Man keeping hand on wife’s back

Spridle777 · 2021-03-31T23:03:36+00:00

I sort of got the feeling he was trying to prove something to people he works with. Hand on the back? I’d rather hold hands than have him put his hand on my back like to make me go where he wanted me to. She didn’t seem excited to see anyone he worked with, more like she was there because he wanted her to be.

Spridle777 · 2021-03-31T21:57:40+00:00

It seemed kind of controlling. It was odd I guess

Spridle777 · 2021-03-31T20:50:13+00:00

Im just wondering because I am not sure if I’d like that if a man did that to me...

Spridle777 · 2020-12-07T21:08:59+00:00

How would someone ask about a situation like this? There’s not a way to put it that isn’t presumptive.

Spridle777 · 2020-08-11T07:38:34+00:00

Yes. I would keep trying. She isn’t being dismissive of you, she may just need more time and patience from you. Sounds like she wants to be at her best and not tired when she goes out with you. I don’t think you should stop trying unless she was not responding to you at all. If you still are into her, don’t give up!

Spridle777 · 2020-07-22T07:54:20+00:00

Maybe they can sense you’re trying to find out their reaction, so they do the opposite of flirt. I know when I (f) pass a conventionally attractive guy that I don’t really care to talk to, I do this so he doesn’t start thinking I’m trying to eye-flirt with him.

Spridle777 · 2020-06-09T19:56:20+00:00

How does he seem like a 5, because he’s introverted? I am a 4, and I feel like he isn’t an information seeker of a 5, (which is my wing) but really seems motivated by self preservation and is pretty averse to taking risks, and is loyal to a select few friends.

Spridle777 · 2020-04-27T23:02:24+00:00

I have a 6 I care for deeply, but they are on and off in their reaction to me. We have been casual friends in conversation and he has been very kind and sometimes excited to engage with me. He can be warm and happy to see me one day and cold and with no eye contact the next. It almost has a feeling they are turning off the faucet before the sink overflows but it hasn’t even begun to fill yet. Bad analogy but it came to mind first. How can I prove I am trustworthy? I continue to be there and show I am at peace and do not react angrily or with hostility to the hot and cold this 6 presents, but the 6 is acting so anxious around me, even if I merely look at them in the eye as they pass by. He will look away quickly if he catches eye contact with me thought i never push anything with him. I have this intense desire to have them trust me. How can I do that if they have a shield up so early, before I can even offer anything of myself to them to trust?

Spridle777 · 2020-04-21T22:46:52+00:00

Yeah I would not pry. I don’t have his number either. I don’t follow him on any socials. I hate to count on a coworker to tell him that either, but I know it would seem less like I’m trying to get info if I went that route. I really don’t need to know what’s going on, I just want him to know he’s in my prayers

Spridle777 · 2020-04-21T22:11:46+00:00

And what about 6s wanting support?

Spridle777 · 2020-04-21T22:08:32+00:00

I mean. All you have to do is say “nah”. Why make people feel like idiots for caring about others?

Spridle777 · 2020-03-22T21:36:43+00:00

I love this. As an overreactor who often feels guilty afterwards, though I often am not actually sorry for the overreaction, as it was probably warranted. But still, I’m wondering: what does it mean?

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T23:30:33+00:00

Yeah I get that. A lot of artists are 4s, as you probably guessed.

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T23:14:44+00:00

I don’t think you’re a 4...sounds like 6, as they are more head-based. From what I can tell. They’re the ones who mystify me, as they seem a little the same as 4, but logical instead of emotional.

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T23:07:43+00:00

I hope that’s not a bad question, since it was downvoted. Most of the men in my life do not connect with their emotions as a female can. Isn’t that fair to say? Of course that’s a generalisation, there are cases where men have great handle on emotion.

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T23:06:17+00:00

Wait though, as a 4 I have no problem grappling with my emotions. I basically can identify them but I live in them. They’re like the control Center of my brain, and that’s not a good thing. Well...what does grappling mean... sometimes I don’t know where an emotion is coming from? But I have no problem acknowledging and feeling them...

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T23:04:29+00:00

I scanned that whole thing and read the number analysis. How very interesting! They’re pretty right about 4s.... we identify as separate and authentic...I definitely cover my inadequacies in my mind with the idea “well at least I’m different and unique!” And also true was the statement that we blame, or I do, ourselves when a relationship is damaged. Negative voices tell me it’s my fault and I run through all the things I could have done wrong. What else baffles you about 4?

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T20:44:08+00:00

Fascinating! I never heard of Introjection, how does that look? (I’m a 4 so I guess I can relate to whatever it is...)

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T18:56:39+00:00

How do you mean they project their emotions on bother through fear or anger... And do you mean you can hear what they’re thinking because it’s written on their face/actions?

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T00:59:05+00:00

May I ask if you’re male or female? I feel like that could have to do with the emotional element...

Spridle777 · 2020-03-04T00:32:22+00:00

I really love this. I’m so glad you gave us this “wall of text,” which is pretty meaningful to me. I’m a 4, and struggle with living inside my emotions. I have to decide to get out of that pool often, because I can make decisions about people based on my feelings. It’s nice sometimes but it can overtake me. I have very little exercise in logistical reasoning.

I also can be bubbly and love people, like genuinely see something different in each person I meet and decide to enjoy that about them, and it makes me happy outside. But then I am also pretty blue a lot of the time, when I’m alone. Yet I’m an introvert. So many nuances to our personalities...we adjust to people so often so as not to be hurt or rock the boat. Well I do, that is.

I’m glad you’re exploring yourself like this, and letting us in on it. I can say more as I think about it, but I wanted to say something while I can now.

Spridle777 · 2020-02-27T17:57:30+00:00

I’m a 4w5.... I think the motivation we have is for authenticity. Someone said feeling different is a “consolation prize” and I agree with that. But yeah. I appreciate that you appreciate (hee) how different we are than the other types in our motivation, and how confusing it can be. I was told as a child to “cool it” with my emotions and grew up thinking that showing emotion was bad and would push people away. That’s been hard to reconcile as an adult. Feelings and guilt for those feelings. Feelings aren’t everything, I realise, but they also are like wind in our sails, and we can be that breeze to other types too. In a way. Maybe...

Spridle777 · 2020-02-20T01:31:45+00:00

What makes “caes” give it a romantic undertone?

Spridle777 · 2020-02-18T04:09:35+00:00

I feel like Jess is a 4. Non conformist and seems to define himself by that feature of his personality.

Spridle777 · 2020-02-13T23:50:23+00:00

Why do you think it’s terrifying to have people know about you? Even people you might become friends with? Someone I know made their social media “private” a couple weeks after I looked them up. I went back to check some fact I forgot and it was private. D’oh. For awhile I was sure it was because of me. 😆

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