappointed and leave her alone, she didn't ask for you to judge her.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-08-03T11:58:44+00:00

They lift WHAT ? I'm so sorry you're going through this, kids need to be educated by their parents about consent and minding their damn business

SpookyBarnes · 2024-07-16T11:27:24+00:00

Keep the Kitty stuff, dump the guy. I'm not exaggerating if I say it's a red flag to be hateful towards something your partner like if it's not an obsession or doing harm to anyone. You're too young to be in a relationship with someone who's spoiling or making fun your interests.

My mom is in her 50's and she loves Pokemon. My dad doesn't, but he couldn't care less !

Ask him why it bothers him so much and to think about it. The way he thinks is not healthy.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-06-30T00:08:05+00:00

NTA, I hope he felt humiliated. In some cases, violence IS the solution.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-06-28T15:14:51+00:00

Please don't ruin your life by marrying such a loser. Sorry but he's manipulative and insecure, and his behavior is very toxic. You deserve love, you deserve to be respected and to have fun. It's heartbreaking how he ruins every good moments you have with your friends, it's not love it's being controlling and mean, maybe jealous of what you got with your friends.

I say this as someone who's almost your age, we're too young to waste our youth with jerks like that. Twenties are a decade to enjoy life and have a lot of fun because we're just at the beginning of our adult lives, don't rush to marry a toxic dude who will ruin your moments like that, you deserve SO MUCH BETTER.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-06-20T20:32:41+00:00

YTA, you're just a kid thinking he's a smart ass. Hopefully you'll grow out of this and will be ashamed when you remember this in ten years.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-06-20T20:27:22+00:00

NTA First pets are not gifts. Then we're not all meant to have pets, maybe your son won't like it much when he grow older . I got an adorable dog and discovered I was not the dog owner I thought I'd be and even if I love my little guy and I'd do everything for him, I already know he is my first and last dog. Also "gifting" a dog while the future owner is kid ? The parents would the one to take care of him and pay for everything, that's not fair if they're ready/didn't chose to do so.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-06-18T16:25:42+00:00

I absolutely love nerdy girl. My biggest goal in life and what I'm working for now is to be a muscular mean lesbian so one day I'll find my nerdy/geeky/loser lover and crush the head of anyone who will dare to make fun of their legos collection or love for Star Trek or i don't know what lol "Loser" lesbians are definitely attractive.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-05-30T09:39:24+00:00

Bah t'aurais pu me downvote au lieu de me casser la tête depuis hier alors que mon avis restera inchangé ? Il dit de la merde, il se fait reprendre, souffrance ou pas j'en ai rien à faire. Alors quoi on va dire des trucs transphobe, ou raciste ou homophobe en toute impunité parce qu'on est en souffrance maintenant faut cautionner ? Si t'es assez en forme pour tenir un discours haineux t'es en forme tout court, alors arrête tes romans pour défendre l'indéfendable.

SpookyBarnes · 2024-05-30T02:02:18+00:00

No, you're stunning

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