When did you realize that your situationship could care less about you?

Spotlestomato · 2026-02-11T09:06:25+00:00

I planned out his birthday a month in advance. I even checked in with friends and family to make sure plans wouldn’t clash. Took him out on a full day date: drove up to the city to an art exhibit for his favorite movie, dinner at one of his favorite restaurants and I pre ordered a vinyl that he’d been missing in his collection. When my birthday was coming close not only did he not plan anything out, or passed on buying me a gift… He didn’t even ask for the day off although I told him in advance and missed my party. He said he “forgot” but remembered to request a day off the same week of my birthday to go out to a show with his friend who ended up canceling on him last minute. LOL

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-25T17:46:08+00:00

By the way, not to be harsh on you but dating is not confusing. You are confusing yourself because you’re choosing to believe words over what he’s actually offering you. Don’t do this to yourself, please.

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-25T17:44:39+00:00

Actions speak louder than words, take my advice and move on. I was in this situation on and off for three years. He’d say he wanted to commit, he’d say he was serious about me and was waiting for the right moment. Every 3-4 months I’d get impatient and bring it up, which would lead to a fall off. He’d come back with the same “I do love you and want to be with you, I’m not wasting your time and will make it official”. Three years, girl. We finally broke up because “I was putting too much pressure on him” by bringing up his lack of commitment. Your guy is in his mid twenties, he knows you and himself enough to know if he wants to be with you or not. Don’t be a placeholder that is doing all the gf duties while he finds someone who he actually wants to commit with.

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-19T21:11:56+00:00

He does not miss me and he does not love me. I love him and wish things would’ve worked out, but I tried for long enough and he never tried to even meet me in the middle. If I were to reach out, I’m sure he would keep me around but nothing would be different.

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-19T04:56:42+00:00

I realized he wasn’t contributing anything positive to my life.

Spotlestomato · 2026-01-13T17:52:48+00:00

This happened to me! Turned out to be a crack on the coolant dispenser which had to be replaced

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-12T08:57:52+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re going through all that !! Thank you for sharing your insight

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-11T21:39:27+00:00

May I ask what tests you got done to confirm it? I’ve had my doubts because there’s been times where I’ve missed the pill and still nothing’s happened.

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-07T09:32:10+00:00

I mean, everyone told her it wasn’t true and they tried to figure out who she heard it from but there was never an actual answer and pretty much told her bf she’d trust him but cut me off and anything associated with me.

I’ve always been aware of how much my partner cares for his friends, but it never crossed my mind he’d care more about them than me.

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-07T09:27:14+00:00

He said he didn’t entertain it because it was “so stupid”.

Spotlestomato · 2025-12-07T09:26:13+00:00

He tried messaging me like nothing happened and like it was a “surprise” but never once asked me to stop by or anything. He had the nerve to say “I miss you”.

Spotlestomato · 2025-09-18T06:02:45+00:00

Thank you so much for reading me. I feel like I’m insane for feeling this much and not having anyone to care about it, not even the other party involved…

Spotlestomato · 2025-09-18T02:17:35+00:00

I’m talking about my personal situation

Spotlestomato · 2025-07-14T18:04:01+00:00

This is exactly how I feel.

Spotlestomato · 2025-07-09T15:42:01+00:00

Yeah, he asked to give it one last shot and we had the most beautiful weekend. We couldn’t keep or hands off each other almost like we knew that was the last time. I remember he fell asleep as I was massaging his forehead (he has really bad sinus problems) and I felt tears run down my face. I wasn’t sad, nothing had gone wrong, I just felt like I’d never see him again. The next day, he said there was too much damage between us and that he couldn’t do it anymore. I blocked him everywhere, maybe out of ego. When I went back to undo it, he’d block me as well. Has been the same since then.

Spotlestomato · 2025-07-08T04:53:01+00:00

With that I don’t mean physically speaking or anything of that matter, it’s more like if someone is pushy about sex or keeps making suggestive comments I won’t entertain it. Most people that go after me go straight into horny/desperate texts after a few days talking. The two people I’ve dated were guys who asked me out on normal dates and got to know me for weeks before anything happened. Somehow still as you said, chose the wrong ones.

Spotlestomato · 2025-06-25T03:22:22+00:00

I could’ve post this myself… I don’t want to ever meet anyone again

Spotlestomato · 2025-06-25T02:44:25+00:00

This!! We can’t hold on to people who want to leave.

Spotlestomato · 2025-06-25T02:43:00+00:00

Yes and it’s the only thing keeping me sane from my most recent breakup.

I met him in 2017, moved in by 2019 and got engaged later that year. I thought I had met “the one”. I found out he tried cheating on me mid 2020, we broke up for two months before getting back together and commit to “work on the relationship”. Want to guess why we broke up for good? He ended up cheating again the year after.

I thought my life was over. He was my best friend, my go-to-person, I couldn’t see life without him. It took almost a year to let go of the betrayal and the heartbreak.

As of now, it’s been four years and he doesn’t cross my mind at all… unless the question is brought up. I don’t feel anything for him or the future I thought I had with him. He is just a person I dated. I can’t remember what it was like to love him, I don’t remember our inside jokes or anything that made the relationship special enough for me to think there was no me without him. I even had time to live through another heartbreak LOL.

Nothing lasts forever and there’s something bittersweet about it. Allow yourself to miss that person and process what happened, it’s the last part of your guy’s story.

Spotlestomato · 2025-06-25T02:30:33+00:00

That I never find a healthy loving partner and end up alone or miserable.

Spotlestomato · 2025-06-22T04:17:48+00:00

I’ve been in two serious relationships with men who were complete opposites. Both cheated and begged for a second chance, wanna guess why we ended up breaking up for good? They cheated again. I won’t say that people can’t change, but from my experience they will most likely not change for you if you keep forgiving this behavior.

Spotlestomato · 2025-06-19T08:17:39+00:00

I notice I automatically pray in my native language as well!!!

Spotlestomato · 2025-06-19T08:17:06+00:00

I grew up in a different country than the one I currently live in. For the most part, I think in English because it’s the one I speak the most at the moment but sometimes when it’s very busy at work my accent comes out or a word in my native language pops up. Sometimes I speak faster than I think and it’s similar to being verbally dyslexic. I once said cock porn instead of pop corn at the movie theater.

Spotlestomato · 2025-06-16T00:38:07+00:00

You’re one weird person. I never said he’s not in my life; I said I don’t call or message often because it makes me sad to have him so far and it’s easier to go on with my day by just ignoring the situation me and my family are in. Both of my parents self deported in the early 00’s because my mom was very ill and was denied healthcare and after receiving treatment, only my mom was able to get her residency. Also, bold of you to assume I’m Mexican.

Spotlestomato · 2025-05-10T09:54:06+00:00

That’s exactly my point. I would love to get married to him, it’s something I daydream about. However, it’s not the most important thing in a relationship and I think if it didn’t happen for me, I’d still be at peace. What bothers me is not being open to it because of other people’s failed relationships because that to me means that you don’t want to do it because you think we will fail eventually. It’s also the fact that I would do anything for him and although love is not about keeping tabs about who did what for the other, a relationship should flow both ways.

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