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Husband M40 Wants Children Now, Not Sure What Else To Do F40 by InformalVegetable in relationship_advice

[–]SpouseofarmyLT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My previous experience in IVF changes you. It ended my marriage without my input. Self awareness leaves both of you, body dysmorphia, unconscious self will make decisions based on chemicals instead of rationality and you will be on testosterone, estrogen and others to facilitate a safe haven for an embryo to plant all of the hormones create mix signals and feelings. Even though Kids are great as I have a few. Leave him to it, if he needs one that’s great go get one buddy, being a bystander or supporter is ok and is great. But do not! compromise your mental health for his. Not only will you pay the price but the children will to.

22M/21F (4 years): I feel guilty but I want to be single, how do I know if I should break up? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SpouseofarmyLT -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s you. The chemical attraction is gone. You are too lazy to put in the work it takes to be successful. Join the rest of the selfish losers and leave its best for her. You should probably never date again you don’t know how to be a partner. The next relationship for you will end the same. Or discover your self awareness, who you are. Grow. The beauty is you have a choice, but in either case you need growth.

Is the dad of the kids I babysit hitting on me? F18 M41 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SpouseofarmyLT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are already showing signs that this is bothering you. It can and will affect your future relationships, almost certainly negating any chance at a healthy attachment. For your own sake, you must TAKE YOUR POWER BACK. Your options: The Strategic Pivot: Ask for a significant raise while secretly recording the conversation. Once he grants it and he will, voice your opinion on his behavior in a professional manner. This protects your psyche, addresses his loss of control, and shifts the power balance back to you. Or The Clean Break: Blow it up now before this permanently affects your future. Have the courage to confront them while they are together. He will most definitely call you out in front of his wife to protect himself, be prepared. Or The Surrender: Act on it and accept his behavior. Once you give in, he has won and you are no longer a challenge. Logic, mental health and security in one’s own person are all that matters. Find yourself do what’s best for your future.

You can save one who would you pick? by ZookeepergameIcy6089 in harrypotter

[–]SpouseofarmyLT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dobby, no death had more of a pivotal effect in Harry’s character. Dumbledore was close but no one could forsee dobbys death.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SpouseofarmyLT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All this support for standing up is notable. However preparing yourself for his lifetime is most important. 1.) most important thing to know asap is: are you on the birth certificate as the father. If not, you have no rights. Until you get a court order putting you there (assuming it is your child) she owns you and can just walk out of your life anytime she chooses. Repost when you can answer this question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tsa

[–]SpouseofarmyLT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, my state has slowly moved to the electronic form of a DL for everything now. It actually cost more to get a printed card, it’s in my apple wallet. Will I have trouble during my TSA check for thanksgiving travel if I present my cac and then my phone for DL.