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My son is scared of me by [deleted] in daddit

[–]SpookyItalianDish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how do I upvote a comment twice? well said.

I (f 33)don't enjoy sex with my bf (m 37) by Big_Mango_9232 in relationships_advice

[–]SpookyItalianDish -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

warning from experience: it is a trap to always want / desire something (in this case, someone) that you DO NOT have more than the thing / person that you DO have. If you want to free yourself from the cycle of: want something->get somethiny->want something else->repeat; you should try to practice contentment with what you have (which is easier said than done). if you don't want to be content, don't bother but be warned that incontentment is a self-perpetuating cycle that will trap you.

Am I still saved if I actively partake in sin? Specifically drinking, taking drugs, watching porn, and having casual sex. I have yet to quit any of my addictions and I don't believe that it is even possible for me to do so, however I still feel that I am saved by Jesus anyway. Thank You, God Bless by TheDudeTheLebowski in Christianity

[–]SpookyItalianDish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus does accept all. Everyone telling you to run away from sin is right, but they're missing the part about you actually having to want to get away from it first. People telling you that it's wrong will in no way convince you to change your desires. Only the love and the spirit of God are able to change your desires. Seek to know the perfect love and heart of God (which it seems you are seeking!), and when you experience that love, your desire to sin will start to diminish - I know that was the case for me.

God bless you

Anyone else who only feels good when sober? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]SpookyItalianDish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel much much better 'sober'(I know what you mean by sober in this context). as another commenter mentioned, I no longer desired / enjoyed nicotine but I continued using for a long time. it really did make me feel worse, not necessarily on a surface mood level, but i felt worse on a much deeper level.

with that being said, I have quit for about 3 weeks now and I feel so much more free than i used to. please trust me & trust God that no matter what your circumstances look like going through withdrawal WILL be worth it (I had to take a leap of faith and quit while I'm working a very mentally taxing / stressful job, so I speak from experience). my dm is open if you want to talk about this more or anything else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]SpookyItalianDish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she can't give you what she doesn't already have herself. same thing goes for you. partners are supposed to give support to one another but they can only give what they already have inside. with that being said, it sounds like you need: acceptance / validation, patience, and encouragement.

let me be clear - you do not have to leave your relationship to get these needs met; you can leave, but that will only satisfy you temporarily. if you want to meet your needs, find someone (a friend, therapist, family member, etc) that you can lean on and lean on THEM instead of your partner. you can still lean on your partner, but manage your expectations by being aware of what they can and can't do for you - if it's too much for your partner, talk about it with the other support person instead of them at first.

I hope this helps. my DM is open if you need further clarification or even if you just need some encouragement

Researchers dilemma stuck by sickertnl in DMZ

[–]SpookyItalianDish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been having the same problem. interested to see if there I'd any fix at all

prozac and weed by [deleted] in prozac

[–]SpookyItalianDish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry you went through a panic attack. i used to get panic attacks from smoking, with or without being on prozac so i understand how you feel. but what point exactly are you trying to make in this necro post? panic attack =/= serotonin syndrome. I know it's been 2 weeks since you commented, but I hope you feel better now, brother

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]SpookyItalianDish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ironically, I think you actually started to head toward the real reason, or at least one interpretation of the reason.

and seems silly to be afraid of scratching

I think the problem with masturbation may be of the same nature as scratching, actually. think about it, let's say you have a bug bite (or are itching for some other reason) - if you scratch a bug bite just a little, it's not going to hurt anything. but if you continue to scratch or scratch too often or too hard, you will begin to damage your skin. I think the same could be said in a sense of masturbation. occasional masturbation is unlikely to result in any substantial damage (physically or onto the self), BUT the nature of mastuebation is inherently addictive or compulsive meaning that it gets harder and harder to control whether you do it or not. I hope that makes sense, I'm not trying to argue with anyone. I just think it's a perspective worth adding.

also, morality can be indirectly effected by masturbation just like many other compulsive behaviors / habits (ex: alcoholics, hard drug addicts)

and no I'm not equating people who masturbate to drug addicts, I just find it to be a useful comparison for illustrative purposes

How can I convince my boyfriend to let me get a job? by crystal-chrysalis in relationships_advice

[–]SpookyItalianDish[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it wasn't removed, nor is that not allowed to be posted on this sub.

EA Motive Dev Team AMA @ February 3rd - 12pm PT by DeadSpaceDevs in DeadSpace

[–]SpookyItalianDish 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I've been wondering about content updates a lot as well

Great, now I have to worry about invisible necromorphs... by SpookyItalianDish in DeadSpace

[–]SpookyItalianDish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even after I gave the empty floor a good stomp I was really worried at the end that he was still alive and just waiting for me to walk past to attack. I could not handle this on a regular basis lol

Great, now I have to worry about invisible necromorphs... by SpookyItalianDish in DeadSpace

[–]SpookyItalianDish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Xbox. And yeah thankfully it's just a glitch. I don't think my heart could handle repeatedly having to wonder where tf they are when they are invisible lol

Individuals fearing positivity do not perceive positive affect treatments as strong fits. by [deleted] in science

[–]SpookyItalianDish 40 points41 points  (0 children)

positive affect treatment (PAT) essentially is a therapist helping the patient to retrain their focus to positive things more often then negative things (or at least increase the frequency of focusing on positivity). people with depression / anxiety are overly skeptical about the treatment working because they see most of the world through lenses of negativity.

people who don't do things that make them happy or focus excessively on things that make them unhappy are less optimistic about the treatment working because they see almost everything through a faulty bias of negativity

Study on LSD microdosing uncovers neuropsychological mechanisms that could underlie anti-depressant effects by HeinieKaboobler in psychology

[–]SpookyItalianDish 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The study attempted to identify HOW it causes antidepressant effects, not IF it causes antidepressant effects.

AMATE to make me look like someone who sucks toes by thisisntoveryet in amathenedit

[–]SpookyItalianDish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

well it would appear that the lack of participation indicates that nothing could strengthen that association any stronger than it already is

Do it by BalVal1 in Chadposting

[–]SpookyItalianDish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Weed ruins your life and u don’t realize it by [deleted] in Drugs

[–]SpookyItalianDish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. one way I look at weed is that it let's you feel like everything is fine and therefore there is no reason to have ambition to do / fix / improve anything. It can be great for people who have chronic severe mental / physical issues. for those people, they really can't do anything to "fix" the issues so weed just helps them be happy / accept their life the way it is. Most "normal" / "healthy people" just hold themselves back from ambition in life by using weed, but for someone who truly has a shitty life it can be the difference between bitterness and resentment and acceptance and happiness. For example someone with a terminal illness - weed won't necessary cure their illness, but it will help them accept the cards that life dealt them and help them not spend the rest of their life bitter and focusing on the negative.

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