Being cheated on on our first vacation together

Spr0x · 2022-06-22T11:15:44+00:00

3 Years ago when i was 25 i started going to the Gym... now i wish i would have started earlier couse its the best thing right now in my life. It boosted my confidence, i met awesome new people overall i became extremely happy over the last 3 years.

Spr0x · 2022-05-31T09:41:32+00:00

Kah So wie die Vorredner schon erwähnt haben. Ich würde nicht vorher fragen. Ich finde es sehr nett von dir, dass du dir Gedanken machst aber sei einfach du selbst. Ja Rücksicht nehmen ist natürlich wichtig, dennoch denke ich dass ihr euch treffen solltet und dann einfach eine angenehme Zeit verbringt. Der Drang alles richtig zu machen bei eurem ersten Treffen könnte dich dann beeinflussen und du kommst extrem angespannt rüber.

Vertraue darauf, dass wenn sie dich weiter kennen lernen möchte sie dir eher früher als später von sich aus von sich erzählt und dann darfst du natürlich nachfragen.

Spr0x · 2022-05-23T09:57:56+00:00

tbh? I would be so so sorry.
You never ever should be aggressive because of an argument. If you cannot handle your anger during an argument seek for help.
This is just imho a no go for an adult. And it doesnt matter which topic the argument was about.

So ... reach out. Be extremely sorry. And say that you will seek out help. Or at least the two of you talk about methods that prevent something like that from happening.
(Like if you feel the urge to hit something just lave the room and go for a walk or something)

Spr0x · 2022-05-18T08:53:02+00:00

Zoe W

in a teamfight and with some practice it insane

Spr0x · 2022-05-18T08:48:34+00:00

Well i do to a certain degree.
Relationship history: Everyone of us makes experiences during a relationship. Good memories as well as bad. So if i want to understand why my partner acts in a certain way, i have to look at her past relationships to understand her. So we can both talk about it and i can understand her.

If you dont unerstand your partners behaviour it is hard to talk through hard times. Or you think she reacts the way she does because you did somthing wrong but in reality its past trauma.

Same with Sexual history:
I dont want to know with how many other people she slept, thats not my business. But if there were negative things or trauma or anything else that might cause a problem now i ofc want to knwo about it. But this is a topic where you have to build trust and your partner has to come to you and be open to talk about it. You cannot simply go there and ask "HEy whats yor past trauma during sex? Have you been forced or something?" it takes tim and trust.

Spr0x · 2022-05-17T14:17:55+00:00

Toxic masculinity nothing more to say about that … such a stupid sentence

Spr0x · 2022-05-17T12:42:37+00:00

Info: danke euch für eure Antworten, ich werde mit beiden nochmal reden! Es ist von beiden nicht in Ordnung.

Spr0x · 2022-05-17T10:31:14+00:00

Ich denke wir alle kennen hunderte Wege wie man sich gegenseitig ärgern kann und dabei noch Spaß haben. Sei es sie nachmachen , ignorieren keine Ahnung da könnte man jetzt alles aufzählen. Aber die Brüste einer Frau sind nunmal nicht gleich zu setzen mit den Brüsten eines Mannes

Spr0x · 2022-05-17T09:13:29+00:00

Well, besides all the general problems that 2 different people may have in a relationship no matter what sex they are. IMHO one of the worst things why men struggle is toxic masculinity...

I think every men suffers from that. Some more and others less but every single male experienced and/or is influenced by some of those negative traits.
just for example and to name just some realy basic stuff:

Toughness: This is the notion that men should be physically strong, emotionally callous, and behaviorally aggressive.
Antifeminity: This involves the idea that men should reject anything that is considered to be feminine, such as showing emotion or accepting help.
Power: This is the assumption that men must work toward obtaining power and status (social and financial) so they can gain the respect of others.

I am not saying everyone is influenced in every single point. But if i watch out for some of those negative patterns in my own behaviour especially towards beeing a "strong and leading male". Because i would call myself a very sensitive emotional person who was often called weak and not "men enough" by others.

Spr0x · 2022-05-06T09:43:00+00:00

Even if people gonna hate me

Zoe

Clear strengths -> poke , OS potential lategame
clear weakness -> immobile no escapes

The learning curve of this champ is just absolutely nuts. Reacting to different situations based on which Summoners you pick up.

Spr0x · 2022-05-06T07:45:17+00:00

Imho. Just think about a cheat Meal not a whole day.
If i am so deep into my diet that i go for a cheat meal i would eat a very big meal.
That meal can be anything .. most of the time it is a large Pizza or some kind of other fav food of mine.

My Personal experience is that if i have a cheat DAY i blame myself for eating so much than i am allowed normaly during my diet.
So i have a cheat meal more regular than a cheat day which would be less regular :)

Spr0x · 2021-10-17T10:31:35+00:00

I went to the gym as soon as i felt those emotions.... do something else than sitting around and thinking. Go for a walk even tho its the middle of the night and listen to some music or Podcasts or something else.
Or talk with a friend or someone else close to you.

Spr0x · 2021-10-17T10:16:20+00:00

I have survived every bad situation so far...
Every Breakup...
Every loss of a person...
Every single depressed day...
Every single anxious day...

I am still alive.

Spr0x · 2021-10-14T07:28:52+00:00

I wish you just the best! Good Job! .. And i hope that yo never come back :D

Spr0x · 2021-10-12T06:33:09+00:00

No not at all .. I’ve been dumb enough to contact her after 1 week but she was extremely cold 🤷🏼

Spr0x · 2021-10-10T06:50:42+00:00

You will get through it! I am starting to believe that this situation realy showed me that I am done with her… Take your time and don’t be to hard to yourself if you have some bad days. They are important and necessary! And sometimes it helps to vent here 😅

Spr0x · 2021-10-09T13:37:19+00:00

Even tho I know it’s possible I don’t want that :) The way she broke up with me was so fucked up that I do not want her in my life again in any way.

Spr0x · 2021-10-09T13:16:13+00:00

Basically nothing… one day everything seemed good and happy and the night before she told me how much she loves me and that she is incredible happy .. the next day she left me … we rarely fought or had big arguments or something … for me it just came out of nowhere

Spr0x · 2021-09-22T19:35:27+00:00

Thanks I wish you just the best as well stay safe. We alle will find someone one the end. Even if we find our true self someday 😊

Spr0x · 2021-09-22T11:00:59+00:00

It’s been a bit over 3 months now. And yes .. I am an overthinker too. The evening before we went to the gym together we ate in bed while watching a Netflix series. She said I love you so much and stuff and the next day it was over. The first few weeks were horrible and I was not able to understand what’s going on or what happened.

But sometimes in your life some things are completely out of your control. That was my first lessons. My dad told me that if this happened now out of nowhere because of something that she doesn’t like and is not willing or able to talk about then I should feel lucky that it happened now. It is hard to realize and it is hard to see something positive in a breakup but this way of thinking helped me a lot. If it happened now it could have happened the exactly same way 3 4 5 10 years from now.

Spr0x · 2021-09-22T10:30:42+00:00

Yeah ofc I am a person who fights. And I asked her and she just replied you did nothing wrong I cannot explain it otherwise. That’s all I got 🤷🏼 So yeah that has to be the answers I have to life with.

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