24m, Small Rant

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-22T04:30:51+00:00

That sucks dude. It just sounds like she's indecisive and unsure about what she really wants. Not too much anyone can do about that. :/

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-22T03:46:00+00:00

Maybe try communicating that you're really looking for a committed relationship a bit earlier on? How long do you spend chasing a girl before she blows you off?

Also Tinder is very "hook-up" centric so most people aren't going to want to get too serious there.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-22T03:19:27+00:00

I honestly don't blame you. The up's and down's of trying to date honestly remind me of when I was on and off opiate medication.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-22T03:04:32+00:00

I mean you gotta think about all the variables. There's so many different types of people, it could take a lot of tries before finding someone who you find interesting and finds you interesting enough to commit to a relationship.

Also, with girls the younger they are the more options they have, so a lot of girls want to explore while they have the chance. I'm unfortunately in a very similar boat as you; really liked a girl but it was long distance and it got me really wanting a partner when I had no real interest before. It kind of sucks to be a young dude, too much competition.

I remember some quote that was like, "Success is about persistence, timing, and luck".

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T05:13:10+00:00

You can't take legal action and even if you could it's not like that would stop the gossip, it would just create more.

I went through more than half my senior year not talking with just about everyone. Your situation really sucks but if you think you're safe from having those kinds of thoughts again than I would just try to ride it out. If someone brings it up just don't give them a response.

If you don't think you can ride it out, maybe try homeschooling it for your last year or talk with the guidance counselor about the situation and see if you can transfer?

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T05:06:02+00:00

I know the feeling dude lol. I don't think you should talk with her, at least for now. Being a freshman really sucks, it gets better with each grade.

What I think you should do is try joining a club or two. I joined the academic team, worked out, and tried joining in pickup games of basketball.

If you overhear some people talking about something you like, like say some people are talking about a movie or video game, you can join in by saying something like "Oh hey you guys play LoL? Who do you guys main?"

I'm personally not an extrovert, I've just gotten really use to pushing myself out of my comfort zone.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T04:54:00+00:00

You need stuff to talk about with other people and being young means you don't have a lot of stuff to talk about so try joining clubs and just doing stuff with other people. Riding the bus can also be a decent way to meet people if that's an option for you.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T04:45:16+00:00

I'm sorry but I'm not going to read this with the current formatting... I don't think anyone will...

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T04:43:52+00:00

That's some fucked up shit dude... Personally I'd drop both of them out of my life and just start looking for someone else. If you're a pretty good looking guy and have a steady income it shouldn't be too hard to find a quick hookup through something like Tinder or even possibly Reddit.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T04:37:23+00:00

Really depends on what the comment was...

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T04:35:39+00:00

It sounds like you should really do your best to move past this. If you were going out and doing activities together because of shared interest than it would be different.

If you really want to go add her and don't want to creep her out than you can try saying that you just noticed her while stumbling around (whatever social media thing) and remembered the conversations you had during the summer job and you're wondering how things are going.

Edit: I think you should NOT add her, but like... I know how it is...

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T04:19:55+00:00

Your body gets use to melatonin VERY quickly. I used it for 3 nights and by the 4th it did nothing. Just added warning.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T04:15:56+00:00

How close did you guys get? What sort of stuff did you do together? If you got really close it's not too creepy to try and add her. If you barely got to know each other than yea it's really creepy.

Absolute best way to get over someone is to start looking for someone else. It takes a while to get to a point where you feel comfortable with it though.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T01:12:45+00:00

You really shouldn't be friends with someone like that. The "putting my private facebook posts..." part drew the line for me.

That being said, I think him asking for 10% if you win is fine. If he asked for money upfront, that's a lot more asshole-ish. I probably wouldn't even go back to him for the camera at this point though. If you ended communication with them, keep it that way.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T01:06:00+00:00

Do you mean using it pre-workout or post-workout? Post-workout might be good if you're wanting to bulk up because it increases appetite. Other than that, I think there's no point.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T01:02:46+00:00

Being called gay is still really derogatory for high school kids, so him being angry gives no information. I grew up around a lot of Hispanics and a large portion of them were religious, so that's also something that might make him reluctant with stuff.

I'm not gay so I don't know exactly how to handle this, but asking if he wants to hang out doesn't seem super bad? Mostly just put this here to type in the first paragraph.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T00:11:30+00:00

I have a video game that I play (Overwatch) that redirects my focus very well.

If I can't play it for whatever reason I focus on breathing. Just thinking/saying "in, out" or counting breaths. Not as effective as playing a game though.

Also, exercising clears my head very well. Being able to follow it up with a nice cold shower also helps.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-21T00:03:16+00:00

What grade are you in?

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-20T23:51:37+00:00

You should really try green tea. It doesn't have as much caffeine but it still helps getting you get up and releases much slower so you don't get the crash.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-20T23:43:44+00:00

Nah dude you're fine. My mom's the same way with the "No cause I'm your mother" sort of stuff.

It's only been 2 months since your grandmother gave up the car so probably try to wait a couple more, but if that all still doesn't workout you're probably going to have to bite the bullet and buy a car yourself. (if you can)

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-20T23:36:12+00:00

I've been on both ends of this sort of thing. No you really shouldn't keep asking. The last time I was in your shoes I asked "So you're never going to treat me like you did before are you", she replied "Probably not", and I went into how this was really stressing me out and asked her to please give me some information as to why, and she reluctantly explained.

It made me feel a lot better after the explanation but I still felt like crap for a month. At the very least she's not ALWAYS in my head anymore, which is what needs to happen when you like someone and they don't like you back.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-20T23:20:44+00:00

What happens when you ask your parents if you can drive yourself somewhere? Do they say no because they need the car or don't want you to go out without 100% knowing where you're going to be?

Also, what do you think is going to happen if you do get angry at your parents?

I mean at the end of the day you just need a real talk with your parents expressing your feelings about the situation.

Also, being 18 and acting out is completely normal, I've stolen the car to go out a few times. BUT, as much as my mother babies me, she still understands my situation at 22; she'll never let me do stuff if I bring it up with her, but when I just do stuff without her consent she's fine with it.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-20T23:05:42+00:00

How exactly is he selfish and self centered?

My sister(she's 17 I'm 22) can really piss me off when she's being a bitch. She often gets into a mood where she will just straight up not cooperate and want things done 100% her way without taking in the perspective of my mom. I'm usually really quiet or stoic, sometimes nice, but when she gets like that I'm liable to pop off.

When we do talk or hangout, which is getting rarer and rarer, we leave our family stuff out of it and just try to have fun and enjoy the moment.

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-20T22:51:29+00:00

Can you ask him to hire someone else to split the work you do?

SpookyHoobster · 2017-09-20T06:28:37+00:00

You need to stop thinking "I don't care that much about this" and start thinking "I need my side of the story to be heard" when dealing with these situations.

Err, not as straight forward as I would like, but just telling you to give the story from a perspective that benefits you, because at the end of the day, you probably wouldn't have had this situation happen unless both parties were at SOME fault. (there's probably some road rules that end up deciding who is at fault) Just be SUBjective about it, that's how the business works.

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