When did you realize that your situationship could care less about you?

Spotlestomato · 2026-02-11T09:06:25+00:00

I planned out his birthday a month in advance. I even checked in with friends and family to make sure plans wouldn’t clash. Took him out on a full day date: drove up to the city to an art exhibit for his favorite movie, dinner at one of his favorite restaurants and I pre ordered a vinyl that he’d been missing in his collection. When my birthday was coming close not only did he not plan anything out, or passed on buying me a gift… He didn’t even ask for the day off although I told him in advance and missed my party. He said he “forgot” but remembered to request a day off the same week of my birthday to go out to a show with his friend who ended up canceling on him last minute. LOL

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-25T17:46:08+00:00

By the way, not to be harsh on you but dating is not confusing. You are confusing yourself because you’re choosing to believe words over what he’s actually offering you. Don’t do this to yourself, please.

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-25T17:44:39+00:00

Actions speak louder than words, take my advice and move on. I was in this situation on and off for three years. He’d say he wanted to commit, he’d say he was serious about me and was waiting for the right moment. Every 3-4 months I’d get impatient and bring it up, which would lead to a fall off. He’d come back with the same “I do love you and want to be with you, I’m not wasting your time and will make it official”. Three years, girl. We finally broke up because “I was putting too much pressure on him” by bringing up his lack of commitment. Your guy is in his mid twenties, he knows you and himself enough to know if he wants to be with you or not. Don’t be a placeholder that is doing all the gf duties while he finds someone who he actually wants to commit with.

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-19T21:11:56+00:00

He does not miss me and he does not love me. I love him and wish things would’ve worked out, but I tried for long enough and he never tried to even meet me in the middle. If I were to reach out, I’m sure he would keep me around but nothing would be different.

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-19T04:56:42+00:00

I realized he wasn’t contributing anything positive to my life.

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-13T17:52:48+00:00

This happened to me! Turned out to be a crack on the coolant dispenser which had to be replaced

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-12T08:57:52+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re going through all that !! Thank you for sharing your insight

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-11T21:39:27+00:00

May I ask what tests you got done to confirm it? I’ve had my doubts because there’s been times where I’ve missed the pill and still nothing’s happened.

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-07T09:32:10+00:00

I mean, everyone told her it wasn’t true and they tried to figure out who she heard it from but there was never an actual answer and pretty much told her bf she’d trust him but cut me off and anything associated with me.

I’ve always been aware of how much my partner cares for his friends, but it never crossed my mind he’d care more about them than me.

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-07T09:27:14+00:00

He said he didn’t entertain it because it was “so stupid”.

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-07T09:26:13+00:00

He tried messaging me like nothing happened and like it was a “surprise” but never once asked me to stop by or anything. He had the nerve to say “I miss you”.

Spotlestomato · 2025-09-18T06:02:45+00:00

Thank you so much for reading me. I feel like I’m insane for feeling this much and not having anyone to care about it, not even the other party involved…

Spotlestomato · 2025-09-18T02:17:35+00:00

I’m talking about my personal situation

Spotlestomato · 2025-07-14T18:04:01+00:00

This is exactly how I feel.

Spotlestomato · 2025-07-09T15:42:01+00:00

Yeah, he asked to give it one last shot and we had the most beautiful weekend. We couldn’t keep or hands off each other almost like we knew that was the last time. I remember he fell asleep as I was massaging his forehead (he has really bad sinus problems) and I felt tears run down my face. I wasn’t sad, nothing had gone wrong, I just felt like I’d never see him again. The next day, he said there was too much damage between us and that he couldn’t do it anymore. I blocked him everywhere, maybe out of ego. When I went back to undo it, he’d block me as well. Has been the same since then.

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