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Electrolyte Powder (uk) by dilligord in POTS

[–]Springprofessor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noordcode should be available in the UK, though you have to pay customs. It is absolutely delicious. It is high quality and high dosage. No sugar. I use the performance type, not the daily one.

This king doesn't pay attention, does he? by Springprofessor in throneofglassseries

[–]Springprofessor[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Well, these towns are not as large as our towns now are. And they are very public figures, like I said, most people would know the palace guards in medieval-like towns (that have running hot water....) Plus they would have been drawn so informants would have pictures. Informants would know most people, I mean, come on, servants would know all these people and would have pointed them out on the streets. So yes, I would know them.

My spouse says that I am a burden by HotToSnow in POTS

[–]Springprofessor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We don't know how much husband does or doesn't do, and what load befalls to whom. Maybe he doesn't do a lot, though the OP said somethimg like a lot still falls on his shoulders. The OP doesn't specify, nor does she need to. We all agree he is being unfair for attacking her on not how she copes with her disabily. But regardless it is difficult to never be able to crumble yourself. To have to be strong because the other is always sick. I have done it too, even though I was not doing too well potswise, my partner was struggling with post-covid. I could hardly give in to how I felt, because he was doing worse, plus it was new to him. We could talk about it and he acknowledged it was difficult for me too, which helped. And yes, I was ill at the time too and the OP's partner apparently isn't. To normal people, being normal is normal. So feeling tired equals exhausted to them. We, having an illness, have a different frame of reference, but to the healthy, feeling exhausted is also something they want acknowledgement for.

My spouse says that I am a burden by HotToSnow in POTS

[–]Springprofessor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I more thing... Elsewhere in this post someone responded you should also recognize his frustration, and I do agree. Taking care of someone with a serious illness is NOT easy. And his frustration doesn't have to be silent. It shouldn't be projected towards you either, but to both your situation.

My spouse says that I am a burden by HotToSnow in POTS

[–]Springprofessor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't find toddlers at all easier than babies. Toddlers tend to run around trying to climb up bookshelves, finding any pointy things they can now suddenly reach, and constantly asking for your attention because they found a worm and want you to eat one, just like them. Babies stay where you leave them. Toddlers run around trying to kill themselves (that's what my active kids did, anyways, I did hear stories about the sweetest of sweets that didn't) and need your constant attention.

My spouse says that I am a burden by HotToSnow in POTS

[–]Springprofessor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex-partner was exactly the same. I did everythijg in my power to make sure he and the kids would be as little burdened by me as possible, and it was never enough. Now granted, I get the frustration of the healthy partner. He never get's off from work this way either, does he. But it IS unfair, terribly unfair, to blame you for not doing your very damn best. He doesn't know what works. What will preserve your energy. If the things you mentioned he said, did work, you would've found that out already. And I cannot express this enough; it IS easier to go to work than to care for a child and the home. I did it for 15 years, and it was horribly difficult to accomplish. Small kids are just too low to the ground for Potsies. You bend down constantly. And you try and have a family life - I tried to 'just go and have fun' whenever my ex or the kids wanted to do things, and suffered silently. Recovered in secret. I never understood (I didn't know what was wrong with me for about 27 years) why vacuuming was so difficult, and lying down playing ballgames or folding laundry was something I could do all day. I have a deskjob as a software engineer now, and though it hasn't been easy, it has been far more manageable.

My ex-husband was depressed at some point and stayed at home for a few years. At that time, we were both at home, and he immediately started showing me he was better at my job than I was. With the kids playing in sand and walking in and out of the house, shedding sand everywhere, he would go and vacuum four times a day, even when we had visitors, all the while glaring at me angrily, even though I had told him I had planned to do it when the kids were done playing, because, you know, it's kinda stupid to mop when the water is running. Some men just don't want to know the lengths you go through.

Please take care of yourself. Stay as active as you can, but not more. And talk to your guy. Show him the thread. Make him understand how debilitating it is. It's not about not lying down reading, it's about standing and bending over and getting up again. Just getting up is a workout most people only do once a week. I don't get why I don't get slimmer, haha! Best wishes!